The Importance of Achieving a Work-Life Balance

Working Mum Mini-Series

POST UPDATED – November 2025

I’ve spoken recently about personally finding a work-life balance moving forward. But for this article, I’m interested in exploring why people go to work every day.

What motivates you to apply for a job? Have an early night to meet your 6 am alarm? Travel for an hour to get to work each day? Start a business and work for yourself.

I was surprised to learn it’s not always money motivating an individual to go to work each day. Let’s explore some of the motivations.

Money 

Some people are motivated by money and this is completely okay. It depends on your personality. There is no avoiding the fact that we all need money to live, especially now, in a cost-of-living crisis. However, money doesn’t have to be the main motivation for the role you currently do.

I’ve taken a pay cut twice before. Once in the past to cut down on travelling tim,e and recently to avoid stress and burnout.

Motivation 

Chill-out days are an essential part of a self-care routine, but ever felt more tired from doing nothing? Being busy inspires a sense of motivation to keep going and get more done.

It’s about finding a healthy balance between the two.

Sense of achievement 

We all love doing a great job. That sense of satisfaction when you cross things off your to-do list or clean the house from top to bottom. Maybe you declutter and sell things on a second-hand marketplace? Work from home and get through a lot in one sitting, with no distractions.

Whatever ‘sense of achievement’ means to you. Doing this regularly is great for well-being.

Sense of belonging 

During the pandemic, we all missed contact with our work employees. It allowed us to appreciate the interaction we have with other people daily. Socialising can be an important part of someone’s work life. I enjoy being in the office one day a week.

Sense of belonging 

During the pandemic, we all missed contact with our work employees. It allowed us to appreciate the interaction we have with other people daily. Socialising can be an important part of someone’s work life.

I find that sometimes I also get a sense of belonging through blogging. Signing up for a community like the Blogger Tuesday program allows me to make extra money and be part of something larger.

Helping other people

In setting up my blogs, the main motivation was to help people. The reality is, that it’s taken me a long time to make any money at all. There was always more than just this motivation pushing me along. If one or all three of my blogs never made money, I would still be satisfied that I had helped others out there.

I’ve also volunteered my time and organized charity events. None of which provided a financial reward. But to me, the reward of helping other people was much more satisfying.

The all-important work-life balance

I would say, a work-life balance has to be individual to the person in question. When I was single and living alone, I enjoyed my fast-paced, high-stress career. I also had free time to socialize with my work colleagues and immerse myself in the full “career” experience. Inevitably when you have a child, your priorities change. My perfect work-life balance is now about pursuing a fairly challenging role but also having time to spend at home with my little girl.

Mental health

Ultimately, from a mental health perspective, we should all be aiming for the below:

  • Meeting your deadlines at work while still having time for friends and hobbies
  • Having enough time to sleep properly and eat well
  • Not worrying about work when you’re at home

I will be honest and say that during the height of my financial career, I didn’t have many periods when these were consistently done. I learned the hard way how important it is to look after yourself.

Tips on managing work stress

Pause. Ask yourself: what’s currently causing me stress or unhappiness? How is that affecting my work and personal life? What am I prioritising? What am I losing out on? We often don’t take the time to reflect on work until there’s a major life event such as the birth of a child or the loss of someone close to us. But just pausing and thinking about your priorities can help you discover whether the way you’re living and working is right for you.
Pay attention to your feelings. Now you’re more aware of your current situation, how does it make you feel? Are you fulfilled and happy, or angry and resentful? Being aware of your feelings can help you decide which changes you want to make.
Reprioritise. Think about what needs to change. For example, you might want to ask yourself if working long hours is worth losing out on family time, or whether working weekends is worth losing out on your social life.
Consider your alternatives. Is there anything at work you can change to meet your new priorities?
Make changes. Maybe that’s asking for flexible hours, making sure you use all your annual leave or not checking your emails at the weekend, for example.   

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Value yourself and your time

I am personally thankful to be in a much better place mentally. Which may result in me taking on more responsibilities. But only because I work for a supportive company and there are boundaries.

Due to a lack of self-confidence and anxiety issues, it never occurred to me before to say no. I was a bit of a people pleaser and spent far too much time at work. Yes, I was rewarded financially. But this never made me happy. I had to spend that money to destress and surely that defeats the purpose. It certainly isn’t what I would call a work-life balance.

Until next time

I would like the takeaway from this post to be the following:

Realize that your time and energy are precious

Make sure the role you are applying for is suitable for your needs

Do you want to be associated with or work for a company with specific values

What would be a deal breaker and result in you saying no to a job offer?

Could you see yourself happy in this role?

Do you have any tips on achieving a work-life balance?

Have you taken a pay cut before to favour your happiness?

Let me know in the comments below.

work life balance

How Planning Ahead Can Calm Your Anxiety

Anxiety can really be a problem for people, and when things are uncertain, it definitely likes to make an appearance. You start thinking about what could go wrong, like missed deadlines, unexpected emergencies, and all the what ifs, for example, and soon enough, your brain is running in circles, and it’s totally exhausting. However, one of the simplest ways to make yourself feel better is to plan ahead, and with that in mind, keep reading to find out more. 

Planning Ahead Can Calm Your Anxiety

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Small Plans Make A Big Difference 

The good news is that you don’t need to plan years and years ahead to start feeling calmer – sometimes just doing smaller plans, like writing tomorrow’s to-do list before bed, for example, or setting reminders for things you need to do (and usually forget), and so on. 

What you’re trying to do isn’t to control everything (because it’s not possible), but if your brain has to deal with fewer unknowns, you’re not going to panic quite so much. When you’ve got a rough plan, you can stop living in reaction mode, and you’ll actually be a step ahead for a change, and that by itself can help massively when it comes to anxiety

Preparing For The Bigger Things 

The fact is that some of the biggest stresses in life come from being uncertain about what the future holds, meaning things like worrying about what might happen if you lose your job, get unwell, or need to need to make difficult legal or financial decisions, for example. That’s where professional support can really make a big difference. 

Working with experienced solicitors to get important paperwork in place, like a will, power of attorney, property agreements, and so on, can take a surprising amount of mental weight off your shoulders, and you won’t have to keep worrying about what might happen anymore because you’ve got it all handled. 

Planning Ahead Can Calm Your Anxiety

The Comfort Of Routine 

Something else to think about is the fact that routine can be another kind of planning that helps when it comes to anxiety. After all, when your day follows some kind of routine, your brain doesn’t actually have to make decisions all the time because you already know what’s next, so you’ll feel much calmer. 

And it’s simple things, like setting clothes out the night before, planning meals for the week, or keeping regular bedtime hours, that really do make the biggest difference to how you feel. True, they’re not going to take all the chaos away from life, but they’ll definitely make it easier to handle. 

Final Thoughts 

Anxiety really can be a problem, and sometimes it needs medication and clinical intervention to help with it, but sometimes it’s something you can deal with yourself, and when you remember that anxiety grows when you’re feeling uncertain, it’ll help remind you to plan ahead as much as possible. And that plan doesn’t have to be perfect, and it doesn’t need to be set in stone (the best plans are always flexible anyway), but if it’s there, it’s going to reduce anxiety and help you get on with your life. 

How Your Intuition Can Help You Make Smart Decisions

How Your Intuition Can Help You Make Smart Decisions

Ways in which Intuition draws us towards Smart Decisions

When and how to trust your gut instincts

Today I have another wonderful guest post to share with you all…

Trishna Patnaik has a BSc (in Life Sciences) and MBA (in Marketing) by qualification but is an artist by choice. A self-taught artist based in Mumbai, Trishna has been practising art for over 14 years. After she had a professional stint in various reputed corporations, she realised that she wanted to do something more meaningful.

She found her true calling in her passion which is painting. Trishna is now a full-time professional painter pursuing her passion to create and explore to the fullest. She says, “It’s a road less travelled but a journey that I look forward to every day.” Trishna also conducts painting workshops across Mumbai and other metropolitan cities in India.

Trishna is an art therapist and healer. She works with clients on a one-on-one basis in Mumbai.

Trishna fancies the art of creative writing and is dappling her hands in that too, to soak in the experience and an engagement with readers, wanderers and thinkers. 

Quick note: Some of the links contained on this page are affiliate links and if you go through them to make a purchase, I will earn a commission. I only recommend products I use myself and think would be useful for other people.

Make Smart Decisions
Make Smart Decisions

When times are stressful, every decision can seem monumental. It can be challenging to make big decisions. Like whether to leave a secure job for a risky one. But also to make smaller decisions – like whether to have chicken or fish for dinner.

Often, we intuitively know what we want to do, but we end up overthinking and get stuck in uncertainty. The best thing to do in those moments is to use your knowledge, experience, and yes, your intuition. This enables you to make a firm decision and trust that it’s the best one you could have made at the time.  However, this is easier said than done.

Here, are four actionable tips to help you access your intuition and make decisions with less stress: 

Make big decisions when you are relaxed

It is never advisable to make important decisions when emotions are running high. When we are anxious, angry, sad, or worried, our instinct is often to get rid of the feeling right away. But the short-term solutions we find do not always benefit us in the long run. Instead, we will get the best intuitive guidance when we are relaxed. Taking a few slow, easy breaths will help your nervous system settle and if the answer is there, it will reveal itself.

Write down the pros and cons

When you cannot make up your mind about what to do, jotting down the pros and cons can be helpful as a visual guide. It will allow you to look at the decision more objectively what could go right, and what could go wrong. It allows your mind to take in the full picture. Having done that, just trust your gut.

Do your research

Contrary to how it is sometimes portrayed, trusting your intuition does not mean abandoning your critical thinking skills. If you are unsure about your gut instincts, you can seek out advice from trusted friends, family, or professionals.  While taking their perspective in, be sure to remember that your opinion is the one that matters most. After all, the decision you make will primarily affect you. By doing your due diligence you can feel confident that your intuition is guiding you towards an informed decision.

Practice using your intuition 

You can hone and strengthen your intuition by practising with small decisions, like which restaurant to eat at. Give yourself permission not to overthink small decisions and go with what seems right at first. Try not to worry about whether you made the “right choice,” and just accept the choice for what it is. If that feeling of worry does come, simply sit with it, and practice becoming comfortable with the uncertainty. Once you have had practice trusting your intuition in low-stakes situations, you will feel more confident harnessing it during monumental moments.

How To Sell Preloved Items On Vinted

Ad – I was always an eBay user until I saw other bloggers discussing Vinted. Like everyone else, I started by slowly listing all the preloved items I wanted to sell.

Decluttering can be a great way to clear your mind and have a home reset. We all have items we want to pass on to someone else. And it’s about finding a way to do this.

Sell Preloved Items On Vinted

Facebook is a great tool for matching up the people who want certain items, with those people who are selling them.

Sam – Blogger – Owner of Thrift Plan Enjoy

Why I use Vinted to sell my preloved items

Easy-to-use app

As a busy mum, I need a platform that allows me to upload items without hassle. It takes me much less time to list items on Vinted, than eBay. Winner!

No fees

It’s also great to feel there is no penalty for selling your preloved items. On Vinted, you get to keep the proceeds from your sales. eBay charge a fee for all sales – the higher the value, the more they take from you.

Offers and bundle discounts

Sell Preloved Items On Vinted

You can set bundle discounts on your wardrobe. This means a buyer can have a set amount of discount applied – for buying several items. The feature is easy to use and lets you know when more items need to be added, to qualify for the discount.

I want other people to be successful in their side hustles.

Sam – Blogger – Owner of Thrift Plan Enjoy

The strategy I used for making money on Vinted

Important note

Before we dive into this strategy, it’s important for me to say, this may not work for everyone. Selling items on Vinted depends on so many different variables. Including pricing of your items, what you have for sale and how you promote your wardrobe.

Prior to actively promoting my items by using a set strategy, my sales were slow. And I would occasionally sell some items. I never had consistent sales. Recently, I’ve had sales following every promotional post I’ve added to Facebook. Showing the power of Facebook as a selling tool.

The timescales

Sell Preloved Items On Vinted

I started promoting my Vinted wardrobe on 8th September 2023, up until 16th September 2023. I used set wording during this time and promoted my Vinted via Facebook. I used Vinted selling Facebook groups, where you are able to post advertisements. I also used my own Facebook page to advertise.

Sell Preloved Items On Vinted

Including screenshots of the items I have for sale, also helped in allowing people to know whether I had what they were looking for.

Something I started doing, was replying to Facebook posts, about what people were looking for. If I had the item in my wardrobe, I replied with my standard promotion wording (see below) and a picture of the item they were looking for.

The only downside to Vinted is that you can’t filter to search for bundle discounts. When you want a lot of varied items, you end up trawling through endless wardrobes. And it can be time consuming.

Facebook is a great tool for matching up the people who want certain items, with those people who are selling them.

How much money did I make?

£143.88

This is how much money I made in just 9 days.

However, it is important to note that I spent most of my free time promoting Vinted on Facebook. And as a result of this, I wasn’t doing my general social media blog promotion, for my other blogs.

That said, the hard work paid off!

Template wording for you to use

Doing any side hustle can benefit you. And it should never be about competition. Especially in the current climate, with a cost of living crisis. I want other people to be successful in their side hustles.

Sign up for my newsletter – I will be sending out regular tips on side hustling. And you will get exclusive blog posts, that are not released on my blog. I can’t wait to connect with you!

Some tips for your promotion wording – feel free to copy & paste the below wording:

I used emojis in my promotion – which draws the eye to the post and makes it a little more user-friendly. Listing the items I had for sale, also helped me gain sales.

Thank you for the recent orders – this is the latest batch to go out! Still have plenty of the following. & a few more items to list over the weekend…

[YOUR USERNAME] – Up to 50% bundles on 

LOTS of toys for Christmas presents 
Plus size clothes
Size 7 ladies’ shoes
Baby & toddler shoes & trainers
Age 12 months – 3 years clothes
Baby blankets & towels
Body Shop items
Books
adult Journals

[YOUR USERNAME] – WANT EVERYTHING GONE – send an offer (on bundles or individual items) I WILL ACCEPT! (Know some ppl say they will, but then don’t! You won’t find that here )

Up to 50% bundles on  **grab yourself a bargain!

**Resellers – happy for you to make bundles and then request additional discounts!

Posting out next day from now until Saturday!! Will be checking my phone & accepting ALL offers…

[YOUR USERNAME] – Up to 50% bundles on 

I’m posting in the morning & still have loads of these items left – more will be listed tomorrow…

LOTS of toys for Christmas presents 
Plus size clothes
Size 7 ladies’ shoes
Baby & toddler shoes & trainers
Age 12 months – 3 years clothes
Baby blankets & towels
Body Shop items
Books
adult Journals

[YOUR USERNAME] – Up to 50% bundles on  need my space back 

**I will accept offers – feel free to make a bundle then request an extra discount, or send offers on individual items

**Resellers – happy for you to make bundles and then request additional discount

I’m listing a few more items this evening… including Christmas clothing (age 1-4yrs)

[YOUR USERNAME] Posting today!!

[list the items you have for sale, with emojis] 

STILL a few hours left TO OFFER WHAT YOU WANT…

[YOUR USERNAME] – WANT EVERYTHING GONE – send an offer (on bundles or individual items) I WILL ACCEPT! (Know some ppl say they will, but then don’t! You won’t find that here )

Up to 50% bundles on  **grab yourself a bargain!

**Resellers – happy for you to make bundles and then request additional discounts!

Posting out the next day from now until Saturday!! Will be checking my phone & accepting ALL offers…

Until next time

I hope you find this post useful.

Do you sell on Vinted? Or will you be using this wording?

Let me know how your sales go – I would love to hear about your progress…

Sell Preloved Items On Vinted

5 Benefits of Meal Planning to Save You Time & Money

I’ve been meal planning for our family for a while now. It allows me to plan for one week of meals only and usually enables me to narrow down the shopping list from what I originally intended to buy. This saves me about £10-£20 weekly and eliminates food waste. 

When you order from a meal planning subscription service, like HelloFresh or gousto, the meals are carefully planned for one week. This allows you to use all the ingredients within their use-by dates. It’s also easier to manage one week’s family meals. With recipe cards to follow and simple, easy ingredients. Which make restaurant standard meals.

Benefits of Meal Planning

Quick note: Some of the links contained on this page are affiliate links or referral links and if you go through them to make a purchase, I will earn a commission. I only recommend products I use myself and think would be helpful for other people

I recently wrote a blog post about the difference between HelloFresh & gousto – including all the benefits and downsides of the deliveries

Let’s dive into the great benefits of meal planning

Flexibility 

If we have a particularly busy week, I plan meals that are simple and easy. As a busy working mum, I regularly buy frozen meal components from Iceland. Such as frozen mashed potato and microwave vegetable bags. I can then easily put a meal together in no time. 

Outlining the meals I will cook each day, around our plans can help me to stay in control. And make life easier for our family. On the days we have other things to do. 

Once I’ve meal planned, it’s something I don’t have to worry about. Which is a huge bonus! I have many plates spinning at once. It feels like I have a million browser tabs open in my head. Therefore, any task that can be organised and taken off my plate (pun intended!) is good for me mentally. 

Prevents lazy cooking and takeaways 

Due to money problems and focusing on paying off debt, we haven’t had a mid-week takeaway in a while. Meal planning allows me to focus on the ingredients I already have at home. And motivates us to cook that evening. Instead of defaulting to the easier option.

I’ve recently written a post about Sainsbury’s basic range. And I must say, their fruit and vegetables last longer than any other supermarket I’ve recently tried

It limits waste 

Food like fruit and vegetables only lasts a certain amount of time. And it’s essential we limit the food we waste, to all do our part towards sustainability. When you walk into a supermarket, without a shopping list and a meal plan for the week, there is a tendency to pick up items you really don’t need. Or food items that don’t factor into the meals you intend to make for the week. Which will usually result in them being wasted.

Seeing the bigger picture for the whole week can allow you to put back certain items, which in turn saves you money and limits the amount of food waste you have.

Creating a Healthier Relationship with Food

We’ve always tried to eat well in our house. The problem is the snacks and chocolate making it into the supermarket trolley or the basket when we purchase a “few bits” during the week. 

Meal planning allows me to factor in any dietary requirements. And occasions where we want to be a little healthier. For example, I don’t do well with spicy food. Even though I love curry or chilli. Due to my IBS, it’s important to only eat spicy foods when I have a day off work the next day. 

If you would like to get started on your meal-planning journey, feel free to download my free, printable weekly meal planner

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Introduce variety into your mealtimes

On an average month, we try and make a variety of meals. If we don’t manage to plan a lovely meal we like one week, we have it the next. And any ingredients I have managed to put back or delete from my online grocery shopping basket, I add to next week’s plan.

Signing up for a meal planning subscription service, like HelloFresh or gousto has also enabled us to have even more variety for meal times and try new things.

Until next time

I hope you enjoyed reading my tips about meal planning.

Do you meal plan? Do you have any tips for me? I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

Benefits of Meal Planning

5 Home Remedies to Deter Spiders and Bugs

It’s that time of year – bugs and spiders are about! Living by a canal is great, but bugs aren’t! For this reason, I have my home remedies to eradicate them from the house. Here is my guide on how to Deter Spiders and Bugs.

Each year is different. Sometimes we get large spiders, but the worst type is the cream-coloured ones, which are the same colour as our walls. You don’t know they are there until you’re up close to them! 

Maybe it’s a past-life thing or something, but I have a fear of spiders. Our house can get quite hot. Therefore we need to open the patio doors for most of the summer. This isn’t great when we have wildlife right outside our windows. Whilst I love how scenic it is living here, I shouldn’t have to live with bugs inside my house

Deter Spiders and Bugs
Deter Spiders and Bugs

Quick note – Some of the links contained on this page are affiliate links and if you go through them to make a purchase, I will earn a commission. I only recommend products I use myself and think would be useful for other people.

To make the boundary clear, I use home remedies. And I want to talk to you about them in this blog post:

1. Essential oils 

Having researched a few years ago, I learned that eucalyptus and peppermint oil deters bugs and spiders. Since then, I make up my solutions in spray bottles, by adding three drops of the oil, mixed with water. I also combine some drops of oil with the existing cleaning products I use. 

Deter Spiders and Bugs

2. Citrus cleaning products only 

Image courtesy of Poundshop

I love using floral cleaning products. And according to the season, I may switch it up a little. We all need a Cinnamon vibe in Autumn. But during the spring and summer months, it is citrus only in our house. 

Deter Spiders and Bugs
Image courtesy of Poundshop

This is one of my favourite cleaning products and it smells amazing. It’s also very cheap!

Astonish Kitchen Cleaner, 750ml – Zesty Lemon

3. Diffusers and air fresheners 

Image courtesy of Poundshop

I’m a huge fan of scents dotted around the house. And in my fear fuelled, panic buying, I once came across these amazing air fresheners. Airpure refill for an automatic air freshener.

Putting them high up on shelves and in the bathrooms makes a difference to the number of spiders we get in the house. 

4 Citronella 

You’ve all seen the citronella products available when you go camping. There’s a reason people use them effectively to get rid of bugs, which is a must if it’s just you in a field, with a tent. 

I’ve adapted the use of citronella to the house. In addition to a range of lemon and lime smells.

We own everything from wax melts to incense sticks, to reed diffusers. I’ve even tried some cool hanging gadgets to solve the problem.

Deter Spiders and Bugs

Citronella all the way!

Image courtesy of Poundshop

Check out this Eden Tear Drop Colour Changing USB Ultrasonic Misting Aroma Diffuser

Deter Spiders and Bugs

If you want to try citrus oils as part of your well-being routine, try Tisserand Essential Oils

5. Cotton wool balls in glasses

Buying all of these citronella products can become expensive. To solve this problem, I use cotton wool balls in shot glasses, which I dot all around the house. I’ve also recently started adding my oils to scent boosters, which works really well for our balcony.

HOW TO make a spider-busting potion using scent boosts – Get an old pot candle holder (must be able to hold boiling water). Add the scent boosters, Pour in a small amount of hot water. Add three drops of each essential oil: peppermint, eucalyptus and lime.

Image courtesy of Poundshop

Until Next Time

I hope you found some useful remedies and products to get you started with eradicating nasties from your home.

Do you use any of these products? Are there remedies I should know about?

I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

Deter Spiders and Bugs

How To Pick Your Bedroom Colour Scheme and Why It Matters

AD – First of all, let’s ask whether the colour you choose for your bedroom, actually matters. Well, the answer is, yes it does. Colour has been proven to have an impact on our mood. And bedtime is such an essential time of the day. It’s important to ensure you get a restful sleep. Because sleep is so crucial in guaranteeing we can function in our daily lives. 

Here are some things to consider when choosing a colour scheme for your bedroom:

How do you want your bedroom to make you feel?

Think about the times you settle down for a nap. Do you like to feel relaxed, and comforted? Are you a reader? Maybe you like to watch television or create things in your bedroom space. Using the power of your imagination.

Depending on how you would like to feel when you’re in the room, you need to consider how colours can impact your mood. 

Bedroom Colour Scheme

Consider how colour affects lighting

When choosing a paint colour or wallpaper for your bedroom, you need to consider how colour impacts lighting. Daylight bulbs and bright white light have a higher kelvin number and are a bit cooler in colour. Incandescent lighting intensifies warm colours, like red, orange and yellow. By contrast, it dulls cooler colours like blue. 

Accessorise using colour 

Before you purchase an expensive tin of paint. Maybe try some smaller additions, to test out whether you like the vibe. 

Maybe you are unsure of which colour to use for your bedroom decor. Or you simply don’t have a strong enough preference. You need some inspiration. You could start off by using different coloured accessories around your room, to test out whether you like the mood it creates.

Whether it be curtains, a rug, or coloured furniture. Or a personalised cushion, positioned perfectly on a new colourful bedcover.

Use a colour wheel or tester pot

When choosing your accessories, if it’s curtains you have decided on, get a swatch of material to take home and test. It’s important to look at the material and how it will actually look in your bedroom. If you’re painting, get tester pots in all the colours you love. And spend time making the correct decision.

You will have to live in this newly decorated room for several years. It’s important to test, in order to eliminate some of the options you thought you might like. Be certain you have definitely made the correct decision. And that the right mood will be created for your home. 

Consider the colour of your bed and headboard 

We all know the advice – replace your bed every seven years! However, it is likely you may want to change your bedroom colour scheme several times within this period. If you have an existing bed you bought to match an old colour scheme, it’s important to think about how the colours of the room will impact the existing bed. 

Consider the size of your room and use accent walls 

Arranging colours or textures in a room can change the perspective. Essentially making the room appear wider, longer or taller. Darker colours can make the room appear closed and smaller. Lighter colours can make the space appear larger. 

When picking an accent wall, ensure it is the focal point of the room. And, it’s also important to ensure the accent wall compliments and stands out from the other colours in the room. 

Make it personal 

You can spend hours in the local DIY store, looking at thousands of variations of the same paint colour. Not to mention that each paint brand usually has its own colour chart. Which can make the whole task more complicated. then it’s time to buy tester posts and research the benefits of each colour. 

Regardless of the overwhelmed feeling this creates, or store assistants trying to sell their paint brand. Ultimately you need to ensure you are picking a colour you love. Something you are passionate about and that resonates. After all, you will be the only person sleeping in the room night after night. 

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Bedroom Colour Scheme

Psychology of Procrastination: Delaying Important Tasks Until the Last Minute

Today I have a great guest post to share with you all!

Trishna Patnaik has a BSc (in Life Sciences) and MBA (in Marketing) by qualification but is an artist by choice. A self-taught artist based in Mumbai, Trishna has been practising art for over 14 years. After she had a professional stint in various reputed corporates, she realised that she wanted to do something more meaningful. She found her true calling in her passion which is painting. Trishna is now a full-time professional painter pursuing her passion to create and explore to the fullest. She says, “It’s a road less travelled but a journey that I look forward to every day.” Trishna also conducts painting workshops across Mumbai and other metropolitan cities in India. 

Trishna is an art therapist and healer. She works with clients on a one-on-one basis in Mumbai.

Trishna fancies the art of creative writing and is dappling her hands in that too, to soak in the experience and an engagement with readers, wanderers and thinkers. 

Quick note: Some of the links contained on this page are affiliate links and if you go through them to make a purchase, I will earn a commission. I only recommend products I use myself and think would be useful for other people.

Procrastination
Procrastination

Introduction

The word procrastination has its origin in the Latin word pro-crastinus where “pro” means “forward or in favour of” and “crastinus” means “of tomorrow”. It refers to delaying a task for a later time or sometimes completely avoiding it.

Procrastination is a highly widespread act as it could be described as someone knowing what he/she is bound to do in an assigned task and even willing to accomplish it but failing to complete the task in a given or an expected framework of time.

Procrastination is a complex phenomenon. It emphasises neglecting to do what we know we should be doing. And at times we can get very creative in our neglecting techniques. If you find yourself procrastinating daily then to know the cause for your inactivity you need to dig your soul a bit! 

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Procrastination is one of the biggest obstacles towards productivity and a guilty refuge of creative capacity everywhere. It is something we are all guilty of, and something we all have our tactics (sometimes with varying degrees of success) to combat. So what makes us procrastinate? Why is the temptation so great, even as we know we need to complete the task at hand? 

First, let us take a look at the psychology of procrastination. While everyone procrastinates to some extent, not everyone happens to be a chronic procrastinator. There are relatively harmless instances of procrastination—not starting a project until you’ve gone to the washroom, checked Instagram, refilled your coffee and even organized everything in your top desk drawer, or leaving out your least favourite task for Friday afternoon. 

But there are also the very unhealthy procrastination habits that find you staring at a blank computer screen for an hour, or that leave you awake in the middle of the night in a cold sweat, agonizing over the work you didn’t complete at all, wondering how you’ll ever get it done the very next day!

Four Types of Procrastination and How to Beat Them

We all procrastinate at some point or another but most of us don’t consider the reasons why we do it. There is a tendency to assume that we procrastinate because we are weak or we would be simply doing something more fun. 

Let us cover the four types of procrastinators:

1. Anxious procrastination

Procrastination is a mechanism for coping with the anxiety associated with starting or completing any task or decision. People who procrastinate a lot are usually bad at managing their time and often end up scheduling more work than they can complete, leaving no time for fun activities or resting. So not fulfilling these unrealistic expectations does cause stress and anxiety which some people deal with by procrastinating.

How to beat it

 “Unschedule method” as a way to combat this anxiety-driven procrastination!

The unscheduled method involves filling your schedule with fun activities and rest before scheduling any work. For example, if you find yourself checking Facebook for 15 minutes at 3 pm every afternoon, schedule Facebook time first and plan your work around that. This scheduled fun or downtime will give you the chance to relax and prevent you from overscheduling.

2. Fun procrastination

The fun procrastinator would rather be doing anything except that one dreaded task. After all, there are so many exciting things you could be doing instead, how can you even bear to start that boring project?

How to beat it

If there’s absolutely no way you are going to start on that one dreaded task, try indulging yourself in some structured procrastination. You are going to procrastinate anyway so why not make it useful? Give in to your desire to procrastinate, but instead of watching videos of flowers on YouTube, start another item on your to-do list. By starting another item first, you’ve made the dreaded task a lower priority which (in theory) makes you dread it a lot less, and in the meantime, you are still being productive. It’s a win-win.

3. “Plenty of time” procrastination

Many people find it difficult to start a project when they know the deadline is a long way down the line. This type of procrastination is visible in people who often struggle to start an assignment earlier than a few days before the deadline.

You may also have tasks that don’t have deadlines. Take a look at your to-do list. Chances are you have at least one item that you’ve been putting off for weeks if not months. It’s something you want to do, and you know it is for the better, but you keep putting it off.

How to beat it

Please set your deadlines. The implications of the same. By setting deadlines and announcing them publicly, you will not only get the work done, but you’ll do a good job of it!

So try setting deadlines and telling your friends, family and co-workers about them. This public commitment should keep you on track and motivate you to meet those deadlines.

4. Perfectionist procrastination

Perfectionists are always striving for the best and, as such, are constantly criticizing their work. For some perfectionists, the fear of failing, or producing work to a low standard, can be so overwhelming they never get around to starting anything!

Procrastination is the enemy of success.

How to beat it

Procrastinating can be a good thing for perfectionists. As long as they have a lot of time to do a task, they fantasize about doing a perfect job. Leaving it till the last minute is a way of permitting oneself to do a merely adequate job. 99 per cent of the time a merely adequate job is all that is needed.

Do revisit the last 5 jobs you completed. Were they all perfect? Probably not! Were they sufficient? Chances are you are already working towards a high standard so do stop giving yourself a hard time. Identify the times when you didn’t do the perfect job, but the consequences were the same as when you did, this will help you to overcome your perfectionist routine and in turn, stop procrastinating.

What is cognitive psychology?

Cognitive Psychology is the branch of psychology that studies mental procedures encompassing how people contemplate discerning, recalling, and learning. As a portion of the larger field of cognitive science, this division of psychology is connected to supplementary control encompassing neuroscience, philosophy and linguistics.

Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin.

Following are some of the cognitive causes of procrastination:

Fear of Failure

Linking the task to our self-worth is often the crucial mistake that leads to deferring a task. We can often go to self-defeating lengths to prevent feeling judged. Yet, when we judge ourselves as failures, we fulfil this very expectation by either not completing the task, finishing the task late, or completing the task in a substandard way. But if we wrongly believe that our self-worth is based on our talent and our performance, then procrastination becomes the way by which we block either of these aspects from being on display.

Fear of Success

There are many reasons why potential success can be so threatening. For some, there is the fear that success can be too difficult to maintain, for others, cultural pressures may bring deep shame on those who fail, while others simply fear competition and not winning.

Some procrastinators avoid success because, on some irrational level, they expect to be negatively labelled for their desire to win, For example, they may fear being thought of as ‘selfish’, or ‘arrogant’ if they are successful!

Similarly, for others the fear of success is based on low self-esteem issues, feeling that they are not worthy of success, some people procrastinate because of another low self-esteem issue: fatalism and some people feel that they will lose love or be hated by others if they succeed.

Lack of Self-Confidence

People who suffer from procrastination tend to have lower self-esteem in turn be less confident than others. If you do not feel good about yourself, you may feel that others are cleverer and that you can’t bear to show your perceived inferior work. It is important to be aware of how you criticize yourself and how this can cause you to freeze when work is due to avoid being judged.

Poor Study Skills

Failure to understand how to produce work quickly can lead to feeling overwhelmed and thereafter cause procrastination.

Emotional and mental health problems

If you become overwhelmed, you will feel unable to complete tasks or cope with your relationships. This can potentially exacerbate emotional problems, making task completion very difficult.

Anxiety

People tend to procrastinate on tasks that seem stressful to them. Hence, people who easily get under stress start to procrastinate. There is a list of things that makes people anxious especially irrational beliefs; it does include a variety of anxiety-provoking world views.

Anger

Procrastination can occur when you’re angry feelings get the better of you. Example: when you may feel let down by friends and social circle. An angry response to such situations can be an avoidance of social or academic responsibilities.

Your mind is for having ideas not holding them.

Effects of procrastination

Procrastination has negative impacts both in your personal and professional life and also on one’s health. Most of the negative impacts are related to one’s daily life. 

The Major ones which according to most psychologists and the public are important are as follows:

  • Procrastination is indeed a time-killer.
  • Procrastination promotes poor academic performance and professional performance.
  • Procrastination produces stress and anxiety 
  • Postponement of tasks could hinder achievement in life endeavours.
  • Deadlines are often not met due to the postponement of tasks.
  • The greatest opportunities are lost due to procrastination.
  • A delayed task is a delayed success.

Action will destroy your procrastination.

Cures of procrastination

To get rid of procrastination one needs to get fully aware of the behavioural changes. Secondly, try to make the task less threatening and more enjoyable so that it doesn’t haunt and one doesn’t fear starting the task. Thirdly, make it a habit that before starting any task, make a plan or procedure of how to come across it, this way things will become a lot simpler. Fourthly, one needs to have good time management skills, especially in the field of planning so that one is aware of the significant future outcomes.

General counselling and psychotherapy techniques have yielded some improvement in procrastination; however, specific behavioural and cognitive-behavioural techniques appear to be more effective in reducing procrastination. One should have proper aims set, divide the work, and change one’s thinking of perfectionism and fear of outcome will help in reducing procrastination.

Unhealthy Sleep

Lack of sleep is likely to make you procrastinate. This is because of the negative effects that unhealthy sleep inflicts. This causes laziness and eventually, the person loses the spark needed to perform any task.

Diet

Diet plays a very important role in procrastination. An unhealthy diet made of low-quality ingredients works negatively on the mind and the rest of the body. The vitamins and other essentials when are not part of the diet, the body’s efficiency decreases and then one starts to delay his work.

Conclusion

Learning is a relatively permanent change in an organism’s behaviour due to experience. According to Segment Freud child’s personality is built within 6 years. And if during those six years, the child is taught procrastination through observation it will go on all through his life and he will keep on delaying all his work without considering that there is something wrong with it. One type of learning is imitation and observation. Procrastination is something which is not in-built but is observed and learned from the surrounding. 

My advice is to never do tomorrow what you can do today. Procrastination is the thief of time. –Charles Dickens

5 Of The Best Easter Gifts If You Want To Avoid Chocolate

Easter is a wonderful time of year. However you celebrate the occasion, it’s completely valid to want to steer away from chocolate. Personally, I try to eat well to help myself mentally. Everyone will have their own reason. Or maybe you want to combine your Easter basket with some other gifts, as well as the yummy chocolate treats. Whatever your preference, I have you covered with this gift guide.

Easter Gifts

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Contempee

I think it’s fitting to start with an Easter table setting. Because this is where the family gathers and often the liveliest place in the house during holiday periods.

Homeware brand Contempee has an array of beautiful gifts for the Easter holiday. Their faux flowers, including hydrangea and cherry blossom, make the perfect centrepiece to a dining table for Easter lunch. Adding that fresh spring feeling to your home.

Easter Gifts

You can be safe in the knowledge the flowers won’t die and there is no ongoing maintenance. I am really impressed with how lovely they look and they really bring my living room to life. The vase is also really stylish.

Living and Home

Maybe you’re actually looking for a dining table so family you can have family around. So many memories are created during these gatherings and I have an affordable brand to share with you.

Easter Gifts

Having a small dining table in our home has transformed meal times. It’s where we do crafts with the little one. I can do my work overlooking the canal and it’s great when we have guests around. I don’t know what we did before sitting at the table.

Kiddycharts.com

This website makes lots of great activities, which can be fun at Easter. With free resources for parents, and schools. Some of these don’t cost anything, so it’s a perfect solution during the cost of living crisis as well.

How about some Mini Egg Brownies as a gift? Or some fun Easter colouring ideas that kids can do and then give to parents and family? What a cute idea. They also have some Easter Egg hunt ideas too. And even an Easter cake – another perfect gift!

If people join the premium site for free, there are even more ideas. This includes a scavenger hunt, as well as an Easter wreath to make as a gift too. The website also gives 51%+ profits to charity and has a free WELLBEING book club.

And Kiddycharts.com has kindly produced an easter colouring sheet, especially for my readers – feel free to download it!

Mr Bubble

Initially offered as an alternative to tapioca in bubble tea drinks, these wonderfully tasty show stoppers have now taken over the dessert space with many alternative uses in ice creams, milkshakes, cocktails, slush drinks and frozen yoghurt.

The beauty of popping boba is the ability to provide a flavour twist without affecting the main flavour of the drink or dessert itself, every bite is a flavour explosion that never disappoints!

I can’t wait to try this amazing bubble tea. I’ve heard great things about it and the set looks fab. Such an exciting thing to make with my toddler and it would be perfect as a gift for Easter, or any occasion.

Easter Gifts

Paper High

Born out of a love of travel, Paper High began as a round-the-world trip. An unexpected change in destination, an extended stay in Kathmandu, and a chance meeting with a paper maker sowed the seed of an exciting business idea.

On this site, you will find many quirky, unique gifts. I find myself browsing through and imagining these unique items dotted around my home.

Easter Gifts

Some of my favourite items from the website

Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed browsing these unique gifts, as an alternative to chocolate for Easter.

Which one is your favourite? I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

Easter Gifts

Self-Care Beauty Finds You Need In Your Life

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Let’s dive into my list of trusted self-care products I use:

BEAUTYPRO Vitamin C Brightening Mask

The intelligent sheet mask sits closely on the contours of the face, delivering a cocktail of anti-ageing ingredients directly to the skin. Soaked in Marine Collagen, Vitamin C and an array of herbs and botanicals, the face mask combats fine lines, wrinkles and pigmentation, reducing their appearance to reveal a youthful and radiant complexion. A dull complexion is instantly transformed, leaving skin enviably bright in just fifteen to twenty minutes.

Perfect for busy mums and anyone who needs self-care in a hurry.

BarberPro Hydrating Mask – 100% Biodegradable

The rejuvenating formula with Soybean and Chamomile instantly soothes redness and irritation while targeting and calming blemishes and clogged pores. Wild Rose brightens, tones and nourishes for a pampered and replenished complexion. What’s more, it comes in a biodegradable pouch, while the mask itself is made using Bamboo fibres, which are super gentle on sensitive skin. 

My hubby tried this one and absolutely loved some self-care.

REN Perfect Canvas Smooth, Prep & Plump Essence

A bio-ferment essence that helps to protect the skin and prep it perfectly for subsequent products.

Make your routine work harder. Proven to boost the benefits of skincare, and clinically proven to help strengthen the skin barrier and protect against pollution, this smoothing facial essence creates a perfect canvas that’s perfectly plumped, protected and prepped for the day ahead.

I tried this product and it is lovely on the skin. It’s silky, and smooth, but doesn’t dry that way. And even on the first day of using it, my skin was plumper. It is now one of my daily skin routine essentials.

Paul Mitchell Clean Beauty Scalp Drops

Instantly help relieve discomfort from a dry, oily or sensitive scalp with this ultra-lightweight scalp serum. Infused with grapevine sap and chamomile extract to help soothe and nourish the scalp, and zinc to help rebalance sebum and gradually restore the scalp

Can be used daily on wet or dry scalp for a targeted leave-in treatment.

Tisserand Aromatherapy

It’s in our nature

There’s a reason we have kept the great Tisserand name on our beloved products. Year after year, we learn and grow as a team, with Robert Tisserand’s pioneering essential oil expertise remaining our anchor and inspiration for our sourcing and blending. With his secrets passed down in person since he founded the brand in 1974, every element of our process has expertise behind it with a hand-crafted feel.

Experience aromatherapy for your well-being, crafted with love by the next generation of the Tisserand family.

Our Philosophy – Established in 1974:

  • To source the finest 100% natural pure essential oils of uncompromising quality.
  • To share our heritage, knowledge and expertise in blending to create products you can trust.
  • To offer innovative products that provide a holistic approach to well-being and beauty.
  • To make aromatherapy accessible to everyone and easy to adapt to our fast-paced modern lives

My story with Tisserand

You often come across a great brand in unexpected places. I was first introduced to Tisserand when I visited my holistic therapist for a full-body massage. I haven’t looked back. And for pulse oils and other well-being products, they are my go-to brand.

Beauty Finds

Living Social Beauty

A range of great, discounted beauty bundles to choose from. I love getting a discount on beauty products, as you can then spend your hard-earned money on something else.

Buy A Gift beauty treatments

I’ve used these vouchers before, both as a treat for myself and as gifts for other people. The best one I purchased was the Bannatyne Spa Day voucher.

Until Next Time

I hope you enjoyed reading about some of my fave beauty products.

Can you share some of yours? I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

Beauty Finds