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Navigating The Busy Season: A Guide To Practicing Mindfulness

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Life’s a wild ride, isn’t it? Some days, it’s like walking on a rainbow, while others feel more like a whirlwind of endless tasks that make you feel like you’re running a never-ending marathon. During those turbo-charged times, finding a smidge of calm can seem as difficult as finding a needle in a haystack. But let me let you in on a little secret: it’s exactly during these fast-paced times that mindfulness plays its trump card.

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Plan And Prioritize

Each morning, before you leap into the day, spend a quiet moment setting an intention. It could be as straightforward as saying, “Today, I will keep my cool, no matter what.” Next up, it’s time to tackle your to-do list – but smartly. Highlight what needs your attention the most. You’ll be acting instead of reacting, and trust me, that feels so much better.

Breathe And Pause

Ever noticed how your breath is like your trusty sidekick? Always there, right when you need it. So in those intense, I-can’t-catch-a-breath moments, it’s time to get back to basics. Take a break, breathe in deeply, hold for a sec, and then breathe out. This nifty trick, also known as diaphragmatic breathing, is like your personal stress-busting superhero that you can call upon anytime you need.

Mindful Eating

Here’s a thought: when life turns into a whirlwind, meal times often feel like just another task. But what if we turned them into an opportunity to practice mindfulness? Next time you’re eating, really savour your food. Enjoy its colour, texture, and aroma. Take in all the flavours as you chew. Not only will you be more present, but your tummy and overall health will thank you too!

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Mindful Chores

What if we could turn everyday tasks into mini-moments of mindfulness? Sounds intriguing, right? Be it folding laundry, washing dishes, or sweeping the floor, start focusing on what you’re doing and how it feels. Watch how these routine chores turn into peaceful pockets of mindfulness.

Harness The Power Of Music

Who doesn’t love a bit of background music, right? It can be a great buddy when practising mindfulness. Can’t find the right tracks? Why not explore torrent sites for music or check out mindfulness apps that offer chill playlists? You’ll be surprised how the right music can set the tone for your day.

Seek Solitude

Carving out a bit of ‘me-time’ can be a total game-changer in a busy day. Find a quiet spot at home or a peaceful corner in a park, or even just a cosy nook in your office. Spend 10-15 minutes there, soaking in your thoughts or maybe doing some journaling. It’s like finding an oasis of calm in a desert of busyness.

Guided Meditation

New to mindfulness? Guided meditations are like a helping hand, guiding you through the practice. There are tons of apps and online platforms that offer step-by-step sessions. Even just 5 minutes can help you relax and clear your mind. Give it a go, and you’ll see what I mean.

Connect With Nature

Ever spent a moment just soaking in the great outdoors? The sun on your face, the wind in your hair – it’s like nature’s own brand of mindfulness. Next time you’re feeling stressed, try spending a few minutes outside. Feel the breeze, listen to the birds, watch the clouds. You’ll be surprised at how grounded and peaceful you’ll feel.

Laugh It Off

We’ve all heard the saying, “Laughter is the best medicine,” and boy, is it true! A good chuckle can cut stress, boost your mood, and even improve your health. So when things get tough, find a reason to giggle. Share a joke, watch a funny clip, or play with your pet – because nothing brings you into the present moment quite like a good belly laugh.

Digital Detox

Let’s face it, we’re pretty much attached to our devices these days. But taking a digital detox – even if it’s just for an hour – can do wonders for your mindfulness practice. Switch off your devices and do something offline. Read a book, cook a meal, or just enjoy a hot drink. Your mind will thank you.

Progress, Not Perfection

Last but definitely not least, remember this: mindfulness isn’t about becoming a Zen master or having an empty mind. It’s about being aware of your thoughts and emotions, and gently bringing them back to the now. And sure, your mind will wander – that’s just part of the deal! But the key isn’t perfection; it’s progress.

So, even when the pace of life tries to sweep you off your feet, remember you’ve got the tools to stay grounded. Mindfulness isn’t a quick escape from life’s busyness, but a secret weapon to navigate it more effectively. So take a moment, breathe, and just be. It’s like discovering your own personal island of calm amidst the hustle and bustle of life.

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Helping Little Kids Manage Big Emotions

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Parenting is the most challenging job in the world. Children need love, attention, patience, meals, clothes, guidance, boundaries – all before 8.30 am. It’s exhausting, draining. But also incredibly rewarding.

I’ve seen other parents talking about how to handle toddler emotions. But we’ve recently experienced the full force of raw emotions, coming from my feisty little pumpkin. She is full of sass at the best of times – it’s just her personality! But these recent emotions, which she is clearly unable to handle, are coming across as anger and moodiness.

As a parent, it’s easy to react in these situations (trust me I have, we all have – no parent is perfect). But the correct way to deal with this situation is to help your toddler handle the feelings they are experiencing. Put simply, they don’t know how to do it themselves. I’m in my late 30’s and sometimes I can’t handle my own emotions. As such, we’ve recently explained to her that adults also struggle with emotions and created some emotion cards to help her communicate how she is feeling.

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Let’s explore the range of emotions your toddler might be feeling:

Anger

Fear

Sadness

Boredom

Happiness

Excitement

Tiredness

Confusion

This is not an exhaustive list. We know as adults, there are many more emotions we deal with on a daily basis.

I wanted to share some of the tips and tools we’ve used:

Children sometimes don’t have the tools or vocabulary, or actions to communicate emotions effectively. it is up to us as adults to help them communicate effectively. And sometimes verbally speaking about it just isn’t something they are equipped to do yet. How many adults do you know who struggle to verbalise their emotions? I know a lot!

As a family, we are all going to benefit from these tools we’ve put in place, to effectively communicate our emotions.

Emotion Flash Cards

I was going to buy some of these. However, being okay at designing, due to running three blogs and a t-shirt business (all self-taught), I thought I would have a go at creating some myself. And of course, as a blogger, I will be sharing them with you all. In the hope they also help other parents out there.

Feel free to click download below, for access to the flashcards.

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Check out my blog post – 14 Age Appropriate Chores to Encourage Independence

These cards are great because sometimes toddlers need adults to question, help or prompt them. To start a conversation about how they are feeling. When they are unable to initiate this. I’ve started off by printing some of the cards, to see how well they work. But, I’ve included a full set for you to download.

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I’ve already arranged mine in the living room. In an easily accessible place.

As a family. we’ve agreed that if we are struggling to express our emotions, we will show someone the card. And we can start a discussion about how we are feeling.

Read my blog posts about our journey with gentle parenting:

5 THINGS THAT HAPPENED WHEN WE STARTED GENTLE PARENTING

IS GENTLE PARENTING EFFECTIVE? READ OUR STORY

Explaining it’s okay to not be happy all the time

As someone who struggles mentally, with anxiety and depression, I’ve now accepted the fact that as humans, we are not all happy all of the time. It’s important to feel our full range of emotions, as and when they come up. Being happy is a wonderful feeling. And as a family, we try and create as many happy family memories as we can. However, it’s natural we will all feel tired, scared, alone, and sad at various times throughout an average week.

There are many factors which can impact your emotions. Due to the health conditions we face as adults, sometimes our communication can be poor and as human beings, we lash out.

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For a while now, we’ve explained to my toddler, that it is normal and completely okay to feel these other emotions. And to become frustrated in the moment, when we don’t know how to deal with them.

Fight or flight is a real thing. A pre-historic reaction to stressful situations. We often cannot control it.

Equipped with this knowledge, we humans need to give ourselves more credit. And accept we will sometimes react in the moment and apologise later.

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Finding safe & appropriate ways to manage emotions

If my little one is sad, moody or tired we talk about cuddling and laying down to have a nap. And I explain ‘Mummy is also tired and it’s okay to feel this way’. Luckily, she has a few days with us during the week, where she can relax and chill out if this is what she wants to do.

Set a good example

Toddlers learn about managing their emotions by watching us. As adults, it is our responsibility to set a good example of how to behave. However, as humans, we don’t always get it right.

Something we do as parents is apologise if we displayed incorrect behaviour. And we talk as a family about why we did that.

Other great online resources to deal with emotions

CBeebies

BBC videos exploring emotions

BBC Bitesize emotions & feelings

Books to help you on your parenting journey

Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed reading about how we put tools in place to manage my toddler’s emotions.

Do you use different techniques?

How is it working for you?

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5 Quirky Gift Ideas For Your Loved Ones

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I wanted to share with you some unique and quirky gift ideas I’ve been trying out. Whether you need an idea for a birthday, wedding, or a treat for a friend – I have you covered.

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Please note – some of the items featured were sent for me to review – all thoughts are my own

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Let’s Dive into the Quirky Gift gift ideas…

KIND2 – Shampoo & Conditioner Bars

I was kindly sent these shampoo and conditioner bars to try. My hubby and I have different types of hair. But we both tried them and were impressed.

The bar lathers up and the foam isn’t too overpowering, but it works. They also dry quickly so you can keep them in a dish to use next time.

I have very dry, frizzy hair and these products still nourished my hair – which can be quite difficult to achieve, with some products.

Overall, I would purchase these bars again, or as a gift for a loved one. The sustainability element impresses me. Just imagine all the single-use plastic we go through, with beauty products alone. Something MUST change.

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Rachel Jennings – handmade jewellery – Etsy

I was kindly sent these items from an Etsy seller, who contacted me about her business. I love the keyring and the earrings are so unique.

I love visiting markets, and small independent stores, to find an item which is so unique, only a handful of other people will purchase it.

You can read more of my quirky and unique gift ideas below:

10 UNIQUE MENKIND GIFTS FOR THE SPECIAL MAN IN YOUR LIFE

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX FOR YOUR VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT

Why not visit Etsy and check out some independent sellers?

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Cheerful Buddha

I was recently contacted by Cheerful Buddha who kindly sent a gift pack to try. Having tried their products before, I can confirm their coffee is great.

On their website, you will find Cheerful Buddha CBD coffee

And there is a discount code for us to use.

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Quirky Gift Ideas

Mini Twister from Waterstones

How unique is this game? You could buy this as a family gift. A date night gift, or as a gift for yourself. We all need a treat sometimes.

I can imagine hours of fun with this!

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The Goonies Hey You Guys! Square Cushion – My Geek Box

I used to love watching The Goonies at my friend’s house. We watched it a good 100 times over the years – no joke!

We also love geeky items in our house and I know loads of other people who do too.

Check out all the cushions at mygeekbox.co.uk

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Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed reading about my unique and quirky gift ideas, for your loved ones.

Which is your favourite?

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How to Nurture Cognitive Development through Play

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Nurture Cognitive Development through Play

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Play is not only a source of fun and enjoyment for children but also an essential way of stimulating cognitive growth. Children’s play with a wide range of activities will challenge their minds, promote problem-solving, and enhance cognitive skills. Let’s explore the significance of play in nurturing cognitive development and provide you with some practical tips to maximize the cognitive benefits of play.

Imaginative Play Expands Creativity and Language Skills

Imaginative play, including activities like role-playing and pretend play, invites children to craft intricate scenarios, characters, and narratives from their creativity. Such engagement not only sparks their inventive potential but also nurtures abstract thinking and language skills development. Children become mini storytellers, weaving complicated plots and stepping into diverse roles and perspectives. 

While immersing themselves in the vibrant world of imaginative play, children also get a chance to explore emotions, enhancing their understanding and expression of feelings. Thus, their cognitive abilities, encompassing problem-solving, communication, and critical thinking skills, experience a considerable boost.

Construction Play Builds Spatial Awareness and Problem-Solving Skills

Construction play, involving building blocks, puzzles, and construction sets, promotes cognitive development in several ways. Children learn to analyze shapes, sizes, and spatial relationships as they manipulate and connect pieces together. This type of play enhances problem-solving skills as children face challenges in building structures or completing puzzles. Additionally, construction play encourages fine motor skills, hand-eye coordination, and logical thinking, laying a strong foundation for cognitive development.

Nurture Cognitive Development through Play

Games and Puzzles Strengthen Memory and Strategic Thinking

Games and puzzles are excellent tools for nurturing cognitive development. Memory games, card games, and puzzles help children enhance their memory skills as they try to remember patterns, sequences, or rules. Strategic board games cultivate critical thinking and decision-making abilities as children strategize, plan, and predict outcomes. These games engage children in problem-solving, reasoning, and analytical thinking, boosting their cognitive skills while having fun.

Sensorial Play Engages the Senses for Cognitive Growth

Sensorial play, involving sensory experiences like sand play, water play, or exploring different textures, stimulates cognitive growth. Children engage their senses and develop observation skills as they explore the properties of different materials. They learn to categorize objects based on texture, weight, or temperature, enhancing their ability to classify and differentiate. Sensorial play supports cognitive development by strengthening neural connections and fostering cognitive flexibility.

Nurture Cognitive Development through Play

Montessori toys for 2-year-olds are excellent resources for sensorial play, aligning perfectly with their cognitive development needs. These toys are designed to engage multiple senses, allowing children to explore various textures, shapes, and sizes. Toys such as sensory balls, shape sorters, and puzzles provide opportunities for children to strengthen their observation skills, practice fine motor control, and develop problem-solving abilities. With these toys, children enhance their cognitive growth as they categorize objects based on texture, weight, or temperature, promoting their ability to classify and differentiate, all while enjoying a fun and enriching play experience. 

Nurture Cognitive Development through Play

Outdoor Play Enhances Cognitive Skills and Physical Development

Outdoor play not only benefits physical development but also plays a significant role in cognitive growth. Outdoor environments provide rich sensory experiences, diverse stimuli, and opportunities for exploration. Children engage in active play, developing gross motor skills, coordination, and balance. They also encounter new challenges, problem-solving situations, and social interactions, stimulating cognitive development. Outdoor play fosters creativity, critical thinking, and adaptability, contributing to holistic cognitive growth.

Guided Play Facilitates Cognitive Development through Supportive Engagement

Guided play involves adults or educators providing structure, guidance, and support during playtime. This approach promotes cognitive development by scaffolding children’s learning and encouraging deeper engagement. Adults can pose open-ended questions, offer suggestions, and provide additional resources to enhance cognitive thinking. By actively participating in guided play, adults foster language development, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills while nurturing cognitive growth.

Play holds tremendous potential for nurturing cognitive development in children. Whether through imaginative play, construction play, games and puzzles, sensorial play, outdoor play, or guided play, children engage in experiences that foster cognitive growth.

As educators and parents, we have the chance to foster a culture that values play and all of its cognitive advantages. We can unleash the full potential of children’s minds by embracing play as an important instrument for cognitive development, encouraging their cognitive capacities, and putting them on a route to success and lifelong learning.

About the author: Stella van Lane is a mum of three, and a passionate writer, in love with coffee, interior design, and books. She is also a dedicated Mental Health Advocate and has been actively involved in raising awareness about mental health issues and promoting mental well-being.

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Great blogs sure to put a spring in your step in April

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It’s now time for me to share other people’s wonderful blogs and hopefully put a spring in your step.

Please go and show my April 2022 advertisers some love, by commenting, sharing their posts, and interacting with one another. I regularly post on Twitter about the blogging community and how it is great to be part of such a supportive group of people.

There is something for everyone in this bunch.

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Positive Thinking For Beginners

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A little bit about the blog

After hitting rock bottom and realising that there was only one way to go from here, I looked for ways I could turn my life around. Positive Thinking kept showing itself to me through books, TV, conversations, everywhere I went. I eventually took a look into it and realised that I would need to start right at the very beginning, learning positivity and unlearning negativity. My life looks very different now and I created Positive Thinking for Beginners to help others begin their journey.

Blog posts you should check out

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A little bit about the blog

I am a supportive motivator as a coach, and I’ve always loved being around people from all over the world. I’m a transformational life coach and happy to help you reach your goals for a richer, more fulfilling life. Likewise, I help people understand gain self-awareness so they can figure out what’s keeping them stuck, which limiting beliefs hold them back, or what emotional meets are not getting met so they can understand how to create better boundaries and standards in their relationships. In particular, I can help you when you’re at that point of saying ‘Enough!’ – I want something better!

Blog posts you should check out

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A little bit about the blog

My blog was originally set up to discuss all things book related and to share what I have learned about the environment. I am passionate about both of these subjects but occasionally I comment on TV and films as well as travel. Check out my posts to find out about great books, tips for being ecofriendly and other life hacks.

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The Grumpy Olive

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We are The Grumpy Olive, a team of three sisters blogging from London. On our blog, we write about all the things we love and including food, coffee, beauty and books among the many things. You can expect to find easy but tasty recipes, the latest in books and also some talk on beauty and travel because we may fancy that here and there. But most of all, The Grumpy Olive is a little corner of the internet where everything is just fun, new and upbeat – just what the doctor ordered!

Blog posts you should check out

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Peach & Ricotta Crostini with Thyme and Balsamic
Passion Fruit Curd – Easy & Quick Recipe
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I hope you enjoyed reading this post. And these great bloggers helped put a spring in your step.

Let me know in the comments whether you’ve checked out their posts?

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AD – Introducing an amazing blogger – Sophie’s blog – Starting Today

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Today I am introducing you to an amazing blogger. Sophie’s blog, Starting Today, is definitely worth a read. Grab a cup of tea and enjoy.

You will remember my advertiser’s post, where I said I was impressed by the photography on the website. I mean, these images are kind of blogger goals and where I would like to be with the images I post on my own blogs’ and social media accounts. 

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I wanted to pick out two of the blog posts which really resonated with me and explain why you should go and read them today!

Single Parents are not Monsters – STARTING TODAY

This post is so honest and powerful! Sophie is honest about making a difficult life decision to benefit herself and her children. And the poem is beautiful. 

You HAVE to check it out!

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Check out this amazing blog post, for a balanced argument about feminism and the way our family units have evolved. You will also find some great, symbolic photos to accompany the post.

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Why I loved checking out Sophie’s blog

Please all go take a look at this blog. It is aesthetically pleasing and the images on the website are amazing. To write this post, I had a look around the site and I am impressed with what I found. Sophie covers lifestyle and photography on the blog, and you will find some amazing images scattered throughout her blog posts.

A little bit about Sophie

Sophie is a freelance photographer who looks at life philosophically. She has always been creative, but hid from her creativity for so long, afraid it was a negative aspect of her character. Now she embraces it. Her blog, Starting Today is a place where she shares her thoughts, vision, and passions. She combines photography, poetry, and writing to share her lifestyle and thoughts. Uniquely ambitious, with a zest for life, she loves to encourage others to be themselves, always. 

Blog posts you should definitely check out

Submerged in ambition, but moulded by clay. – STARTING TODAY

5 ways to Find Bloggers to promote your products – STARTING TODAY

Ways to connect with Sophie

You find Sophie on Twitter. She is also on Instagram, YouTube, LinkedIn, Facebook.

Final thoughts

Have you already checked out Sophie’s blog? Let me know what you think in the comments below.

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Christmas themed personalised mini Prosecco

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As a prosecco lover, I was over the moon to be contacted by Say It With Champers to review their Christmas themed mini Prosecco product. I was so excited about it arriving, and was not disappointed with the package when it did arrive.

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I don’t know about you, but I do love a personalised product. It gives more meaning to a special gift for someone and shows you have thought about them. These gifts would also be perfect for use in the corporate world. My dad gets a luxury Christmas hamper each year from work and always gives us some of the products from it. What a treat.

The unboxing

The main thing I was impressed with upon arrival of the Christmas themed mini Prosecco was the packaging. When I opened the box, it was wrapped in a cold jacket, which meant it was ready to drink straight out of the box. I find this pretty amazing and it’s something I didn’t expect.

The website also offers Champagne bottles. All occasions are covered and they even sell vegan champagne. Their ready-made hampers also look fantastic.

Who I selected the gift for

I selected a gift for family members, one of which loves prosecco as much as I do! The fact the recipient can keep the bottle with the personalised label and it can then become a keepsake is also a bonus. This would be particularly apt to mark a special occasion or remember a significant event, like a graduation or work-related achievement.

If you’re looking for a great movie to watch whilst your drink your prosecco, check out this post: 25 movies to stream this Christmas.

Final thoughts

Overall I am happy with the product and can’t find fault with the end-to-end process. From ordering to delivery, the process was smooth.

Please check out their website here.

Do you like personalised products as gifts for other people?

Let me know in the comments below whether you buy them and what you think of this one.

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5 Things That Happened When We Started Gentle Parenting

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My blog is all about never judging any other parent. We are not perfect. Research has proven human beings react in a certain way, to conflict. It’s an automatic process and sometimes we can’t help it! However, reacting in anger isn’t helpful in the moment. 

Our small humans need us to be emotional support. They need us to be more emotionally intelligent, so we can set a great example of how to manage our emotions.

However, I know very well, parenting is the hardest job in the world. If you follow me on TikTok you will see that I try to make light of the situation and use humour to get through the difficult days.

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What is gentle parenting?

The goal of gentle parenting is to raise confident, independent and happy children through empathy, respect and understanding, and setting healthy boundaries. This parenting style focuses largely on age-appropriate development.

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Instead of focusing on punishment and reward, gentle parenting focuses on improving a child’s self-awareness and understanding of their own behavior.

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The benefits of gentle parenting

Gentle parenting, when applied correctly, can:  

  • help children develop confidence, independence, self-esteem, and strong emotion regulation skills
  • reduce power struggles between a parent and child 
  • improve relationships between family members at home
  • improve communication between parent and child

Misconceptions of gentle parenting

Some people misunderstand gentle parenting and believe it is too soft as a parenting technique. It’s important to say that as a family, we enforce boundaries. We do also use some rewards, but never punishment. Recently we’ve started adopting natural consequences instead of punishment.

Gentle parenting does not equal a lack of boundaries – quite the opposite. We explain why there are boundaries and use the lessons we’ve taught her, to enforce why we will not tolerate certain behaviour.

The reality of gentle parenting

Gentle parenting isn’t easy. It takes time to become conscious of your reactions – but seeing the results of an emotionally intelligent child is worth it.

If you’re considering implementing gentle parenting, or elements of it like we do. I wanted to let you know about some of the benefits we have experienced since implementing this parenting method.

Let’s dive into the benefits we’ve experienced

We have a very polite child

Since being a baby, we’ve taught my little one to say please and thank you.

At four years old, she now thanks me for simple tasks like getting her cereal in the morning. It’s a genuine, heartfelt thank you. Simply because she’s been shown the reason why we need to be polite.

Everything we teach her is explained in a way she is able to understand. Rather than telling her what to do, it’s a collaborative conversation. You will always hear us asking her whether she understands. And we talk more if she doesn’t.

It’s important for children to understand the consequences of their behaviour and ultimately, be able to eventually regulate emotions by themselves. I won’t be there on her first day of school, or for her first job interview – you have to think about preparing a child for life’s challenges.

Ask yourself – how do I want my children to act and cope in future life situations that could be stressful?

She talks about her feelings & is in tune with other people’s feelings

Because we talk about our emotions and we are honest about the reasons when we do argue (newsflash – all adults argue at some point & sometimes, it’s inevitably in front of children). She, therefore, understands that even adults face situations where something can anger and upset them. That this is okay. And it’s good to talk about how we are feeling when this happens.

When she is experiencing a certain emotion or challenge, we regularly empathise and explain adults also feel this way. Or relate to something we went through as a child.

She regularly comes to me and explains something is wrong. Granted, at four years old, she says things like “I have a sicky tummy” when she’s nervous about the nursery, or feeling tired. But it’s enough for me to know as a parent, that more conversation is needed.

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When I was going through my mental breakdown, she was only a baby. But she knew something was wrong and would comfort me.

We now witness this kinder side when she’s in the playground and a baby is upset. She will go over to the parent and child, in a concerned manner, and wait patiently until the baby is okay. It’s really lovely to watch.

Being taught to be kind and caring has helped, but actually being shown that by everyone around her models this behaviour, is a more powerful tool.

She apologises when shes aware of doing something wrong

When a child is in the middle of a meltdown and making no sense, there is no point in having a conversation. It just will not be productive. The same applies to adults. As an adult, you would walk away from a heated conversation. Therefore, it baffles me that some parents believe anger and harsh discipline is appropriate in these situations – surely it’s just unproductive at that moment in time. No progress can be made when a human being is in fight or flight mode.

When a child is in this mode, they need love and reassurance from us. Not anger, or harsh discipline.

Read my previous blog post about gentle parenting: IS GENTLE PARENTING EFFECTIVE? READ OUR STORY

As parents, we allow the meltdown to pass. We openly tell her, we will talk when she’s calmer and let her walk away. Usually to her bedroom. Within 10 minutes she comes back to us to give a heartfelt apology. And we all talk about why the behaviour wasn’t helpful. Then we make a point of moving on, by saying “Nothing more will be said about it“. We never dwell on it. We move on.

She is independent

As part of our gentle parenting journey, we allow as many choices as we safely can for our toddler.

She is a very independent child by nature. And rather than fight a battle on menial topics, it’s easier to allow as many small choices as we can. The ones we use frequently, involve a choice of dilute juice, and breakfast options and we also allow her to choose her own snacks from the fridge.

When we go out for the day, this extends to more varied options. And when we can, she is allowed to run free and actually be a child.

The amazing thing is, that having allowed choices, she now asks me before she makes any of them. In our case, allowing choices means we get cooperation and communication in return.

Final thoughts

I hope you enjoyed reading about our experiences with gentle parenting.

Are you a gentle parent? do you have any tips for us? or do you use other parenting techniques?

I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

Gentle Parenting

Resources – if you want to get started on your gentle parenting journey:

Twinkl resources

My TikTok videos on gentle parenting:

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#duet with @Andrew Shaw | Executive Coach #toddlertantrum Wise words! I will never judge any #parent – we are #notperfect & human beings react in a certain way, to conflict. It’s an automatic process & sometimes we can’t help it! However, this isn’t helpful in the moment. Our small humans NEED us to be an #emotional support ❤️ it takes time to become concious of your reactions – but seeing the results of an #emotionallyintelligent child is worth it! #parents #parenting #mums #mumlife #gentleparenting

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#duet with @Aldiebear amazing #parents for sitting & talking about #feelings This little one clearly has #emotionalintelligence as a result of #greatparenting It’s heartwarming to watch & reminds me we are doing exactly the right thing with #gentleparenting ❤️ #parents #parenting #fyp #viral @Sam | Mummy Conquering Anxiety

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#duet with @Trenena Stanley #hindsight is a wonderful thing. & there is no time machine. But thank you so much for this message! #gentleparenting is the choice for us, simply because I am dealing with a #toddler who doesn’t yet have the brain capacity to #regulate her #emotions ❤️ therefore, surely, the only #instinct should be to #guide her through life’s challenges #gently #kindly & #withlove #fyp #viral

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Family, Mental Health

How To Care For An Elderly Parent With Mental Health Issues

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According to the Word Health Organisation, approximately 16% of adults aged 60 and above suffer from a mental health disorder. In most cases, depression, anxiety disorders, dementia, and isolation are the most common issues. Caring for an elderly parent with mental health problems can be challenging and emotionally demanding, often requiring unique skills and support systems. Fortunately, the following tips can make the task easier. 

Elderly Parent

Prepare yourself for the emotional aspect

Caring for an elderly parent is hard enough, but the difficulty level is higher when your ageing loved one has mental health issues. Of course, you love your parent, but other emotions can hinder you from providing the care they need. The most common things you may have to deal with r are worry, anger, frustration, and helplessness. All these are common; experiencing them does not make you a bad caregiver. Preparing yourself for these emotions can help you develop helpful ways to address them.

Monitor their movement

Available data shows that about 53,337 were detained under the Mental Health Act from 2001 to 2002. Older people also fall victim to such detentions when they have mental health issues. Don’t be surprised by how easily your elderly parent can slip out of the house and wander around. The last thing you want is to receive a call that they have been detained under the Mental Health Act. 

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So, always ensure you always have extra eyes on your ageing loved one. And in case of any detention, you can seek legal assistance, depending on where you live. For example, if you live in Sheffield, you can run an online search for ‘local solicitors Sheffield‘ to find legal experts near you. But make sure they have expertise in mental health cases. 

Schedule regular medical visits

You’ll need all the professional help you can get, starting with regular medical visits. Your doctor will perform regular diagnoses and prescribe new treatments when necessary. You’ll also receive tips on how to care for your elderly parent and help them get better. Aside from visiting a doctor, work with therapists to help them learn how to cope with any underlying issues responsible for their poor mental health. You can also hire trained nurses or caregivers to provide home care and ease the burden of responsibility on your shoulders. 

Educate yourself

It’s almost impossible to care for an ageing parent if you don’t know or understand what mental health challenges they’re dealing with. So, take the time to educate yourself about it. Understand its symptoms, triggers, and treatment options. This way, you can anticipate and address their unique needs. You can also contact support groups and find resources online.

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Establish effective communication

Open, clear, and honest communication are crucial when caring for an ageing loved one with mental health issues. Speak calmly and do your best to ensure that you understand them and that they understand you. Also, encourage your parent to express their thoughts and feelings and actively listen without judging them. They might also need a safe and non-threatening environment, making them comfortable to open up or discuss their concerns. Being harsh, rude, disrespectful, or aggressive will only make your parents withdraw in fear and choose not to communicate. 

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Violence & Depression – How Working In Security Impacts Men

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I have a great guest post for you today. From Workingthedoors.co.uk.

I am happy to support any message about mental health, whatever industry that may be in. None of us are immune to the impact of mental health problems. And it’s all about raising awareness.

Working In Security

Whilst I am aware both men and women work in the security industry. It is a predominantly male-dominated occupation. And more importantly, we know men’s mental health isn’t talked about enough.

I hope this post helps anyone out there, who may be struggling mentally!

Introduction

It’s no surprise that working in the security industry can be demanding and at times dangerous. But few of us realize just how deep an impact it has on the mental health of those who take this job on, especially men. 

Recent surveys have revealed a concerning level of depression among workers in this sector, as well as alarming trends in violence against employees. In this article, we will explore these issues and potential solutions to improve overall well-being in the security industry.

Working In Security

Violence in the Security Industry

A recent survey from WorkingtheDoors.co.uk found that 51% are verbally abused every time they work, with 98% of incidents occurring in nightclubs and bars. 

Alongside this, 24% of workers also reported experiencing physical and verbal violence at least once a week. These statistics highlight the dangerous environment in which many people are required to work, and the toll it can take on their mental health.

Male Depression in the Security Industry

Not only is there an alarming level of violence in the security industry, but also a concerning level of depression among male workers. 

A report from WorkingtheDoors.co.uk found that 57% say that an incident has affected their mental state more than 24 hours after the event, with almost half of those sympathizing that an incident has been severely traumatic. This highlights the serious mental health issues that can arise from this job, and the lack of access to resources to help with it.

Causes of Depression in the Security Industry

The causes of depression in security workers are complex, but there are a number of potential factors contributing to it. 

These include long hours and low pay; lack of support from employers; poor working conditions and lack of job security; exposure to high levels of violence or trauma, and the stigma attached to talking about mental health issues.

Managing Depression in the Security Industry

Given the serious implications of depression for security workers, it’s important to look at ways to manage this issue and improve overall well-being in this sector. Employers can help by providing better working conditions, a secure job contract, and access to mental health services. 

Additionally, having clear policies on anti-violence, training on how to respond when an incident occurs, and a supportive workplace culture can all help to reduce the risk of depression.

Ways to Combat Depression

Get more exercise

Exercising more can help to reduce the symptoms of depression, and it’s particularly important for security workers who may be struggling with long hours and stress. Taking regular breaks from work and getting at least 30 minutes of exercise a day can make a big difference.

Get more sleep

Lack of sleep can exacerbate depression and anxiety, so it’s important for security workers to make sure they get enough rest. This means making sure you have a relaxing bedtime routine, avoiding stimulants such as caffeine late at night and trying to stick to a consistent sleep pattern.

Seek professional help

It’s also important to seek professional help if you or someone you know is struggling with depression. Speak to your doctor or a mental health professional who can provide advice and support, as well as access to therapy and medication if necessary.

Identify your stressors

Depression can be triggered by a range of stressors, so it’s important to identify what these are in order to manage them. This could mean looking at the environment you work in and making changes to reduce your exposure to violence or trauma; challenging stigmas around mental health issues; taking steps to improve working conditions; or talking about your feelings with a friend or family member.

Conclusion

The security industry is an important but often overlooked sector and one in which workers face daily challenges to their mental health. 

By acknowledging the issues of violence and depression among those in this field, employers can take steps to improve overall well-being by providing better working conditions, access to mental health services and a supportive workplace culture. With these measures in place, security workers can feel better equipped to manage their mental well-being and take steps towards a healthier future.

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