The Magic Garden Play Cafe in Howarth

We used to visit the Magic Garden Play Cafe in Howarth when my little one could barely sit up. It was when I was first introduced to Little Learners. They held one of their classes there and it was a real lifeline for me during maternity leave.

Back then I was contending with low confidence and what I now know was postpartum anxiety. I couldn’t attend the classes without my hubby or mum to accompany me. That said, we made many lovely memories together. Whilst these struggles feel like a lifetime ago, it was strange being back in the building four years on. I even forgot which entrance we had to go through! 

Disclaimer – this review was written following a paid-for visit to the event. I am in no way affiliated with the cafe nor have I been paid for this review

Parents & carers community

These days I love nothing more than chatting to other mums, at the soft play centre or activity we have lined up. We also see a lot of grandparents caring for young children. My mental health struggles have taught me that as parents and carers, we are all tired and exhausted. We largely face the same struggles and there is value in a quick conversation or giving someone directions to the toilet. It’s a great community of people and I now love being a part of it.

Just the other day we were in Wetherspoons and a lovely older couple went looking for me and my toddler. We had both gone to get a refill cup of tea and left our shopping bags. They thought we had left and forgotten our shopping. So lovely of them to worry about us.

Let’s dive into the practical information you need if you want to visit The Magic Garden Play Cafe

Booking the Elsa & Anna sing-along

When I saw the Elsa & Anna sing-along online, I immediately booked it. My four-year-old is obsessed with Elsa and we took the opportunity for her to dress up. I even let her have the Elsa microphone in the car. 

The location 

As we were driving up the hill in Howarth I was flooded with lovely memories of coming here with my grandma. We would visit the shops and it’s a place close to my heart. It was lovely explaining that to my little one. 

Upon arrival 

Upon arrival, we noticed many other Elsa dresses and Anna costumes in the car park. The remark I got from my four-year-old was “I will sing along with them“. 

This is what classes like this are all about. Community and making friends. 

You can check out some of the other blog posts in the parenting section, below:

20 Relatable Bluey Parenting Moments We Love

Downloadable Worksheets and Learning Books for ages 4-7

A Rundown of the UK Merlin Attractions To Visit With The Kids

Parenting: Preparing Your Kids for a Brighter Future

Worth Valley Railway – A Fun Packed Day Out

5 Fantastic Reasons To Visit East Riddlesden Hall

The benefits of soft play at Kidzplay Shipley & other soft play centres

Is Gentle Parenting Effective? Read Our Story

My review of Billy Bobs Parlour, Skipton, North Yorkshire

Helping Little Kids Manage Big Emotions

The venue 

The venue has around 15 tables and I’ve never struggled to get a seat in all the time I’ve been coming here. When you are alone with a child, it’s important you can get a table and have a base to store coats, bags and shoes. And more importantly, sit down! If I cannot be sure I will get a table at the venue we attend, I always intentionally pick a pre-bookable soft play – where you can secure your table.

Kids section 

There is a gated section where classes and events take place. The gate is helpful if you have little ones trying to escape. There are lots of great classes which take place here and I have included some of the posters and links for you below. 

The play area 

This play area inspired my little one’s bedroom decor. The IKEA leaves were something we had to get her. And she commented today that her bedroom is also decorated the same way. I love the Scandi feel of the play area. And although we were here for an Elsa & Anna singalong, all my toddler wanted to do was take off her shoes and play in the soft play. 

It’s still one of the most impressive play areas I’ve visited, despite reviewing a lot of them previously. You can book to just attend the soft play only.

The cafe 

As parents, we all know the cafe is an important aspect. Being able to have that nice cup of tea and a bite to eat is a must. And now I have a four-year-old I can actually sit for 10 minutes at a time. Enjoying my cup of tea is bliss. Whilst she is off making friends and enjoying herself.

How was the food?

The cup of tea and bacon sandwich I ordered didn’t disappoint. The little one got a cute little frozen meal box with the price of the ticket. Which included a selection of sandwiches (who chose ham) crisps and a drink.

We also bought an Elsa bun, cos we all deserve a little treat. 

Prices for play 

You can view the prices for play and some of the upcoming events at the cafe. For a full list, check out the website.

Opening times 

The cafe is open during these days & times:

* Monday to Thursday 9.30 am – 2.30 pm.

Parties

They also offer parties. All the details you need are here.

Summary 

My intention is to enjoy the rest of the summer with my little one – when I can. Because childcare is so damn expensive, we will also keep the same family routine throughout the year. Meaning my toddler gets one weekday with each parent, during the school holidays. And the rest of the time I’m looking at sports clubs, which I know she will love. 

My mental health struggles taught me a while ago, that a work-life balance was the only way I could mentally keep myself well. I’m also thankful I’ve managed to create the balance we need. And I plan on keeping it that way. 

I will be booking more amazing activities – to create lifelong memories with my baby girl. 

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How To Handle Separation With As Little Pain As Possible

While no one expects to go through a divorce when marrying their partner, it unfortunately does happen. At the end of the day, things can change and your relationship may also deteriorate over time, sometimes through no fault of either party.

Whatever the reason for the separation, there are tips to help ensure the separation is handled with as little pain as possible. Here are some helpful tips to handle your separation, should you be going through one right now.

Acknowledge you’ll have different feelings about the separation

It’s important to remember that there are two people involved in the separation and when it comes to handling that separation, it’s important to remember that you will both handle it differently.

Depending on the reasoning for the separation, you may find that you or your partner are feeling things differently from the other and that’s okay. It’s beneficial to acknowledge and process these feelings individually and to remember that everyone will react differently to a separation.

How To Handle Separation

Provide yourself with time to grieve the separation

It’s highly important to find the time to grieve for the separation. After all, a separation is often a form of loss that can be hard to process. It’s useful to give yourself the time to grieve the separation and to mourn all the months or years you’ve experienced with your significant other. Not to mention all of the married years you might have had or will no longer have.

Grief is a real part of separation and it’s something to acknowledge and go through. 

Don’t go through it alone

When it comes to a divorce, it’s important that you’ve got yourself a support network. These individuals are going to help guide you through the process and offer that shoulder to lean on or cry on, should you need it.

Don’t go through it alone and when you feel like you need the help, ask for it. It’s of course, hard to speak to anyone but your ex-partner about the situation and how you’re feeling. However, it’s something that you want to give yourself plenty of support with. While a divorce lawyer is good to have, they’re not going to be the person you call late a night for a chit-chat.

Try to communicate calmly with your ex-partner

Communicating with your ex-partner will often be needed, especially if children are involved. With that being said, try to communicate calmly with your ex-partner. Avoid speaking if things have gotten heated recently or you’ve come to a point where every conversation is resulting in an argument.

Give the time needed to cool down or for your ex-partner to cool down before attempting to talk again.

Take care of yourself throughout the process

Finally, take the time to look after yourself. A divorce or separation of any kind can be tough on your mental and physical well-being. Be kind to yourself and take the time to take care of yourself throughout the ordeal that is playing out.

A divorce or separation is never a happy process, so make sure you’re looking after yourself and using these tips for your benefit.

5 Fantastic Reasons To Visit East Riddlesden Hall

East Riddlesden Hall is a Historic house with intimate gardens. Described on the website as a hidden oasis on the edge of a West Yorkshire town. A National Trust site, which is maintained for the benefit of the local community.

Read on for all the information you need to Visit East Riddlesden Hall.

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Let’s take a look at 5 great reasons you should Visit East Riddlesden Hall

With an English Heritage Membership or a National Trust membership, you can benefit from discounts across all sites

Because several of the sites are co-owned by the two organisations, we gained a lot of National Trust benefits, by only paying for an English Heritage yearly membership. We visited Tintagel and the membership paid for itself within a week’s holiday in Devon. When you sign up for a membership, you are provided with an English Heritage booklet, which contains details on the sites National Trust you can enter for free, or at a discounted rate.

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East Riddlesden Hall is our local National Trust Site and when we purchased an English Heritage membership, it was one of the main places we visited. We still visit to this day. And the beauty of the site is you can pick and choose how much money you spend. On certain days you can enter the gardens for free. The cafe is free to all, or you can pay to tour the house. Look out for free event days! Which are usually advertised on social media.

A Local Treasure

It’s nostalgic for me because when I lived alone, the site was near to my house. If I ever felt mentally unwell or stressed out, I would Visit East Riddlesden Hall to have a walk around the grounds. The lake, the wonderful trees and the grounds, all made me feel much better!

Free specialised events

We once visited an English Heritage site and were pleased to find out there was a performance for all members to attend. If you check out the website of your local attraction, there will be something wonderful and unique for you to attend. The kind of experiences you just wouldn’t get elsewhere. The latest event at East Riddlesden Hall is dancing in the gardens during the school holidays.

Our history is important

In the UK there is a lot of history we need to preserve. People travel from all around the world to visit our world heritage sites, such as Saltaire and Howarth. But English Heritage takes you back in time as far as you can go,

From small beginnings towards the end of the 19th century, the collection of historic places now managed by English Heritage has grown to over 400, inspired by a determination to put England’s heritage ahead of private interest.

National Trust – Our history

Free entry for up to six children

With any of the National Trust or English Heritage memberships, there is free entry for children accompanied by an adult member (under 18 years and within the family group). Please check the relevant terms of each website for the criteria.

Let’s dive into the all-important information you need if you’re planning a trip to East Riddlesden Hall

Opening times

The opening times are subject to change, due to events, weather and the fact that the hall also hosts events. The best thing to do before planning your visit is to check the opening times. Either on the website or on social media.

Here are the current opening times:

House10:00 – 16:00
Garden10:00 – 16:00
Great Barn10:00 – 16:00
Shop10:00 – 16:00
Tearoom10:00 – 16:00
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Highlights of East Riddlesden Hall

The House

When we last visited, we were given a guided tour around the house. We had to take a ticket for a specified time. And do the other bits of the site, before the tour time.

Original 17th-century features – what to look out for on your visit

Inside the house, you can still see some of the original 17th-century details introduced by Murgatroyd. Look for the 17th-century panelling, which is a theme throughout the house. As well as the decorative plaster ceilings and intricate wood carvings.

Garden

Access to the gardens is usually free, providing the site is open and there isn’t an event on.

They are beautifully maintained, even including a bug house and other little treasures for children.

Eating and shopping

When we had a membership, the thing we loved most about sites, was the gift shop and unique items you could buy.

The cafe At East Riddlesden Hall is beautiful. Serving lovely food and accessible even if you don’t pay entry to the site.

The Great Barn

The agricultural story of East Riddlesden Hall doesn’t end in the house. The Great Barn is one of the finest barns in the north of England. With huge gabled entrances and large mullioned windows.

Family fun

During the school holidays, you will find an array of great activities for the kids.

Second-hand bookshop

There is a second-hand bookshop located in the kitchen chamber. Children’s books are in the Discovery Room.

Conservation work

A team of volunteers is responsible for maintaining the house. You can read all about it here.

Maintaining such an old building isn’t an easy task. I remember once visiting an English Heritage Site where the windows were cloaked in blackout curtains and you had to carefully enter through the main door, to avoid dust & dirt damaging the site.

History of the hall

You can read more about the history of the hall here.

In 1934 the Briggs brothers donated the property to the National Trust. It was bequeathed on the understanding that it would be conserved and that the land surrounding it would be used for recreation by the local communities. Their passion for East Riddlesden Hall ultimately ensured that it would be saved for everyone, for ever.

History of the hall

Weddings

East Riddlesden Hall has a range of wedding options available. This article will help you decide on whether it would be the perfect venue for your special day.

Facilities

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Accessibility

You can read more about the accessibility of the site here.

Contact details

If you’re unsure of anything prior to your visit, or you would like to make an enquiry – here are the all-important details you need:

Address

Bradford Road, Riddlesden, Keighley, West Yorkshire, BD20 5EL

Telephone Number

01535607075

Final thoughts

Do you have an English Heritage membership? Or have you thought about signing up?

Have you visited East Riddleden Hall before? Come say hello in the comments below.

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Is Gentle Parenting Effective? Read Our Story

POST UPDATED – AUGUST 2023

Toddlers can be frustrating at times, but I always try and put myself in their shoes. How much emotion would you feel if you had something to say but didn’t know the words yet? Bless them. Yes, it is tough to think like this when a toddler is testing your limits and pushing your boundaries. But as adults, I feel like we must. We are responsible adults and our brains are actually capable of processing emotions. Unlike the brain of a child.

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Please notebefore we get into this post, I should say, I acknowledge parenting is the hardest job in the world. I get angry and frustrated, just like any other parent. But in our household, we do make a conscious effort to resolve conflict situations differently with our little ones.

I am no expert on this subject, nor do I incorporate all the elements of gentle parenting. I am still very much on a learning journey. But I wanted to share our experience in order to help other people out there.

Accepting that all behaviour is communication and it is age appropriate for their developmental stage, really allows you to parent differently.

Let’s look at the science

I think once you get your head around the fact toddlers don’t actually possess the same brain capabilities and development as adults, you can start to take things less personally. My little one is quite intelligent and can be grown up when she wants to. My hubby, mentioned the other day that sometimes we expect too much of her because of this, and we must remember the below.

Though your 3-year-old is beginning to understand the emotions they are feeling, they still have very little control over them. If they find something funny, they’ll laugh hysterically. If something makes them feel sad or angry, they’ll burst into tears.
If they feel something, they are likely to act on it. This may mean snatching a toy away from another child if they want to play with it, or getting upset when they want a snack after being told they have to wait until dinnertime. Delayed gratification means nothing to them – they want it and want it now.
Three- and 4-year-old children may use hitting, biting, or pushing as a way to solve conflicts. They simply don’t understand the difference between appropriate and inappropriate interactions yet. It’s your job to teach your child that there are right and wrong ways to express emotions and resolve problems with others.

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Changing your mindset about toddler behaviour

How powerful is reading this? Children may also laugh as a default when they don’t know what else to do. As a parent, it could seem like they are laughing at being told boundaries, or being sneaky. But this probably isn’t the case.

Accepting that all behaviour is communication and it is age appropriate for their developmental stage, really allows you to parent differently.

When you realise toddlers are simply finding their way through the world, how to respond and they simply don’t know the way yet. The adults around them can then act accordingly.

How did I realise what we did was gentle parenting?

I won’t mince my words here. Given my own upbringing, at a different stage time, where harsh discipline was accepted, I thought the term “gentle parenting” was just parents not being firm enough with their toddlers. In the very early days of having a baby, I had visions of reasoning with a little person in the supermarket and losing control. Which in turn would mean I lost control of the situation. 

Joining TikTok made me realise how we parent within our family, is actually gentle parenting. And following Kelly Medina Enos on TikTok has helped. I love how honest she is and following her journey makes me feel comfortable with what we are doing. More importantly, it will never be perfect. 

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What changed in our parenting style?

Before our little one was born, I thought I would be a much harsher, stricter parent than I actually am.

When your little one starts moving around, touching plugs and threatening to hurt themselves every minute, you need to have parenting conversations. And you won’t always agree. My hubby and I were brought up the same way. Pretty afraid of our parents at times  – that look they would give, or raised voices indicated we should stop doing this.

But I just have a burning question to ask, do you get the best out of anyone, even adults when you raise your voice?  As I get older, I realise the answer is no.

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Setting a good example 

Collectively, we decided a while ago we wanted to avoid shouting around our little one (this isn’t always possible – please don’t think we or any other parent is perfect – there are still disagreements and sometimes raised voices).

If we do shout, snap, or get frustrated, we talk about it together, with our little one. We say sorry and move on. And we have taught this lesson so effectively, our little one will come and apologise to us if she does something she knows she shouldn’t. Granted, it may take a while for her to walk away and come back. But she always comes back, eventually. And we try to mirror this example between ourselves.

I really believe this technique is teaching her to resolve conflict herself and how she should appropriately do this. Also that no human being is perfect. If she does something and apologies when she doesn’t need to, we explain that even adults get things wrong sometimes and this isn’t something she needs to apologise for.  

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Modelling behaviour 

In order to calm a tantrum, we also do a breathing technique with her and one of us will take her out of the situation to calm down. I believe toddlers get very overwhelmed by their surroundings. This in itself could cause a meltdown. Hell, as an adult sometimes I get overwhelmed.

They need help not frustration 

Just think for a second about any situation you have ever resolved by shouting. Or being confrontational, or getting frustrated. I bet it is very few. Why then, do we get frustrated with toddlers? Surely we should be actively helping them handle emotions, especially when they don’t fully understand what is happening to them. They don’t have the capability or brain power to regulate themselves and will probably wonder why adults are also becoming frustrated.

There are some other blog posts in the Gentle Parenting category – check them out here

Parents are a guide 

It’s a heavy burden to carry, but as parents, we are responsible for guiding our little ones. Whether we like it or not, how they develop now will also greatly impact their future lives. 

Why it matters

Positive experiences throughout childhood help to build healthy brains, while experiencing childhood trauma and abuse can harm a child’s brain development (Shonkoff et al, 2015).
But our brains always have the potential to change and grow. It’s never too late to give a child or young person positive brain-building experiences.

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Final thoughts 

I was dubious about releasing this post. Simply because of my feelings when I first heard the term ‘gentle parenting’. We still have a lot to learn and our parenting style will never be perfect. But hopefully, we are setting a foundation to provide our little one with the tools she will need to thrive in life. 

Keep an eye on my parenting resources page and my TikTok to follow our gentle parenting journey. I plan to share with you any resources we are using. 

Any advice is also welcome – let us know in the comments below.

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Rediscovering Ourselves: The Healing Power Of Hobbies

In our hustle-driven culture, where productivity and output often dominate our sense of self-worth, it’s all too easy to dismiss hobbies as mere ‘luxuries.’ We’re trapped in a relentless loop: wake up, work, manage household chores, perhaps attend to kids, sleep and then repeat. But let’s pause and think: when was the last time we did something purely for the joy of it? Not because it was another item on our to-do list, but because it made our soul sing? As a seasoned parent and mental health advocate, I’ve come to understand that nurturing our personal interests isn’t just beneficial, it’s essential. Our passions and hobbies aren’t silly pursuits; they are lifelines to our inner selves.

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Hobbies Are A Sanctuary For The Mind

When our lives feel overburdened, as they often do, the idea of dedicating time to a hobby can seem like a far-fetched dream. Yet, it’s in these moments of mental exhaustion that we need these sanctuaries the most. Engaging in a hobby is akin to whispering to your soul, “I see you, and you matter.” Diving into a book, strumming a guitar, painting, dancing, or even tinkering with gadgets allows us a mental escape. This escape isn’t about running away from reality but rather grounding ourselves in it. It reminds us of our multifaceted nature. We’re not just workers, parents, or caretakers; we’re creators, dreamers, and explorers. The key is for you to be realistic about how much time you have available, it doesn’t have to be extravagant; it needs to matter. 

The Therapeutic Power Of Interests

Research has consistently shown the myriad mental health benefits of engaging in hobbies. These pursuits release dopamine, our brain’s ‘feel good’ medicine. Activities like gardening, for instance, have been proven to lower cortisol levels, the hormone related to stress. Hobbies also foster a sense of accomplishment. When we bake a cake, finish a knitting project, or master a new song on the piano, we experience a surge of pride and fulfilment. These moments are not only therapeutic; they are transformative. They allow us to navigate our vulnerabilities and emerge with purpose.

The Healing Power Of Hobbies

Finding Your Passion In The Midst Of Chaos

For many people, the idea of ‘finding their passion’ can feel overwhelming. It is a really difficult question to answer, so if you’re someone who hasn’t yet discovered that spark, here are a few ideas to help:

Childhood Recall

Often, our true interests lie buried in the memories of our younger selves. Think back to what you loved doing as a child. Did you enjoy scribbling stories, building things, or perhaps dancing in your room?

The ‘Flow’ Test

As difficult as it may seem, try to reflect on moments when time seemed to fly by, and you felt wholly engrossed in an activity. That’s your ‘flow’ state, a good indication of a potential passion.

Start Small

Your hobby doesn’t have to be grand or elaborate. Begin with short, manageable sessions. If you’ve always wanted to write, start with a journal or short stories. If art calls, try doodling or basic sketching.

Community Connection

Joining clubs or online communities related to your interest can provide encouragement and support. Sometimes, shared passion can be the best form of therapy. Plus, there might be hobbies out there that you didn’t even know existed. Online communities can be a revelation in this sense.

An Invitation To Embrace Your Inner Self

If there’s one thing I want to leave you with, it’s this: You are deserving of joy, fulfilment, and moments of pure, undiluted happiness. Your hobbies, no matter how big or small, are your soul’s way of connecting with the universe. They aren’t just distractions or luxuries; they are integral to your being.

When Passion Meets Purpose

It’s a beautiful realization when what fuels our soul can also fuel our livelihood. Perfecting a hobby not only enriches our spirit but can pave the way for unexpected career opportunities. Let’s take photography as an example. What starts as a weekend fascination with capturing sunsets can evolve into a professional gig. Be it wedding photography, wildlife documentation, or fashion shoots. Many have found their career niches by simply following their heart’s interest. Now you could argue that you’d need to invest in your setup, but through secured loans, you have every opportunity to get everything you need to live your dream and pay it off as you go. Embracing your hobby might just lead you to a vocation where every working day feels like an extension of your passion. Remember, when passion meets purpose, magic happens. It’s the home of true happiness.

In the grand scheme of things, let’s not lose our unique characteristics. They add colour, texture, and beauty to the larger picture. Take a step back from the grind. Revisit that old guitar gathering dust, pick up that paintbrush, put on your dancing shoes, or even venture into the kitchen to whip up a storm. Remember, your passions are the rhythm that keeps you moving.

Managing Anxiety & Stress in Daily Life

It’s been four years since I had a mental breakdown and I’m now glad I can spot the signs of stressful period when things become too much. And, more importantly, actually do something about it before it spirals out of control too much. I never want to return to the position I was in when I had a mental breakdown. As such, it is now about damage control.

Managing Anxiety & Stress in Daily Life

It’s no secret that I took a break from social media recently. But running this blog in my spare time is just one small part of my life. As with all working parents, we have a lot of other stress factors to deal with. And sometimes something tips the balance and it just becomes too much for us to handle. 

When this happens, I face constant anxiety for a week or two. Get very run down, and become mentally and physically unwell. This then leads to depression and feelings of inadequacy.

It’s been four years since I had a mental breakdown and I’m now glad I can spot the signs of the stressful period when things become too much. And, more importantly, actually do something about it before it spirals out of control too much. I never want to return to the position I was in when I had a mental breakdown. As such, it is now about damage control.

The stress bucket

We all have a stress bucket and sometimes it can overflow. We live in a world which induces anxiety in the calmest of people. Therefore we have to be careful and look after our well-being. Hypnotherapy was one of the main therapies which helped me and I use it when my mental health takes a hit.

You can find also the blog posts about my Perma hypnotherapy collaboration below:

5 Important Reasons Hypnotherapy Changed My Life

Navigating The Busy Season: A Guide To Practicing Mindfulness

The Greatest Gift I Gave Myself in 2022 Was Self Improvement

6 Areas I’ve Of My Life Which Have Drastically Improved – Perma Hypnotherapy

Using Self Hypnosis To Achieve Life Goals – Perma Hypnotherapy

Things Are Changing for the Better but There Is Still Progress to Be Made

Perma Hypnotherapy – The Reward of Transformation Is Worth the Struggle

Let’s Talk About Character Strengths And How They Can Be Used To Our Advantage 

Life Won’t Stop Throwing Challenges Our Way So The Key Is Mental Strength

A Powerful Concept – The Ability To Change Our Brain

Achieving Personal Development with Perma Hypnotherapy

The mind needs maintenance – just like you would physically rest after a long walk or injury to your body. I also want to make it clear to everyone reading this post that dips in our mental well-being will occur. Life throws curveballs our way and sometimes, even just one factor of our lives, can cause all the other plates spinning to topple over. And it’s okay to feel that way. It’s okay, to be honest about how you’re feeling. And take the time you need to feel mentally well again.

Taking control of the situation can be difficult

When I am in the midst of anxiety, even the decision to do something about the way I am feeling whirls around in my mind constantly. Will people think I’m inadequate? Will they question me about the way I am feeling? Should I just sort myself out? 

Some of this critical thinking comes from me being quite harsh on myself. Some of it is from traumatic past experiences.

Stress factors which can impact anyone

Stress in daily life 

Childcare challenges

Money problems

Not allocating time for myself 

Being too busy to relax

Communication problems in home life 

Symptoms Of Anxiety taking over

Critical thinking 

Thinking the past will repeat itself 

Frantic thinking 

Losing control of emotions  

Lacking in motivation 

Not wanting to put makeup on 

Detached

Worn out emotionally 

In desperate need of self-care

Remedies for becoming mentally well again

I know firsthand just how much strength it takes to motivate yourself when you feel unwell mentally. However, because I have a toddler, normal everyday life has to resume. I thrive on a routine and using my brain. As such, I don’t do well when I have to stop and rest.

My mental wellbeing routine also forms a structure and it takes me time to feel like myself again.

Honesty

I dealt with things differently this time. One of the main differences when things started to feel out of control, was my honesty with everyone around me. Once it was clear to me that things were getting worse and I couldn’t control it. It was time, to be fully honest. With myself, initially. But also everyone around me. Given my mental health history, my family are in tune with when I am not quite feeling myself.

I am proud of myself for finally being honest with everyone around me. Feeling comfortable talking about how I really feel, made the world of difference.

A lot of people struggle to open up about their mental health difficulties, for fear of being judged. Now I’ve created the work-life balance I need and I have supportive people around me, it was easier to open up.

Final thoughts

The mind needs maintenance – just like you would physically rest after a long walk or injury to your body. I also want to make it clear to everyone reading this post that dips in our mental well-being will occur. Life throws curveballs our way and sometimes, even just one factor of our lives, can cause all the other plates spinning to topple over. And it’s okay to feel that way. It’s okay, to be honest about how you’re feeling. And take the time you need to feel mentally well again.

Managing Anxiety & Stress in Daily Life

You can read all the other posts about my mental health journey below:

5 Important Reasons Hypnotherapy Changed My Life

Review: My Thoughts on Heavy Light By Haratio Clare

5 Topics To Get You Started In Talking About Your Mental Health

Tips On How To Live Your Best – Most Positive Life

Dialling It Down: 3 Simple Tools for the Chronic Overthinker

Affirmations – What Comes to Mind?

Managing Anxiety & Stress in Daily Life

The Magic Garden Play Cafe in Howarth

Is Gentle Parenting Effective? Read Our Story

Perinatal Anxiety & Depression – My Experience

Navigating The Busy Season: A Guide To Practicing Mindfulness

Violence & Depression – How Working In Security Impacts Men

How To Care For An Elderly Parent With Mental Health Issues

Sharing My Birth Story in Order to Help Other Parents

Habits Causing You To Be Emotionally Fragile

Exercising Your Brain: The Connection Between Mental Stimulation and Good Mental Health

6 Sustainable Brands & My Honest Thoughts After Trying The Products

Joining TikTok & How It Helped Me Grow in Confidence

My Current TBR List and Why Reading Is Helping Me Mentally

Because I am excited by stories and books again, it was time to dedicate a space on my blog to all things books! Reading is currently helping me mentally. And I wanted to share this passion, in the hope, it might help other people out there.

You can check out Book Corner because it’s where you will hear about my latest book reviews, what I am currently excited about reading, and any stories that literally knocked my socks off.

Quick note: Some of the links contained on this page are affiliate links and if you go through them to make a purchase, I will earn a commission. I only recommend products I use myself and think would be useful for you.

A much-needed break to help me mentally

If you follow me on Twitter, you will know I am taking a two-week break from blogging in September. Whilst writing and being creative is my passion, I have worked non-stop on this little passion project since July 2021. It’s time to refresh and return better than ever. Because I have so many exciting things in the pipeline.

Follow me on Goodreads to hear about my reading progress. Whilst I am not sure I will achieve my target for 2022, I hope to make some reading progress during my two-week blogging break. I can’t wait to get lost in these stories and restore my mental well-being.

Mummy’s books

Her Last Holiday
it was amazing
I’m going all out & saying this is one of the best books I’ve ever read. The pace, the writing, is outstanding. I couldn’t wait to keep turning pages and it’s renewed my eagerness to get through my TBR list!
My Friend Anna: The True Story of the Fake Heiress Who Conned Me and Half of New York City
it was amazing
Great read, from the real perspective of a person central to the drama. A raw, emotional story of how friendship was used to manipulate someone.
The Lost Hours
it was amazing
Absolutely amazing! Gripping right from the very beginning. Strong characters and the second half of the book had me constantly turning the pages. I loved the characters and got to know them all very well. Would love to see this as a fil…

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Books transporting us to a new destination

I have been struggling recently, with physical illness, and being run down. This means I’ve taken a hit emotionally and mentally. I am finding that reading allows me to switch off and recover, which I am thankful for. I often read books to get transported to the destination the book is set in. Lately, I need something to bring me out of the fog and reading is helping me mentally.

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Let’s dive into my current reading list

As any book lover will experience, there were many titles on my list to choose from. I managed to narrow it down into a manageable reading list. And put them in an order I was happy with.

Mental Health books currently helping me mentally

It is important to me, to read about mental health, as well as write about it on this blog.

I recently visited the Bradford Literature Festival recently and attend a talk by Horatio Clare, discussing Heavy Light. Reading about mental illness from the perspective of the person is something very interesting to me. As such, I am so eager to read this title. It just had to come top of the pile.

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My images from Bradford Literature Festival

Heavy Light, by Horatio Clare

I haven’t finished this book yet. But I can say, it is so well written. And I relate to so much of the content. Whilst I haven’t experienced psychosis, I have experienced seeing a situation from a completely different perspective because of my anxiety and depression. During my pregnancy and stay in the hospital, my and my hubby’s accounts of what took place are so different. It’s like talking to people who were in hospitals at opposite ends of the country. Therefore, I can relate to some of what Horatio and his partner experienced. It is a helpful insight into mental illness, and the lack of support for individuals who are unwell. Also a heartbreaking insight into what their families go through.

“The words with which a breakdown is treated are all medicalised – illness, treatment, nurse, doctor, meds – but the mechanism of treatment belongs to retribution: incarnation, surveillance, behaviour monitoring, parole. For crimes against normality, we get a label and a chemical life sentence. I hate this mechanism. I refuse to believe in it.”
― Horatio Clare, Heavy Light: A Journey Through Madness, Mania and Healing

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The Power Of Letters

If you follow my blog, you will know a letter I wrote was published in an anthology. The proceeds of the book went to the Prince’s Trust and the letters are designed to give the youth of today hope that things can get better. I was honoured to be part of this project.

I can’t wait to read the other amazing letters featured. However, with how I have been feeling recently, I think waiting for a little would be better for me mentally.

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The Psychopath Inside

This was a recommendation I picked up and I am so excited to see what it is all about. I feel like this book will contribute to helping me mentally. And will also tie in with the work I am doing in my hypnotherapy course, which helps me to understand how the brain works.

More about the book – From Amazon

The Psychopath Inside, tells the fascinating story of Fallon’s reaction to the discovery that he has the brain of a psychopath. While researching serial murderers, he uncovered a distinct neurological pattern in their brain scans that helped explain their cold and violent behaviour. A few months later he learned that he was descended from a family with a long line of murderers which confirmed that Fallon’s own brain pattern wasn’t a fluke.

As a scientist convinced that humans are shaped by their genetics, Fallon set out to reconcile the truth about his brain with everything he knew about the mind, behaviour, and the influence of nature vs. nurture on our personalities. How could he, a successful scientist and a happy family man with no history of violence, be a psychopath? How much did his biology influence his behaviour? Was he capable of some of the gruesome atrocities perpetrated by the serial killers he had studied?

Combining his personal experience with scientific analysis, Fallon shares his journey and the discoveries that ultimately led him to understand that, despite everything, science can teach us, humans are even more complex than we can imagine.

The Man Who Died Twice, By Richard Osman

I know this title is part of a series. But having read the reviews, I have decided to read this one as a stand-alone book. We all have different preferences when reading and personally, I want titles which have great reviews, otherwise, I simply won’t finish them. This book sounds like the best one in the series. Obviously, I can’t pass judgment until I’ve read it. Sign up to be alerted each time a blog post is released, and you can catch up with the review when I finish it.

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The Girls, By Lisa Jewell

Getting lost in a book is helping me mentally. I love nothing more than a thriller, or crime drama. Therefore, naturally, it is the type of book I love reading.

A bit more information (courtesy of Wob)

Dark secrets, a devastating mystery and the games people play: the gripping new novel from the bestselling author of The House We Grew Up In and The Third Wife.

You live on a picturesque communal garden square, an oasis in urban London where your children run free, in and out of other people’s houses.

You’ve known your neighbours for years and you trust them. Implicitly.

You think your children are safe.

But are they really?

Midsummer night: a thirteen-year-old girl is found unconscious in a dark corner of the garden square. What really happened to her? And who is responsible?

Utterly believable characters, a gripping story and a dark secret buried at its core: this is Lisa Jewell at her heart-stopping best.

The Thursday Murder Club, By Richard Osman

I have decided to add this to my list, but whether I read it or not will be very much based on how I like the other one in the series. I realise it sounds a bit quirky to read the titles in this order, but I love doing things my own way and this feels right. If I like the first title, it will be like watching the series and then the prequel.

A Thousand Moons, By Sebastian Barry

This is another title, which is technically a series, but can be treated as a stand-alone book. I can’t wait to read this one. I love high-quality writing. And the reviews suggest I won’t be disappointed with this one.

A Thousand Moons skips forward a few years from Days Without End and although it’s in effect a sequel, the novel stands alone, wasting no time with backstory as it launches into its typically rollicking tale.

The Guardian

More about the book –

Even when you come out of bloodshed and disaster in the end you have got to learn to live.

Winona is a young Lakota orphan adopted by former soldiers Thomas McNulty and John Cole.
Living with Thomas and John on the farm they work in 1870s Tennessee, she is educated and loved, forging a life for herself beyond the violence and dispossession of her past. But the fragile harmony of her unlikely family unit, in the aftermath of the Civil War, is soon threatened by a further traumatic event, one which Winona struggles to confront, let alone understand.

Told in Sebastian Barry’s rare and masterly prose, A Thousand Moons is a powerful, moving study of one woman’s journey, her determination to write her own future, and the enduring human capacity for love. (courtesy of Amazon).

‘Nobody writes like, nobody takes lyrical risks like, nobody pushes the language, and the heart, and the two together, quite like Sebastian Barry does.’ ALI SMITH

Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone

My hubby has been nagging me for years to get the full Harry Potter series and read it. He is aware I love the description and imagination in a book, much more than in a film. Up to now, I have been reluctant. But I will be giving this a go and see what happens. And whether I then want to read the rest of the books. Stay tuned on the blog and also on Twitter.

Final thoughts

I have so many titles on my bookshelf and I intend to continue my reading journey, with another Goodreads challenge in 2023. Stay tuned to the blog, on Book Corner for more of my current reading lists.

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3 Tips For Saving Money On Your Next Car

For most people, cars are expensive, and it can be a hassle trying to find a car you can rely on without breaking the bank. When you’ve got a family, your car can make a world of difference; without it, life can be pretty tough. That’s why it’s important that when you’re looking to buy your car, you take it seriously. Taking more time when deciding on the right car for you can save you heaps of money, and a lot of stress when it comes to maintenance.

Saving Money On Your Next Car

Buy it used

First things first, if you’re looking to save money on a car, you shouldn’t go for something new. You might have the idea that surely a new car is more reliable – but that’s not always the case. There are plenty of hold models that hold up just as well as a new car would and could be more reliable than newer models of car. Just because someone else has driven it, doesn’t make it any less useful for what you need it for.

Used car shops have plenty of choices for you, and it would be a good idea to shop around so you have a good selection of cars to pick from. Check which ones have what you’re looking for, like affordability, space, and so on, and then do your research. You don’t have to make a purchase the same day you visit a dealership, so take your time with it and make sure you decide on something great.

Make it an investment

Just because you’re spending out on your car, doesn’t mean that you’re losing that money. While it’s true that some cars will go down in value over time, there are plenty of models that are still sought after, and you might even see the value of your vehicle go up after you’ve made the purchase. It would be worth taking a look into which models hold their value. Of course, you’re not guaranteed to make a profit on your investment, but it would be good to know that you have the potential to make some money back when it comes time to sell it in the future.

Sure, it’s not saving you money right this moment, but there’s no way to tell whether or not you’re going to need that money in the future. It’s a good way to get more from your money, without losing out on its value.

Consider the cost of owning the car

It’s not just the main price tag that you should be looking at when it comes to saving money, it’s the amount of money it’s going to cost you to run it. You need to make sure that you’re not buying a car with very low fuel efficiency, or else you’re going to be paying a lot more to keep it fueled for everyday use. While you might save some money on the initial purchase, if you’re making daily commutes, travelling with family, or just getting a lot of use out of it in general – you’re not going to save any money.

Getting To Know Me – Behind The Blogger Challenge!

I’ve had a rough week and due to this, I’ve felt unmotivated when it came to blogging. This is what led me to accept the Behind The Blogger Challenge.

Despite my woes, opening Twitter on Friday morning, I had a lovely surprise with @DTblogs tagging me in his getting to know me post. 

I love these kinds of posts. They allow us to get to know bloggers better and it’s fun. I genuinely felt a pang of excitement at knowing this was now the first task on my blogging to-do list for the weekend. What a great way to get back into blogging!

With the week off from my job, I can spend time doing what I love. A mix of blogging and resting. Bring on the daytime naps with the little one. Hopefully this post is the beginning of getting ahead on my blogging tasks.

Behind The Blogger Challenge

Here are some things you don’t know about me and I haven’t yet talked about on the blog. Let’s get into Behind The Blogger Challenge

I completed two 10k races 

I am no runner. But I gradually worked up from smaller runs. I found running helped my mental health and it became addictive to set my mind free and just go for it. 

Conquering not one, but two 10k races, I am immensely proud of myself. It was one of the toughest challenges, simply because it did not come easy to me and in all honesty, I didn’t train enough for either race. But I did it! And I still have the medals on display. My little one plays dress-up with my Race For Life, 5k medals. Who knows, maybe we will dress up and do one together to honour my family members taken too soon by cancer. 

All my grandparents were taken by cancer 

A grim and scary fact, but something which affects families across the world. My relatives were impacted by different forms of cancer and therefore doctors have assured me the heredity risk is low. However, I went through an extremely angry period in my late teens because I never met my grandma due to this awful disease. It’s probably what prompted me to participate in these fitness events. I have predominantly raised money for cancer charities. I think it’s also why I am spiritual and somehow feel a connection to my loved ones.

I wear glasses 

It didn’t happen until I was in my early 20s, but my dad always warned me it would. 

Luckily I can still see quite well without my glasses and mainly need them for working and watching television. Or these days when I’m in zombie mode. Your eyes don’t function properly on five hours of sleep and a busy day ahead of you. 

These days I have trendy colourful frames and they suit me. I also feel more intelligent when I wear glasses for work. What is it with that perception people have? 

I am civilly partnered but we call it marriage

I have a blog post in my drafts all about this, so one day you can all read about it. 

The basic gist of it is, we wanted to be a partnership, neither of us like much attention (we were glad it was a restricted guest allowance during lockdown) and we wanted an even, fair legal partnership. Therefore we decided to be civil partners. 

You can turn it into a marriage further down the line and if we ever did, I envision an all-inclusive in Mexico for three weeks, with the little ones older and involved. Mexico was our first holiday as a couple and what an unforgettable experience. Whilst I was there I checked out the wedding brochure and it’s cheap to do, compared with UK prices. 

I eat raw patatoes and frozen chips 

Before anyone asks, I’ve done this for years. Not as a result of pregnancy. Although during pregnancy I completely went off most of the foods and drinks I loved. Strange. 

I think the raw potato thing comes from Sunday dinners at home when my mum would leave potatoes soaking in the pan and they looked yummy. I also like the crunch. I can’t explain the frozen chips thing, but every single time I cook them I eat at least 1 or 2 before putting them in the oven. 

I volunteered to visit the elderly

I was previously part of a charity that receive referrals for befriending an older person, who may be vulnerable and in need of company. As you can imagine, this was very rewarding and I am always on the lookout for new volunteer opportunities. Unfortunately, due to being pregnant and super busy all the time, I had to stop.

If you’re interested in doing this, check out the Age UK befriending service.

Behind The Blogger Challenge

Final thoughts

Honestly, I’ve loved writing this Behind The Blogger Challenge piece and I feel like I was meant to be tagged in it. It’s brought back my writing mojo.

I nominate these amazing bloggers to accept the challenge if they feel able to do so:

SkinnedCartree

ClaireMac

TheGrumpyOlive

ThePlainSimpleLife

TheBlackPrincessDiaries

Ali’sUpsideDownWorld

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