One of the hardest things any of us will ever have to go through in life is losing a loved one but it is an experience we will all have. Grief is a tough process to go through. Some of the tips that can help you through this difficult time in life.
When you lose a loved one and you are already struggling with poor mental health, it can feel like it is an impossible thing to get through, but there are several things you can do to help you through your grief as well as possible.
1. Don’t do it alone
It can be tempting to retreat into yourself when you have experienced a deep loss, but right now you need support. Whether you have a friend come along with your to speak to the funeral director or you have a family member come over and keep you company in those early days, opening up to people and letting them help you will make all the difference to your journey through grief.
2. Make time for self-care
Grief can be pretty exhausting. Not only do you have to make various arrangements but you will undoubtedly be spending a lot of time crying, trying to come to terms with what has happened, being unable to sleep, etc. That is why it is more important than ever that you look after yourself. From taking some time out. To read a good book. Maybe have a hot bath that will help you relax, and self-care you can do when you are grieving will help to support you through said grief.
3. Know that it will feel better
It might not feel like it right now, but the raw grief you are feeling will start to heal in time. You will never forget the people you have lost, and you will still experience periods of sadness from time to time, but it will get easier to hold your grief and live with it. Remind yourself of this fact when things are feeling impossible.
4. Think about the good times
Remembering all of the good times you had with the person you have lost, what kind of person they were and how much fun they had in their life, is a good way to get things back on a positive note when you are overwhelmed with grief. Celebrate their life and how it enriched yours and you will immediately start to feel better.
5. Talk to a therapist
If you are really struggling with your grief, then it could be useful to talk to a therapist or grief counsellor who will be able to help you explore your feelings and find better ways of managing them so that you can live your life without being overwhelmed by your feelings. Good therapists are non-judgemental and they will work with you at a pace you can handle, so there is nothing to be scared about.
As you can see, although grief is never an easy thing to go through, there are a number of things that will help you to find the support and strength you need to get through it.
Grief can be hard and everyone experiences it differently, but these tips should help
I hope it helps someone out there, and I totally agree, we all process things differently.
Talk about timing. I lost someone very dear to me a few days ago. The air suddenly feels heavy. And, I haven’t even given writing the posts for my blog a thought. Posting day came and went before I even remembered it. That’s where I am right now. This person was a source of joy and great support for so many people. You mentioned not being able to sleep. I wake up and immediately remember that she’s gone and room is so still. She was such a great friend and I am blessed to have known her. I know it will get easier, but for now, it’s just sad. But, I am and will continue to remember the good times. It’s nice to remember why she was so great and why I was so lucky to have a friend like her. Thank you for these tips.
I am so sorry to hear this. But it sounds like you have so many fantastic memories and it was a privilege to know this person.
In time, you will find your own way through. Sending love & hugs!