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The ultimate list of self-care package gift ideas for every occasion

If you follow the blog, you’ll know I’m all about self-care. In addition to other aids, it’s what helped me recover from my breakdown. I finally started looking after myself after years of not doing so. 

And sometimes we need some products to assist us with our regime. A self-care package. What better way to relax?

In this post, I wanted to draw your attention to some of the trusted products I’ve used for years. The type of gifts I open, smile, and think to myself my family knows me well. 

Getting a new self-care product makes me happy. It’s also an excuse to ask my hubby to cover childcare so I can spend time trying it out

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The reason we ALL need a bit of self-care in our lives

These days, with lack of sleep and toddler madness, sometimes self-care for 15 minutes is all I have to make me feel a little bit better. And I take the opportunity. I’m currently writing this post with a face mask on, listening to yoga music. This is the first 15 minutes I grabbed to myself today and it’s 9 pm. I always need a self-care package on hand, for the moments I get to spend alone.

As a parent, making time for self-care is so important, and we should take time for ourselves. Even if it’s 5 minutes. Focusing on yourself will make you feel better. It will boost your energy and spur you on for the rest of your day. 

I learned the hard way, we should never neglect ourselves. Personal care is a basic human need and one I love to indulge in now. 

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    Speaking of indulgence, let’s dive into the list of must have products to add to your self-care package

    The Body shop 

    Shopping online at The Body Shop brings back so many memories. I remember buying the animal-shaped soaps because they smelled and looked amazing. 

    I was impressed by their ethos and I love scrolling through their range of products. 

    They come highly recommended by family and friends and are my go-to gift when I need to purchase something for Valentine’s Day. For any special occasion, you cannot go wrong with a purchase from The Body Shop. 

    Some of my product highlights 

    My brother loves the satsuma range and you will always find this in my shopping basket. 

    I love the sweet-smelling body butter and scrubs. The raspberry scrub smells good enough to eat. What an amazing addition to a relaxing bath, or even a quick shower for the busy mums out there. 

    For a previous anniversary, I purchased from the spa range. If you feel like getting romantic, it smells divine and you won’t be disappointed.

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    Sensory retreats

    I’ve been checking out the self heating eye masks and they look fantastic. They also come highly recommended, by customers leaving reviews and also top beauty influencers. You can find out more on their website.

    Getting a new self-care product makes me happy. It’s also an excuse to ask my hubby to cover childcare so I can spend time trying it out

    The beauty of it is, through sensory retreats, you can also buy now and pay later with Klarna. (PLEASE see their website for specific T’s & C’s.)

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    Spectrum collections 

    I’ve recently been checking them out for an occasion I have coming up. My relative loves make-up and I am impressed by the huge range of cute brush collections I found on their site. 

    Alice In Wonderland bundle

    I am loving the Alice In Wonderland bundle and would love this as a present for myself. Hehe!

    Hello Kitty

    For the present I need to buy, I love the look of these Hello Kitty brushes.

    It’s also a huge incentive, free delivery applies to all orders over £40.00 and you can use the Klarna app for your purchases. Mine got used a lot over the Christmas period.

    Final thoughts 

    If you like any of the products discussed in this post, or you want to browse at your leisure (I love a good internet shopping session!), click on the buttons below. 

    Do you use any of these products and what will you be purchasing for Valentine’s Day this year? 

    Let me know in the comments below, I would love to hear from you. 

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    A list of eight amazing healthy ways to mentally unwind

    I am on a mission to find new and inventive ways I can focus my attention on a menial task and mentally unwind. I previously wrote about my love of playing phone games to help with my mental health. Well, I’m back again with more suggestions on how you can grab those moments and make use of your time, to quiet your mind. 

    My motivation for writing this post comes from my need to look after myself for a little while. I had a tough year in 2021 and the factor weighing me down is now over. However, I still feel flat and worn out from my negative workplace experiences. It is time to prioritise myself for a while and indulge in self-care.

    I now also take on board the point, you can’t be a great writer unless you read varied materials. And I want to become a great writer! Reading and writing are methods I’ve always used to mentally unwind and I intend to do more of this.

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    READ ON FOR MY TIPS ON HOW TO USE SELF-CARE TO REDUCE STRESS

    A quick face mask 

    I have several face mask products that are easy to use. They give my skin a boost, but don’t take long to wash off or leave a mess afterward. Take time to replenish yourself, even if it’s just for five minutes.

    This is my favourite way to mentally unwind, and I particularly love the sheet face masks, because they are so quick and easy to use.

    Some shower products that bring calm 

    As a Christmas present, someone bought me a Sanctuary Spa set and it includes some luxurious shower oil. If I am having a down day, I use the shower oil and it makes me feel revived again.

    My family knows me well and they understand I need to mentally unwind.

    A few pages of a book

    If you follow the blog, you will know I struggle to fit in time to read books. For this reason, I have set up the Goodreads challenge for 2022. I now also take on board the point, you can’t be a great writer unless you read varied materials. And I want to become a great writer! Reading and writing are methods I’ve always used to mentally unwind and I intend to do more of this.

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    Seek out more online games

    You will all be aware, sometimes you get sick of the games you play on your phone. Because playing games helped my mental health, I must find one to keep my mind stimulated. Following my recent post, all about my love of phone games, it was time to find some more.

    My search landed me here. From first logging onto the plays.org website, I was instantly impressed by the ethos and the story behind the creation of the website. Both my hubby and I grew up playing games. Suffice to say, we are both huge fans of games as a way to mentally unwind and take us away from the pressure of daily life for a while. 

    What impresses me the most about the website is no advertising. Given my history with mental health, I can fall into addictive patterns. Games which ask me for more money as a way to unlock levels are dangerous. It would be easy for me to become obsessed and then disappointed, rather than feeling a sense of achievement. 

    For anyone who wishes to play the games themselves, I have included a few screenshots for you below.

    The games are easy to play. Logging into the website is quick and easy and you are instantly presented with colourful and clear instructions about how to proceed, as shown in the screenshots. 

    I am particularly loving one of the new games, colorush. What I love about this game is you can pause it to set up the barriers. It stimulates your mind, trying to work out where the colour will go. I also got a burst of satisfaction at going it right, seeing the colour head towards the pot. 

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    Super spice dash is the next game I found and I was honestly chuckling at the fact you’re playing with a popcorn chicken. It’s so cool. I opted to tilt my phone to steer, which meant the game was interactive. 

    I then decided to play neon invaders. Homage to space invaders and just as fun to play. I think this will be a favourite of mine when I have five minutes to de-stress. 

    Have a bubble bath

    The perfect way to mentally unwind is a hot bubble bath. Radox is my best friend. After a day of running around after a toddler, a nice relaxing bath to melt away the aches and pains is the perfect solution. I regularly have a hot bath before bed, to unwind from the day and relax. I’ve just bought some Pukka nighttime herbal teas and they are amazing.

    I like to have something to do whilst I am in the bath. I play games on my phone and also catch up with Twitter, especially if I haven’t got much done that day.

    Buy some fresh flowers

    My hubby used to buy tiger lilies for the house and they smell amazing. If I am feeling a bit down, I pick up a small bunch of flowers from the supermarket. I also love it when daffodils make an appearance. A small touch like this can help you feel a sense of calm.

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    Walk aimlessley

    I mean, we all walk with a purpose don’t we? For a functional reason. We are getting from A to B. But to mentally unwind, try walking aimlessly. Just set off, with no limit on time and see where the journey takes you. Following my mental breakdown, I did this daily and it improved my outlook on life. This being the case, I know for a fact sitting in nature and getting some fresh air can do wonders for you.

    Sit on a bench and watch the world go by

    This is another thing I did daily following my breakdown to mentally unwind. If you follow me on Instagram, you may have seen some of my reels from the local park. It’s exactly where I sat last year. The difference now is I am not the same person. Yes, I will always suffer from high levels of anxiety and bouts of depression. I don’t expect it to ever disappear and I have fully accepted it won’t. But, I know how to manage it better now and my mindset has vastly changed from the person I was a year ago.

    Final thoughts

    I hope you enjoyed reading my run down of activities you can do to mentally unwind.

    What do you do to mentally unwind? Is there a favorite activity you have when you’re limited to time?

    I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

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    5 vital tools to prevent seasonal affective disorder during the cold months of the year

    Why I’m exploring tools to help prevent seasonal affective disorder

    It’s a proven fact our mental health can naturally suffer during the colder months of the year. There is a condition called seasonal affective disorder (SAD). You can find an explanation on Mind.org.

    The website lists the following symptoms:

    • lack of energy
    • finding it hard to concentrate
    • not wanting to see people
    • sleep problems, such as sleeping more or less than usual, difficulty waking up, or difficulty falling or staying asleep
    • feeling sad, low, tearful, guilty or hopeless
    • changes in your appetite, for example feeling more hungry or wanting more snacks
    • being more prone to physical health problems, such as colds, infections or other illnesses
    • losing interest in sex or physical contact
    • suicidal feelings
    • other symptoms of depression

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    Due to lack of sunlight, or the ability to do as much exercise, our mental health can be negatively impacted. With the darker nights setting in, it isn’t as easy to go for an evening walk. We take it for granted in summer. We can come home from work, eat, have some downtime and also still then go outside. We don’t have this luxury in the UK from September onwards. 

    Preventing seasonal affective disorder isn’t easy. If like me, you already struggle with your mental health, it can be difficult to manage physical changes which may add to this burden. Some of the tools I use to manage my anxiety, like exercise and sitting on a bench in the park, may not be as readily available from now on. Sitting on a park bench is the last thing I want to do when it’s cold and raining sideways in the UK. It, therefore, becomes harder to stick to the routine I’ve previously built to keep my mind from getting carried away with itself.

    The reality of cold months in the UK

    I’ve personally suffered from down periods during the winter months in the past. Given the impact of the pandemic, I looked into buying a SAD lamp towards the back end of 2020. I know now, my mental health was already suffering due to work pressures and the impact the pandemic had on everyone’s mental health. 

    This year I need to be conscious I am only just returning to work around the time the darker nights start to set in and therefore I need to up my game in terms of self-care and preventative measures. It’s a catch 22 situation for me because I am looking forward to the autumn season, as explained in this post, but I am aware it could also negatively impact my mental health. 

    What does the research say?

    When the autumn months arrive, we tend to want to stay indoors due to the cold weather. When you look outside and it’s cold and raining, all you want to do is get wrapped up in a blanket on the sofa. You’re happy when someone suggests coming to your house for a cup of tea rather than going out somewhere. 

    I’m a homebody and love being at home, but too much indoor activity isn’t good for my mental health either. Therefore, it’s a fine line and I may have to push myself to take a walk in the rain this year. I need to focus on the mental health benefits this could bring, rather than the physical comfort of being at home.  

    Here’s the research on the factors which cause poor mental health…

    The NHS website confirms the following:

    “The main theory is that a lack of sunlight might stop a part of the brain called the hypothalamus working properly, which may affect the:

    • production of melatonin – melatonin is a hormone that makes you feel sleepy; in people with SAD, the body may produce it in higher than normal levels
    • production of serotonin – serotonin is a hormone that affects your mood, appetite and sleep; a lack of sunlight may lead to lower serotonin levels, which is linked to feelings of depression
    • body’s internal clock (circadian rhythm) – your body uses sunlight to time various important functions, such as when you wake up, so lower light levels during the winter may disrupt your body clock and lead to symptoms of SAD”

    There is also some research relating to lack of Vitamin D, which we naturally produce when exposed to sunlight: 

    “Deficits in vitamin D may exacerbate these problems because vitamin D is believed to promote serotonin activity. In addition to vitamin D consumed with diet, the body produces vitamin D when exposed to sunlight on the skin. With less daylight in the winter, people with SAD may have lower vitamin D levels, which may further hinder serotonin activity.”

    This Insider article explains more on the impact of lack of vitamin D during the winter months. 

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5 vital tools

    Tools I will be using this autumn/winter season

    SAD lamp

    Given my poor mental health across the majority of 2021, I think it’s time to invest in a SAD lamp and have it on my desk whilst I work. I need to act quickly and have measures in place to help if I’m unable to go outside for natural fresh air and sunlight. 

    Here are some I’ve found and I’m thinking of purchasing one:

    If anyone has recommendations for these lamps, let me know in the comments below.

    Vitamin D supplements

    I will be taking a separate vitamin D supplement, starting in the next few weeks. 

    Calcium

    The research also says taking a calcium supplement can help the vitamin D absorb in the body. 

    Less alcohol

    One of the articles above mentions liver and kidney function impacting vitamin D absorption in the body. In order to feel well, I will aim to drink less alcohol and stay hydrated.

    I know this comes at a time when people tend to drink more alcohol in the lead-up to the festive season. However, I need to be aware of the overall benefits of not getting sucked into this. Here are some amazing alcohol alternatives. I bought a few of these whilst I was pregnant. You still feel like you’re joining in, but don’t have the rubbish effects of alcohol on your body. I particularly suffer from IBS attacks when I drink a lot of alcohol and I become dehydrated easily.

    Eat well

    It’s tempting during the winter months to eat carbs or junk food. I think sometimes we subconsciously do this to feed an emotional void rather than physically feeding our bodies. 

    I will continue meal planning and shopping wisely with a view to no food waste, ensuring I eat healthily (you will hear more on my meal planning in future blog posts).

    Final thoughts 

    If you’re impacted by any of the symptoms listed above, you can find details of mental health charities here

    Let me know your story if you have been impacted in the past and the measures you’re taking to get ready for the upcoming colder season. 

    I would love to hear from you. 

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    Knowing when to stop is how I know I’ve evolved

    I know I’ve evolved – what an amazing statement. What’s better is a really mean it!

    Friends, I’ve made the executive decision to end my participation in #blogtober. It’s the best thing for me.

    I’ve been feeling a bit flat lately, deflated, and not sure why. The old me would never have recognised it needed to happen. I would have carried on regardless and ticked off another superwoman task on my endless, unachievable list. 

    However, the new me is all about a manageable to-do list and living life to the full.

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    My reasons for ending the challenge

    Well. Firstly I’m exhausted. I am sure my fellow bloggers who are taking part in Blogtober are feeling the same. I want to say a huge well done to anyone who is still going. Along with the bloggers who didn’t take part, well because blogging is the hardest work I’ve probably ever done. But I love it. 

    When I first started this challenge, I had enough content and I still have endless ideas recorded and blog posts partly written. But I reached a point where I’m just not feeling it. I am not happy with the posts I still need to finalise and I think I am experiencing burnout or the beginning of it. Something is missing and dare I say it, I think I may have writer’s block. Maybe more writers exhaustion. I need a break and luckily I am on another mini holiday at the point this post is being published. Cheers to that!

    Perspective and starting my fixed blogging schedule

    I’ve achieved so much in my short time blogging, but I was planning to release a fixed blogging schedule and try and plan as far in advance as I can. I am going to reorganise some posts and start the below schedule from Monday 18th October 2021.

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    Because I’m all about self-care, taking mental health breaks, and generally avoiding ever experiencing a mental breakdown again, it’s something I must do. 

    I know I’ve evolved because I feel differently now. But I will be honest and say before Blogtober began, I had thoughts about looking weak if I gave up. I also wondered what other people would think. Those toxic anxiety thoughts are creeping back in, but I’m not going to let them. I’ve challenged myself by completing two weeks of this amazing challenge and now it’s time to get organised. From now on, I have the blog to focus on, alongside working and I need to plan ahead.

    Final thoughts

    Hey, did I just write a blog post after releasing some pressure on myself after totally giving myself a break? It works. 

    Here’s to all you amazing bloggers for putting out amazing content each week. I can’t wait to keep reading your work and interacting with you. I can’t help but smile when I reply to comments and read your creations. 

    Take care of yoursleves and eachother

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