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Violence & Depression – How Working In Security Impacts Men

I have a great guest post for you today. From Workingthedoors.co.uk.

I am happy to support any message about mental health, whatever industry that may be in. None of us are immune to the impact of mental health problems. And it’s all about raising awareness.

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Whilst I am aware both men and women work in the security industry. It is a predominantly male-dominated occupation. And more importantly, we know men’s mental health isn’t talked about enough.

I hope this post helps anyone out there, who may be struggling mentally!

Introduction

It’s no surprise that working in the security industry can be demanding and at times dangerous. But few of us realize just how deep an impact it has on the mental health of those who take this job on, especially men. 

Recent surveys have revealed a concerning level of depression among workers in this sector, as well as alarming trends in violence against employees. In this article, we will explore these issues and potential solutions to improve overall well-being in the security industry.

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Violence in the Security Industry

A recent survey from WorkingtheDoors.co.uk found that 51% are verbally abused every time they work, with 98% of incidents occurring in nightclubs and bars. 

Alongside this, 24% of workers also reported experiencing physical and verbal violence at least once a week. These statistics highlight the dangerous environment in which many people are required to work, and the toll it can take on their mental health.

Male Depression in the Security Industry

Not only is there an alarming level of violence in the security industry, but also a concerning level of depression among male workers. 

A report from WorkingtheDoors.co.uk found that 57% say that an incident has affected their mental state more than 24 hours after the event, with almost half of those sympathizing that an incident has been severely traumatic. This highlights the serious mental health issues that can arise from this job, and the lack of access to resources to help with it.

Causes of Depression in the Security Industry

The causes of depression in security workers are complex, but there are a number of potential factors contributing to it. 

These include long hours and low pay; lack of support from employers; poor working conditions and lack of job security; exposure to high levels of violence or trauma, and the stigma attached to talking about mental health issues.

Managing Depression in the Security Industry

Given the serious implications of depression for security workers, it’s important to look at ways to manage this issue and improve overall well-being in this sector. Employers can help by providing better working conditions, a secure job contract, and access to mental health services. 

Additionally, having clear policies on anti-violence, training on how to respond when an incident occurs, and a supportive workplace culture can all help to reduce the risk of depression.

Ways to Combat Depression

Get more exercise

Exercising more can help to reduce the symptoms of depression, and it’s particularly important for security workers who may be struggling with long hours and stress. Taking regular breaks from work and getting at least 30 minutes of exercise a day can make a big difference.

Get more sleep

Lack of sleep can exacerbate depression and anxiety, so it’s important for security workers to make sure they get enough rest. This means making sure you have a relaxing bedtime routine, avoiding stimulants such as caffeine late at night and trying to stick to a consistent sleep pattern.

Seek professional help

It’s also important to seek professional help if you or someone you know is struggling with depression. Speak to your doctor or a mental health professional who can provide advice and support, as well as access to therapy and medication if necessary.

Identify your stressors

Depression can be triggered by a range of stressors, so it’s important to identify what these are in order to manage them. This could mean looking at the environment you work in and making changes to reduce your exposure to violence or trauma; challenging stigmas around mental health issues; taking steps to improve working conditions; or talking about your feelings with a friend or family member.

Conclusion

The security industry is an important but often overlooked sector and one in which workers face daily challenges to their mental health. 

By acknowledging the issues of violence and depression among those in this field, employers can take steps to improve overall well-being by providing better working conditions, access to mental health services and a supportive workplace culture. With these measures in place, security workers can feel better equipped to manage their mental well-being and take steps towards a healthier future.

7 reasons you should start your own blog

I always wanted to write a book about my life. I have storage boxes full of notebooks, diaries, poems I thought I could use to contribute to becoming a fully-fledged writer. 

When the bottom of my world literally fell out from underneath me. Redundancy, a breakdown, a pandemic. Uncertainty central. I decided it was time for a change. Why not start your own blog, I thought? What’s the worst that could happen?

I felt compelled to share my story and what better way to do this than embracing the world of social media and online connections. After all, that’s where it’s at, right? 

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You have something to add. Your life experiences are unique and someone out there will benefit from what you have to say. 

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    I have a list of incredible reasons to start your own blog TODAY… 

    Your own platform

    Starting your own blog can get your message out there.

    I’m seeing a lot of wonderful people with amazing things to say and messages which should be out in the world for others to see. But sometimes this is limited to one social media site and I would love to see more content from this person. 

    Having a blog, which is connected to other social media sites, allows you to gain more followers and get your message out to more people. You control the content and create everything on the site.

    If you’re thinking of setting up a blog and need web hosting, Bluehost is amazing. They provided me with the best customer service I’ve ever received when I recently lost my website! I HAVE to recommend them to other people.

    It’s your chance to create something of your own

    How exciting? I did a lot of research before starting my own blog. I decided I needed a chic-looking theme and I wanted to spend money upfront to ensure the branding was good. 

    After all, this place is like your office, your space, home from home. You’ve created it and why not make it look appealing? 

    If you need a theme, please check out Bluchic. I’ve had a few technical questions since setting up my blog and their customer service is fantastic. I am considering setting up a second blog and they will be my first choice for a theme.

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    Your voice matters to others 

    Before starting my own blog, I was unsure about whether I should do this or not. Self-doubt crept in.  

    I spent 15 years doubting myself. My confidence wasn’t in a great place and like all bloggers starting out, I was seriously asking myself whether anyone would listen to what I had to say. 

    I gained a high number of followers on my social media platforms without really putting much content out there. On Instagram, there were 7 posts saying good morning and connecting with people. Despite this, amazing things were already happening when I started interacting with other people. 

    You have something to add. Your life experiences are unique and someone out there will benefit from what you have to say. Imagine the feeling of helping someone, without really knowing it. Just trusting that you are making a difference.

    What are you waiting for?

    Gain confidence

    Starting the blog has helped me gain confidence in my writing ability. The lovely comments and compliments I receive mean the world to me and confirm I’m on the right path. Just like the one below.

    Making connections

    I interact with such wonderful, smart, supportive bloggers on a daily basis and I genuinely love commenting on their work and making connections.

    The blogging community really is the best. An amazing group of people all supporting each other and I feel lucky to be part of it.

    Use is as a diary

    Writing is therapeutic and it certainly helped me during a tough time.

    Your blog posts can be any format: a diary entry, a rant, or an informative post. You get to choose the type of content you share.

    It creates opportunities

    Whatever your end goal is, starting a blog WILL create opportunities.

    Some opportunities have come to me, through social media messages and emails. Others I’ve had to work hard for.

    The main thing is, good things are happening now I have my voice out there in the world. And I am finally doing something I love.

    What you need to begin your blogging journey…

    A computer

    Sounds silly doesn’t it, but it’s true. I’ve heard some people try and run a blog without a laptop. But honestly, there are only certain tasks I can do on my laptop. That said, I do use my phone for some admin tasks like social media interaction and noting down ideas, occasionally writing in google documents.

    Research

    I spent a lot of time researching how I would set up my blog.

    Pinterest was a massive source of information for me. Other bloggers give the best advice because they have walked in your shoes and can speak from experience.

    Time

    Luckily, due to my situation, I had time to set up the blog. I desperately needed to occupy my mind with something to stimulate my brain but also help my mental health.

    Don’t worry if you don’t have huge amounts of time. Sometimes I only manage 30 minutes a day for blogging tasks. But I look at it like that’s a few things off my to-do list and you can only tackle small chunks, which then lead to bigger goals.

    Small steps really do amount to something amazing.

    Patience

    It is correct that it takes roughly three months to rank on Google or start seeing any results in terms of traffic to your website.

    I was starting to feel deflated. I went for a weekend away. I had writer’s block and was just not feeling the blogging vibes for about a week. Then I checked my DA score and surprisingly it was at 9, EXACTLY three months after I released my first blog post.

    A little bit of blogging motivation

    We all love a good quote, don’t we? It’s time to include some here to give you some motivation, whatever your next step in life is.

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    Final thoughts

    I hope you enjoyed reading this post and it has given you some motivation. Or food for thought?

    Let me know in the comments below.

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    4 Ways to Make Money From Your Passion

    Speak to enough people, and you’ll get a sense that no one really wants to work — they just do it because, well, they have to. Yet, while it’s fine to just make a living so you can enjoy other aspects of your life. We all know that, deep down, it’d be much more satisfying to make an income by doing something that you truly love. If you’re passionate about your work, then, on most days, it won’t feel like work at all. Learn how to Make Money from your passion…

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    Making money from your passion can seem like a pipe dream, but it’s more within reach than you might expect. In this post, we’ll look at a few ways that you can earn that bread doing something you love.

    Become a Coach

    If you have a talent for something, then in all likelihood, they’ll be other people who also wish they had that talent. You might never sell out Madison Square Garden with your guitar, but you can take all your learning and understanding and help other people to improve their own skills. There are plenty of ways to sell your skills online, too — for example, you could consider putting together an online course. If it’s good enough, then you will make sales. 

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    Create Your Own Products

    You could also consider creating your own products. All those products you see for sale in the store? They didn’t come out of thin air — they’re there because someone made them. Of course, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever be able to create your own car. But your own t-shirts, makeup products, home decor items, and accessories? As with anything, if they’re good enough, then people will be interested in buying them. Look at selling online and at craft markets. 

    Start a Marketplace

    You don’t even necessarily need to make your own products to begin selling. One increasingly popular option is to put together your own online marketplace where vendors can sell their products. This requires more work than most other suggestions here, but equally, it can be much more profitable, since you’ll get a cut of every product sold. Take a look at this handy ‘create online marketplace’ guide to see the steps that you need to take. The beauty of this business idea is that it can provide a relatively passive income since you’re just creating an environment where other people can buy and sell. 

    Follow the Path of Others 

    Everyone wants to make a living via their passion. But here’s the thing — some people have actually been able to do it. It’s these people that you should be looking at. Seeing how other people have made their dreams come true can provide a valuable source of inspiration that can motivate you to carry on even when the going gets tough. How you do it will differ from how they’ve done it, but you’ll likely find that there’s much that you can learn from them. You may even contact them directly to see if they can help you/you can help them.

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    Why a sleep routine is important for a newborn

    Today I am so excited to welcome a guest blogger! I am also over the moon to introduce a mummy, also facing difficult issues with a newborn. I can relate to this. My guest blogger today has turned a negative experience of her own into something to help others. All the details you need to connect with Lauryn can be found at the end of this post.

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      Let’s dive into why a sleep routine is important

      I felt very ready to have a baby in every sense. I was 32 years old and financially secure. It was great that I had a successful teaching career of ten years and my relationship was strong. 

      As a confessed perfectionist, when we fell pregnant, I did all of the homework to be fully prepared. We did an online hypnobirthing course together. I planned my drug-free, calm labour. In addition, I planned to breathe the baby out (LOL) simply. I also knew all there was to know about the fourth trimester. I was, of course going to breastfeed. It was on the agenda to get started early with a bedtime routine. Additionally, I planned to be back in the gym from six weeks postnatal. I also signed up for lots of baby classes with my NCT friends. 

      I had all of the right things to ensure a sound night’s sleep for our baby. The right clothes, crib, mattress, baby monitor, and dream sheep to get her sleeping easily. You name it, we had it. 

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      Finally, eight days after my due date, I started feeling labour pains. My feelings were weirdly nervous and excited. I just could not wait to meet this baby I felt so connected to during the pregnancy. Preparing, I calmly got my hypnobirthing tools ready. Bouncing on my ball, candles lit, and a comedy video, had me feeling prepared. 

      My labour did not go as planned. After 30 hours, I ended up having an emergency C-section and my daughter came out with suspected sepsis and was whisked straight off to neonatal care. 

      Once I got home, all the planning we had done during pregnancy felt pointless. I felt beyond unprepared for this responsibility. Breastfeeding was not working for us and I felt like the ultimate failure in getting the formula out. My daughter had classic colic and cried for 3-6 hours every evening. It was exhausting and I felt awful I was unable to console her. 

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      The anxiety set in

      How had I gone from feeling as if I knew exactly what to expect, to this? I realised that one thing no one had told me might come with new motherhood. Anxiety. 

      I have never been an overly anxious person, but all of a sudden every aspect of motherhood was anxiety-inducing. Breastfeeding, sleep, guests coming over, leaving the house. All of it. My plans to go to classes and groups were far too big for me to face and I was so anxious about guests coming in case she would cry and I would not be able to settle her. 

      How lockdown impacted the situation

      Eight weeks after she was born, we were plunged into the very first lockdown. This was great for me because it meant I didn’t have to face my anxiety about going out or guests coming over. Although in hindsight, there were negative aspects, because it didn’t give me a chance to talk to professionals, as medical visits and access to health visitors had ceased. 

      To regain control, I started a very rigid sleep routine with my little one. Every nap had to be to the minute of my new programme. The sleep environment had to be perfect. If it ever went out of the window, it was a huge stress for me and could ruin my entire lockdown day. 

      Light at the end of the tunnel

      Needless to say, I realised it was time to do some mental digging and see what was going on. I opened up to friends who had suffered postnatally and searched for information online. After thinking about it, I eventually concluded that anxiety was linked to birth trauma. I had not given myself the chance to go over my labour or the fact she was taken straight from me due to being ill upon arrival.

      Once I did a little work on myself through the lockdown, the pressure I’d put myself under started to lift.  I introduced yoga, meditation, and journaling into my routine.

      Turning a negative into a positive

      I eased up a little on the sleep routine and now two years down the line I have trained to become a sleep consultant to work with families on gentle sleep schedules and training, to cause the least anxiety possible.  

      If anyone out there is new to this parenting gig and finding things tough, open up. Talk it out when you’re ready and know that this storm will pass and get better. More beautiful days are coming your way. 

      Lauryn and her little one

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      Angelcare were fantastic for all of our baby’s needs when we had a newborn. Check them out.

      More details on how to contact Lauryn

      Lauryn has worked as a full-time teacher for 10 years, teaching Drama and English in both primary and secondary settings. Since having her first child, Eliza, she realised the importance of sleep for well-being and this led to her training to become a sleep consultant in Summer 2021. Lullaby Lauryn launched in October and she can’t wait to help as many families as possible improve their sleep. 

      You can find her website here

      She can also be contacted on Instagram and Facebook.

      Final thoughts

      I hope you enjoyed reading this guest post about why a sleep routine is important.

      Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments below and let me know whether you’ve checked out Lauryn’s amazing website.

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      Exercising Your Brain: The Connection Between Mental Stimulation and Good Mental Health

      It isn’t really news to anyone that mental health is an issue requiring more attention than it gets. We’ve all been made conscious of mental health awareness campaigns, even though we’re all perfectly aware of mental health by now, and what we really need is action. While we are stuck with more self-help than outside help, however, there is definitely a lot to be said for getting some brain exercise. Not only does mental stimulation provide a timely distraction from the strain of mental health issues, but it also provides a strengthening effect on our brains and minds, which certainly doesn’t cure depression or anxiety, but makes the battle fairer.

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      It has been proven time and again that brain exercise boosts the capacity of your brain, speeding cognitive function and boosting memory. While there are always going to be elements of anxiety and depression that try their best to diminish your quality of life, it is worth knowing that improved cognitive function helps to push back against those intrusive thoughts and negative self-image, and so it’s more than worthwhile.

      What do we mean by brain exercise?

      Essentially, any time you use your brain, it’s brain exercise. All that differs is the intensity and control. So managed brain exercise will usually take the form of puzzles and processes that lead to us using our brains in a targeted way. While filling out your tax return or figuring out how to install a shelving unit are also forms of exercise, they are time-consuming and have a high failure factor – resulting in frustration that is precisely the opposite of what you’re looking for. Doing a Sudoku, where it doesn’t matter if you get it right, or learning a language in your spare time just for the joy of it, are good methods of brain exercise.

      If you’re prone to anxiety, you’ll know how your thoughts can shift around, as though the brain is filled with too much energy. Using puzzles to focus the mind can redirect that energy. The more you do these forms of exercise, the better you’ll get too, which is rewarding and mentally gratifying; if you can replace some of those negative thoughts with positive reaffirmation, it will help your condition. Even if you occasionally need to use a tool to unscramble words, it still helps use your mind for better purposes than it will choose if left idle.

      Can brain exercise overcome mental health issues entirely?

      It’s optimistic to imagine that brain exercise will be enough on its own to “beat” mental health hurdles. Those of us who have suffered from such conditions know that the situation is a lot more complex than something that can be unlocked with one fun trick. However, it’s important to try to elevate your starting level when dealing with any condition. Just as someone with an injury needs physical exercise to rehab the injured part, so someone with mental health concerns can give their brain some help by working on puzzles and other skills.

      This form of mental exercise will also have outside benefits: doing puzzles will improve your vocabulary and open up interesting things to read about; learning a language will give you an insight into a different culture and potentially even offer a travel destination that you can work towards. At the base of it, brain exercise is about finding a positive way to occupy your thought processes. It won’t cure any mental health condition, because that takes a great deal of time and guided exploration of your condition – but it is one element of a package that can deliver great results.

      What if I don’t enjoy puzzles?

      Brain exercise can take a lot of different shapes, and in truth, it is best to let your own preferences and tastes guide what form of exercise you choose. Not everybody likes puzzles. Language learning isn’t for everyone, either, but there are other ways you can direct your thoughts. You could learn to cook a certain kind of cuisine, take up an instrument, grow and tend to a small garden or anything else that gives you moments of joy and small victories.

      A mental health condition will try to make you feel small, stupid, and helpless. The best way to put yourself on a path to long-term recovery is to find an enjoyable way to remind yourself that you are none of those things. It won’t always be easy and straightforward, but if you don’t complete a crossword or your minestrone turns out a little watery, that doesn’t matter. What matters is that you did something for yourself and had some fun in the process.

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      Mummy & mental health blogger with an overhauled perspective on life

      An overhauled perspective on all things in life. What better way to celebrate this, than writing this tag post!

      Being unapologetically you is all about sharing the things that make you happy and help you become a better person. Never be afraid to be you. 

      Izzy Matias started the Be Unapologetically You blogging tag. It’s a celebration of what you love without being shy or ashamed about it! 

      Almost six months since starting the blog, I am a bit more comfortable with revealing other details about my life and it feels great to open up about the aspects of life I love.

      Quick note: Some of the links contained on this page are affiliate links and if you go through them to make a purchase, I will earn a commission. I only recommend products I use myself and think would be useful for you.

      How does the tag work?

      Be Unapologetically You Tag Rules: 

      1. Use the Be Unapologetically You banner in your post. It can be your featured image or not. It’s totally up to you. 

      2. Include the link to this blogging tag (https://www.izzymatias.com/be-unapologetically-you) in your post. 

      3. Answer the 7 questions in this tag. 

      4. Nominate between 5-10 bloggers, link to their blogs, and tag them on social media to notify them. 

      5. Most of all, have fun!

      Reminder: you don’t need to include the “Be Unapologetically You Tag” in your blog post title if you don’t want to. 

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      Be Unapologetically You Questions: 

      1. Introduce yourself and your blog while sharing one trivia about you that not that many people know. 
      2. What topics do you love geeking out about that you would say are topics that give you bliss? 
      3. Do you blog about them? Why or why not? If not, would you like to blog about them one time? 
      4. Would you say that you are living life by being unapologetically you? Why or why not? If not, what would your life look like if you were unafraid to share more about the things that make you happy? 
      5. Permission to geek out & be unapologetically you: share with us one thing you fangirl or fanboy over and how you became a fan of it. It can be anything. Your love for soy candles, your favorite food, a boy band or an underrated film.
      6. What do you love the most about being a fan? 
      7. Share a fun or unforgettable fan experience. 

      Before we get into the questions, I wanted to say this tag is perfect for me at this moment in time. Following a mental breakdown and redundancy from my job of almost 10 years, I have an overhauled perspective on life. I feel like a new person, with a fresh outlook. And I intend to make the most of this transformation and finally create the life I want to live.

      Let’s dive into the questions

      Introduce yourself and your blog while sharing one trivia about you that not that many people know. 

      I’m a mummy to a feisty toddler and a wife, living in the North of England, UK, and making it a priority to enjoy life.

      Following my recent breakdown, I believe talking about our mental health struggles is key to recovery. My blog focuses on parenting and mental health, but I also explore other lifestyle topics.

      Something people may not know about me, is I eat raw potatoes and I mentioned it in one of my other tag posts. I don’t know where it came from, but I still love them to this day. Although I can’t eat too many, because I don’t think the starch is very good for you.

      What topics do you love geeking out about that you would say are topics that give you bliss? 

      In keeping with the trend of being unapologetically you, I have to talk about my love of gaming. I always thought it was just my hubby who was the geek. However, I am starting to realise it’s also me who loves geeky games. I think it comes from playing these with my dad and brother when we were younger. We have a Sega console and I love playing the old games and feeling a sense of nostalgia.

      These days, I also love playing games on my phone as a way to destress. With a job search underway, a tempremental toddler and generally busy life, I need moments to decompress and a task I can easily dip in and out of.

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        Do you blog about them? Why or why not? If not, would you like to blog about them one time? 

        When I first started the blog, I didn’t initially talk about these subjects. Almost six months since starting the blog, I am a bit more comfortable with revealing other details about my life and it feels great to open up about the aspects of life I love.

        As the title of this post suggests, I have an overhauled perspective on life. It is inevitable when you go through life changing events.

        Stay tuned to the blog for more on my mental health journey and my life adventures, whilst I go through this transition period. My second blog will be launching in the next few weeks and a third one in the next few months. I also plan on doing some freelance writing. The hope is I will gradually feel comfortable sharing more about my life.

        Would you say that you are living life by being unapologetically you? Why or why not? If not, what would your life look like if you were unafraid to share more about the things that make you happy? 

        I am getting better at being more open. Simply because I realise this makes you more authentic and in turn, happier. Discussing my honest thoughts on the blog was the pivotal factor that aided my recovery from a mental health breakdown. I am so over hiding my true self. Whilst I will probably always keep some things private, there is a lot to be said about opening up.

        I do have more work to do in this area though. I hid my anxiety from everyone for 15 years. Therefore I am at the beginning of my opening up journey and it is all new to me.

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        Permission to geek out & be unapologetically you: share with us one thing you fangirl or fanboy over and how you became a fan of it. It can be anything. Your love for soy candles, your favorite food, a boy band or an underrated film

        I am a sucker for a candle or wax melt. Gone are the days I used to spend £50.00 in the Yankee candle shop on my lunchtime at work. These days I am all about deals, supermarket candles, and melts seem to be cheaper.

        But yes, I have a great love of candles. If you’re looking for some cheap, but lovely smelling candles, I suggest checking out the range at Wilko. I use their tea lights and jar candles, because they smell amazing, but they are also affordable.

        What do you love the most about being a fan? 

        The candle business is huge in the UK, but having them dotted around the house brings a sense of calm. It wasn’t until my breakdown I relaised how important these touches are. A relaxing bath and a candle literally helped to get me out of bed and start the day. Granted, it didn’t solve all my problems. A combination of factors did and this includes medication. However, self-care is a vital part of recovery.

        I just love my passion for them because I know it aids my need to keep up self-care. And I always welcome a sense of calm in the house.

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        Share a fun or unforgettable fan experience

        When I previously had my lunchtime candle spending sprees. And spent all the extra money I was earning in the name of stress, I regularly purchased some cute Yankee candle Votive holders (these were also cheap to buy compared with the jar candles). One night, me and my now hubby were chilling and it broke due to increased heat. A bit of the jar cracked and popped across the room and we are lucky it didn’t hit anyone. I am always careful to this day, ensuring the wick isn’t resting on one side of the jar.

        It was my favorites candle holder as well, hehe!!

        I nominate…

        Real Life of LuLu

        Lisa Marie

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        Final thoughts

        I hope you enjoyed reading this post.

        Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. I would love to hear from you.

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        Why I believe I inherited my writing skills from my ancestors

        I’ve seen some posts from fellow bloggers recently discussing creative outlets, their main reason behind having writing as a passion. What motivates them to write and why do they enjoy it so much? It got me thinking.

        I wanted to share my personal journey and my love of writing. I haven’t ended up at this point by accident. I picked up skills from my ancestors and I was always destined to reach this point.

        I loved each and every one of these experiences. They made me who I am today… a writer. 

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        How it all began

        Throughout my life, I’ve taken steps to turn my passion into something more. My ideas have usually been about giving back to society. 

        I wanted to study journalism and imagined myself uncovering some huge injustice, like Erin Brockovich. I then wanted to be an English teacher and during my university placements to further this dream, I spent time helping underachieving students. I worked with the Communications Manager for an NHS Trust, interviewing nurses and writing pieces for a newsletter. I loved each and every one of these experiences. They made me who I am today… a writer. 

        There is no avoiding the fact that writing is definitely in my blood Something which was pre-destined for me.

        Further back in time 

        In this post about why I’m grateful to be a writer, I explain the following:

        I still have a nursery rhyme book I wrote lists in when I was tiny. From the age of 12, I was writing folders full of poetry. I wrote for our local newspaper and still have the clippings. I have a portfolio folder full of the pieces I wrote for work experience and throughout my university days and I one day dreamed about writing a book. I also toyed with the idea of becoming an English teacher.

        I still have boxes full of diaries I wrote in during my younger days and sometimes go through them. It makes me feel nostalgic about those days. I really should read them again soon and get some inspiration for the blog. When we moved in together, I told my now hubby I was keeping these to one day contribute towards my book. It’s vital information I needed to keep, justifying the reason for taking up so much space in our storage cupboard.

        During the worst times of my life, living through anxiety and depression, I’ve used journaling as the main technique to help me get through it. There is something about releasing the words onto the physical piece of paper. Therapists have taught me to rip them up afterward and complete a breathing exercise. Literally releasing the negative energy from my body and it really does make you feel better when you complete this exercise.

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        My relatives and their writing 

        When we first moved into our house, nearly 6 years ago, I was adamant I wanted to display two pieces of writing, one from my grandpa and another from my aunty on our wall. I didn’t consciously know at the time, but it’s because it inspires me each day. I literally wanted to view the skills I picked up from my ancestors.

        Discovering treasure

        I first came across the below piece of writing when my grandma used to let me go through her things. Like any little girl would. She had drawers full of jewels, an old 1950’s suitcase packed full of old photos and amongst all these wonderful gems, was this letter my grandpa sent to my grandma. I loved it from the first time I saw it. I was probably about 10 years old. 

        There is no avoiding the fact that writing is definitely in my blood Something which was predestined for me.

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        Writing supplies 

        As writers, we all need our vital supplies. I used to be adamant about writing paper lists only, but I’ve come around to the idea of technology, due to starting the blog. Paper lists mean I basically had to cross everything out, because life is so hectic. 

        That isn’t to say I don’t like my paper-based stationery. It still excites me and I write notes as I’m working.

        The only way I can describe the excitement I feel is this. When I walk down the stationery aisle at Wilko, I hear the York Minster choir singing in my head and I feel an excitement I just cannot describe (BTW I cried when they sang on a random visit when they were practicing!). This should convey the level of excitement I feel.

        Purchase your Wilko stationery here…

        A list of some more amazing stationery…

        Paperchase – I have an absolute obsession with the shop. I’m basically banned from entering a shop or buying online. I do keep trying to convince my little one she loves it because of course, daddy won’t say no to her. I have a solution, a shopping trip with the little one and grandad. 

        We haven’t even broached the subject of Smiggle yet… hmmmm!

        Boots – each year I get a new piece from the Zoella collection. The hubby is fully aware it is to be added to my Christmas list. 

        Final thoughts

        What inspires you to write?

        Do you have another passion you feel comes from family members?

        What skills did your ancestors pass down?

        Let me know in the comments below. I would love to hear from you.

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        Blogs you must check out this month – welcome to my February advertisers

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        Welcome to my February advertisers!

        When I started my blogging journey, it was guest posting and advertising on other peoples’ blogs that helped increase my domain authority (DA). And more importantly, build a network of supportive bloggers.

        February advertisers

        I feel privileged to introduce you to my February advertisers

        It’s now time for me to share other people’s wonderful blogs. Please go and show my February advertisers some love, by commenting, sharing their posts, and interacting with one another. I regularly post on Twitter about the blogging community and how it is great to be part of such a supportive group of people.

        There is something for everyone in this bunch. A mix of lifestyle, photography, and blogs about the honest realities of mummy life.

        Let’s dive in

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        Ellie’s Little World

        February advertisers

        Why I loved checking out Ellie’s blog

        Ellie is one of the bloggers in the community I have regular contact with and I have advertised on her blog previously. As such, I am excited to have her as an advertiser this month.

        On her blog, you will find various lifestyle topics and I particularly love her beauty reviews, and when she shares one of her new candle collections with us. Go and check out the blog. And her amazing candle collection.

        A little bit about Ellie

        Ellie is a lifestyle blogger (among other things) from Somerset. Her blog started many years ago as a beauty blog, but in the past few years, it has expanded to include all sorts of topics, including food, travel, home, and pets. On the blog, you can expect to find plenty of product reviews, lifestyle tips and tricks, and seasonal gift guides.

        Blog posts you should definitely check out

        http://ellieslittleworld.com/2021/09/16/drive-with-confidence-with-a-nextbase-dash-cam-ad/
        http://ellieslittleworld.com/2021/07/21/50-seasonal-blog-post-ideas/

        Ways to connect with Ellie

        Twitter Ellie’s Little World (@Elliesworldx) / Twitter

        Instagram Ellie (@ellieslittleworldxox) • Instagram photos and videos

        Sophie – Starting today blog

        February advertisers

        Why I loved checking out Sophie’s blog

        Please all go take a look at this blog! It is aesthetically pleasing and the images on the website are amazing. To write this post, I had a look around the site and I am impressed with what I found. Sophie covers lifestyle and photography on the blog, and you will find some amazing images scattered throughout her blog posts.

        A little bit about Sophie

        Sophie is a freelance photographer who looks at life philosophically. She has always been creative, but hid from her creativity for so long, afraid it was a negative aspect of her character. Now she embraces it. Her blog, Starting Today, is a place where she shares her thoughts, vision, and passions. She combines photography, poetry, and writing to share her lifestyle and thoughts. Uniquely ambitious, with a zest for life, she loves to encourage others to be themselves, always. 

        Blog posts you should definitely check out

        Submerged in ambition, but moulded by clay. – STARTING TODAY

        5 ways to Find Bloggers to promote your products – STARTING TODAY

        Ways to connect with Sophie

        You find Sophie on Twitter. She is also on Instagram, YouTube, LinkedIn, Facebook.

        Jess – Prosecco Mum

        February advertisers

        Why I loved checking out Jess’ blog

        I love this blog! When you land on the homepage, you feel at home and in a safe parenting space. The pictures remind me of my parenting journey, and I love how honest Jess is about the ups and downs of mummy life, whilst being a working mum. You will also find a range of lifestyle topics and reviews of the local area.

        A little bit about Jess

        Not your ordinary mummy blogger. Established 2014, still no clue about parenting. Totally owned by her kids. 

        Taking motherhood one sip of fizz at a time. 

        Blog posts you should definitely check out

        ttps://proseccomum.com/letter-first-born-baby-sofia/

        Ways to connect with Jess

        You can connect with Jess on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

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        I am taking bookings and you can find more details here.

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        Final thoughts

        I hope you enjoyed reading this post. My first amazing February advertisers 🙂

        I also hope you will enjoy checking out these bloggers.

        Let me know in the comments whether you’ve checked out their posts?

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        Look No Further Than Elfland UK for Your Christmas Eve Box

        I can’t be alone in wanting to get the perfect Christmas Eve Box for my toddler. How many other parents out there end up with the same, generic gifts from discount stores?

        These treats are some of the highest quality, cute gifts I’ve seen and I just had to share them with you today!

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        DISCOUNT CODE – SAMXMAS – FOR A WHOPPING 20% OFF

        DONT FORGET – In some of the boxes, there is the chance to find magical tickets to win wellness products or the ultimate prize – a family trip to Lapland.

        Let’s dive into the list of items to make a magical Christmas Eve Box

        Elfland Sleepy Bedtime Giftset

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        Elfland Sleepy Bedtime Giftset

        What’s included in the box?

        1 x Box of 5 Sachets of Elf Eyes Self-Heating Eye Mask (worth £16.50)
        1 x Magic Wish Wand (worth £5.95) 
        1 x The Lost Wish Book (worth £9.95)
        1 x Happiness Spells and Wish Wand Instructions
        1 x Sleepy Elf Meditation (worth £3.95)
        1 x Lost Wish Colouring Page

        What other goodies are on offer, for my Christmas Eve Box?

        ‘Limited Edition’ Christmas Eve Treat Box

        WHAT’S INCLUDED:

        1 x Box of 5 Sachets of Elf Eyes Self-Heating Eye Masks (worth £16.50)
        1 x Magic Wish Wand (worth £5.95)
        1 x The Lost Wish Book (worth £9.95)
        1 x Sleepy Elf Pillow Spray (worth £8.50)
        1 x Sleepy Elf Pulse Point Oil (worth £8.50)
        1 x Lost Wish Colouring Page
        1 x Sleepy Elf Meditation (worth £3.95)
        1 x Happiness Spells and Wish Wand Instructions 
        2 x Camellias Tea House Very Berry Tea (worth £0.88)

        Elfland Lost Wish Book & Character Explanations

        This book is perfect for your Christmas Eve Box. I have let my little one start reading it now, in the build-up to Christmas.

        Discover The Lost Wish by Clare Anderson and Emily Jacobs, illustrated by Emma Kurran, where imagination is limitless, and pure adventure awaits. It’s a tale guaranteed to excite and inspire young readers everywhere. 

        Set off on a remarkable journey through a mystical land! Join Siena, a bright and brave little girl, who one stormy night, steps through a magical archway and into Elfland; a thrilling world of friendly elves, dangerous dragons, flying pixies and talking rats! Discover what adventure awaits her.

        Buddy Soft Toy from The Lost Wish

        I will be purchasing this today, as an addition to my little one’s Christmas Eve Box. And to tie in with the theme of the book.

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        Buddy Soft Toy

        Meet Buddy, Siena’s faithful and loyal companion from The Lost Wish, now available as a cute and cuddly plush toy.

        This super soft and squishy plush toy is made for hugs and playtimes. Take Buddy everywhere with you as you adventure together day and night. 

        Where you go, Buddy goes! Just like in the book, The Lost Wish, let Buddy be your most loyal friend and protector, someone who you can enjoy life’s adventures with. Just squeeze him tight, and Buddy will always be by your side, on hand to protect you no matter what.

        The Lost Wish Gift Box

        Christmas Eve Box
        The Lost Wish Gift Box

        WHAT’S INCLUDED:

        2 x Elf Eyes Self-Heating Eye Masks (worth £7.90)
        1 x The Lost Wish Children’s Book (worth £9.95)
        1 x Magic Wish Wand (worth £5.95)
        1 x Sleepy Elf Relaxing Pillow Spray (worth £8.50)
        1 x Lost Wish Colouring Page
        1 x Sleepy Elf Meditation (worth £3.95)
        1 x Happiness Spells and Wish Wand Instructions
        2 x Camellias Tea House Very Berry Tea (worth £0.88)

        In every box, there is the chance to find magical tickets to win wellness products or the ultimate prize – a family trip to Lapland.

        Elfland Wish Wand

        I am so in love with this product because it’s really special and a keepsake. These items can be used for every Christmas from now on and I can’t wait for my little one to open this item in her Christmas Eve Box.

        Christmas Eve Box
        Elfland Wish Wand

        Suitable for age 5+ the Elfland Wish Wand is the perfect gift for all wannabe wizards and little elves, pixies, fairies, or just anyone who believes in the power of the imagination to bring dreams and magic to life.

        Elfland Elf Eye Masks Box

        Elf Eyes have been created for children but are suitable for the whole family. Each mask is unscented. 

        Elf Eyes Self-Heating Eye Masks are Especially Good For: 

        • Creating a magical experience for children as the eye masks heat up when placed over the eyes  
        • Helping to calm and relax overactive minds when excitement is high 
        • Christmas Eve boxes and stocking fillers 
        • Helping the whole family relax and sleep the night before Santa comes! 

        How to use your Sensory Retreats Elf Eyes Self-Heating Eye Mask 

        • Find a quiet cosy place to rest and recline 
        • Open the pouch and unfold your Elf Eyes Eye Mask 
        • Gently place the mask over your eyes and fit the loops comfortably around your ears 
        • Within a couple of minutes, you’ll begin to feel a gentle sensation as the Elf Eyes warms up 
        • Simply allow yourself to drift off as you enjoy approximately 25 minutes of deeply relaxing and soothing warmth 
        • If using on children (aged 5+), you may need to secure it with an extra knot to tighten the loops – adult supervision is advised while children wear the mask 

        Other wellness products for your little ones, to add to your Christmas Eve Box

        There are so many other products in the Elfland range. Including Sleepy Elf Relaxing Pulse Point Oil – 10ml and Sleepy Elf Relaxing Pillow Spray – 30ml

        You can check out the whole range here.

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        Recent posts on the blog

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        This Time Next Year Tag – Mummy Conquering Anxiety

        I need to say a huge THANK YOU to @kvburton657 and @LinzBroganBlogs.

        Check out their posts here and here.

        This Time Next Year Tag

        Because I cannot shy away from the blogging buzz, my second blog is almost ready and will hopefully be launched towards the end of December.

        THE RULES OF THE “THIS TIME NEXT YEAR” TAG

        Thank the person who tagged you

        Thank you ladies for including me in the This Time Next Year Tag. I am honoured to be tagged by the queen of Christmas! Also very happy to receive another tag. I did intend to release the post earlier, but I’ve had another rubbish week with something weighing me down at the moment. It’s almost over and I will be posting about it in January 2021. Writing about the negative experience is helping. But this post is all about the happy times the festive season brings. Therefore, let’s park the negative for now.

        I love these types of posts because they allow us to get to know bloggers a bit better. I hope after reading this one, you will feel like you know me better.

        Write your goals for next year

        By this time next year, I want to be running three blogs full-time. Most importantly, I want to keep interacting with the blogging community and my lovely readers. It is no exaggeration to say this blog pulled me out of the darkness. For this, I will be forever grateful. I love logging into Twitter in the morning and it makes my heart smile to receive such amazing support.

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          Write how you’re going to achieve these goals

          This Time Next Year Tag is another great place to set out my goals and ensure I remain accountable in hitting them.

          My blog is almost at the point it is self-sufficient, aside from writing and admin. There is a long list of amendments I want to make, but the crazy initial stages of setting up a blog are over.

          Because I cannot shy away from the blogging buzz, my second blog is almost ready and will hopefully be launched towards the end of December.

          I then have the domain and social media accounts for a third blog. Hopefully, this will be up and running in January 2021. I even have TikTok for this one, hehe!

          Therefore, I aim to continue working hard and keeping in mind my driving force:

          I NEVER want to return to a toxic office environment EVER again

          I NEED to protect my mental health moving forward

          I WANT to spend time with my little girl and make room for a second child in our lives.

          What amazing motivation to keep going!

          This Time Next Year Tag

          TAG AT LEAST 5 BLOGGER FRIENDS

          I am losing track of who has and hasn’t been nominated so far. So apologies if you already have!

          I want to nominate some of the people who have supported me so far (there are more than five and you all know who you are if you’re not nominated below)

          @TheYorksDreamer

          @mindbeautysimp1

          @RiyahSpeaks

          @deardatingb

          @LoveRosiee1

          IN 365 DAYS, WRITE A FOLLOW-UP POST ABOUT WHETHER YOU’VE BEEN SUCCESSFUL

          I have set a reminder to complete the task this time next year. Can’t wait.

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