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What You Need in Your Home as You Get Older For Peace of Mind

As we age and Get Older, our needs and capabilities change. To continue living independently and comfortably in your home, it’s essential to make adjustments that accommodate the physical and practical changes that come with ageing. 

The right modifications and additions can improve your quality of life, whether by reducing the risk of falls or making day-to-day tasks easier. Here are the key things you need in your home as you get older to ensure safety, comfort, and convenience.

Get Older

Stairlifts for Homes with More Than 1 Floor

Curved or straight stairlifts are a great addition to your home if you struggle with mobility issues and want a simple solution to keep or regain your home independence. They are a safe and convenient way to access different levels of your home, regardless of your staircase design. When browsing your options, make sure to compare our options to find out which would be most relevant. Options include: 

  • Straight Stairlifts 
  • Tailor-made curved stairlifts 
  • Outdoor stairlifts 
  • Hinged-rail stairlifts 
  • Slimline stairlifts 
  • Stairlifts for pets 

Grab Bars and Handrails for Safety

The risk of falls increases as we get older, especially in areas like the bathroom and on stairs. Adding grab bars and handrails to your home can massively reduce the risk of accidents.

In the bathroom, install grab bars next to the toilet, in the shower, and near the bathtub. These provide something to hold onto for added stability when getting in or out. Non-slip mats in the shower or bathtub are also important to prevent slips.

Handrails on both sides of stairs and in hallways make it easier to navigate without losing balance. If you don’t already have handrails, adding them to your stairs can be a simple but effective way to improve home safety.

Non-Slip Flooring

Slippery floors are one of the most common causes of falls in the home. Consider replacing slippery tile or hardwood floors with non-slip flooring materials, or add non-slip rugs or mats in high-risk areas. Non-slip vinyl or rubber flooring is a good option for bathrooms, kitchens, and hallways, where spills or wet conditions are more common.

If you prefer carpets, opt for low pile piles to reduce the risk of tripping. Ensure that all rugs have rubber backing to prevent them from sliding out of place. These small adjustments can help make your home safer and more secure.

Good Lighting in Every Room

As we age, our vision can decline, making it harder to see potential hazards in the home. Adequate lighting is essential to prevent accidents and help you move around with confidence. Install bright lights in key areas such as hallways, stairs, and bathrooms.

Consider adding motion sensor lights in corridors or near the front door so you don’t have to fumble for a switch in the dark. It’s also a good idea to add night lights in bathrooms, bedrooms, and along hallways so you can navigate your home safely during the night without turning on harsh overhead lights.

Walk-in Showers or Baths

The bathroom is one of the most dangerous areas in the home for elderly people. Slippery floors, high bathtubs, and hard-to-reach fixtures can lead to accidents. Installing a walk-in shower with a built-in seat and low entry can make it much easier and safer to bathe.

If you prefer baths, a walk-in bath with a low step or an easy-to-access shower might be a better option. Adding grab bars and a shower seat can also improve safety and comfort. For those with limited mobility, a raised toilet seat is a great addition to make it easier to sit and stand.

Accessible Storage and Organised Spaces

As we age, reaching high shelves and bending down to access low storage spaces becomes more difficult. Make sure your home is organised in a way that makes everyday tasks easier. Keep essential items like food, toiletries, and medications within easy reach—either at eye level or on lower shelves.

You can install pull-out drawers in kitchens, so you don’t have to bend over to access pots and pans. Consider getting extendable or adjustable kitchen cabinets to ensure you can reach everything without overexerting yourself.

Emergency Alert Systems for Peace of Mind

For seniors living alone, an emergency alert system is an essential addition and these systems allow you to quickly call for help if you fall or have a medical emergency. Many systems come with wearable devices, such as a pendant or bracelet, that you can press to alert emergency services or a loved one.

Some alert systems even include fall detection, which automatically contacts emergency services if it detects a fall. This type of system is particularly helpful for seniors who may not always be able to reach their phone or activate an emergency device themselves.

Ergonomic Furniture for Comfort

Comfortable furniture can make a big difference in how you feel at home, especially as you get older. Ergonomic furniture that offers support for your back, knees, and joints can prevent strain and discomfort.

Look for chairs, sofas, and recliners that have good lumbar support, are easy to get in and out of, and feature armrests. Adjustable beds can also be a good investment to make sure you have a proper sleep posture and comfort throughout the night.

Technology for Independence

Technology can help make daily life easier for older adults, from smart home devices to medical alert systems. Smart thermostats allow you to adjust the temperature in your home without getting up, while voice-activated assistants like Amazon Alexa or Google Home can help with tasks like setting reminders or making phone calls.

For those with hearing or vision impairments, many devices can help improve accessibility, such as amplified phones, smart lighting, and alert systems that notify you when the doorbell rings or when someone is at the front door.

Why Are These So Important?

As we age, there are various reasons why we need additional facilities and features in our homes. Here’s how the above methods can help you: 

Method Reason
StairliftsDifficulty climbing stairs increases fall risk
Grab bars Reduced balance
Non-slip flooring Slippery floors
Clear pathways Mobility issues make clutter hazardous
Grab bars Reduced balance 
Emergency alert systemsSudden health emergencies 
Improved lighting Vision decline 
Accessible storageLimited mobility can make reaching difficult 
Ergonomic furnitureJoint pain makes sitting and standing uncomfortable
Walk-in showersStepping into a bathtub is risky with mobility issues
Smart technologyMemory loss complicates tasks

Enjoy Your Home Safely

As you get older, your home should grow to meet all of your changing needs. From adding stairlifts and grab bars to installing non-slip flooring and good lighting, these adjustments can improve safety, accessibility, and comfort. If you make these changes, you can continue living independently in a home that supports your health and well-being.

Whether it’s a walk-in shower or an emergency alert system, there are many options available to help you age gracefully and safely in your own home. Make sure to consider your unique needs, and don’t hesitate to make modifications that will allow you to continue enjoying your home for many years to come.

5 Important Reasons Hypnotherapy Changed My Life

If you follow my blog or my TikTok – you will know I love a message about improving your relationships. And your outlook on life in general.

It’s all about communication and openness. It’s time to look back on the amazing reasons Hypnotherapy Changed My Life.

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You wouldn’t just keep a computer for 10 years, without regularly updating it, deleting files and giving it a refresh. The brain is the computer which rules our whole body – why wouldn’t we keep up with the maintenance of it?

Sam – Mummy Conquering Anxiety
Hypnotherapy Changed My Life

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Let’s think back to my hypnotherapy course

My hypnotherapy course ended in November 2022. At the time, I needed some self-development. But I knew that standard counselling or therapy wasn’t the option I needed. When you experience a lot of life-changing events in quick succession, it’s about reprogramming your subconscious mind, with the new life goals and patterns of behaviour you want to adopt. Kind of like a computer update.

You wouldn’t just keep a computer for 10 years, without regularly updating it, deleting files and giving it a refresh. The brain is the computer which rules our whole body – why wouldn’t we keep up with the maintenance of it?

A brief overview of what hypnotherapy does

The idea behind hypnotherapy is that it can be used to reprogram the unconscious or primal parts of the brain that function to avoid pain and seek pleasure.

EveryDay Health

5 of the main lessons I took away from my hypnotherapy course

We largely live our lives on autopilot, paying attention to our logical brain.

Hypnotherapy allows us to switch off the automatic brain, which allows us to reprogram our subconscious.

Reprogramming our subconscious can allow us to get rid of old habits, which no longer serve us.

Due to the primal parts of our brains, still ruling a lot of the daily decision-making, we can react with snap decisions, which don’t always serve us.

Practising meditation and listening to hypnotherapy recordings can empty your overall stress bucket. Making you more able to deal with the daily stresses we all face.

What hypnotherapy taught me about human behaviour

I’ve written posts on my blog about toddler emotions and gentle parenting:

IS GENTLE PARENTING EFFECTIVE? READ OUR STORY

5 THINGS THAT HAPPENED WHEN WE STARTED GENTLE PARENTING

HELPING LITTLE KIDS MANAGE BIG EMOTIONS

14 AGE-APPROPRIATE CHORES TO ENCOURAGE INDEPENDENCE

However, I was surprised to learn that ALL humans can react quickly and sometimes with anger. The way our brain processes situations is largely automatic and it will often produce a default response to situations.

If your default response is outdated because you haven’t reprogrammed your unconscious in a while. Your behaviours in daily life might not be in line with how you want to respond to certain situations. This is a simplistic overview, the mechanics of the brain are much more complicated.

The initial relaxation element of hypnotherapy starts by dampening down the activity of the frontal cortex. Limiting the effectiveness of this area of the brain, central to attention, planning, and making decisions, increases activity in other areas engaged in filtering and integrating information.
We become more open to information, more suggestible, and capable of creating more intense sensations in our minds (Thomson, 2019).

Positive Psychology

Hypnotherapy & how it changed the way I think

Completing training in the workplace and the fact I love to learn – meant I was already aware of the fight or flight reflex. But understanding it fully, helped me understand a lot about my struggles with anxiety. And the reason I reacted the way I did in certain, stressful life situations.

How hypnotherapy helped me become a better parent

Hypnotherapy alone cannot allow you to know everything about the emotional health of a child. And how to employ emotional intelligence when faced with tough situations. But it can open your mind to the science behind our behaviour. Essentially a child is unable to regulate their emotions and they need an adult to do this for them. Their outbursts, and meltdowns (however you refer to it) are nothing personal and they don’t have any control over them.

This allows me to understand that emotional meltdowns are simply a sign of communication – or a way to ask for help from the adult closest to you. If we think about times when we, as adults, have been so angry we cannot verbally put into words what is happening. Sometimes toddlers don’t have the words, but they express the emotion in other ways. To signal help is needed.

Discussions with our toddler

Hypnotherapy made me realise that toddlers and adults sometimes react without thinking. If we don’t understand something, our default response could be anger or frustration.

Whenever there is a disagreement in the house, or adults don’t agree on something, we use this as an example. To explain that in life, not everyone thinks the same. People will annoy each other, disagree, and argue. And that is completely okay. It’s what makes us all human.

Wonderful books about toddler emotions

I was recently struggling, to go further than this and say – mummy and daddy love you regardless of behaviour. Nothing changes our love for you. Then I came across this amazing book. See the TikTok video.

@sammummyconqueringanxiet

#duet with @iamsimplyysophie #istillloveyou I cannot tell you how much I love this book! ???? As a Mum to a #toddler who struggles with certain things, it’s an important message! In the midst of #emotional #toddler #meltdowns & outbursts, it’s an important message for any child! One I was trying to verbally convey, before I first discovered the book! Now we sing the words to the book together & I tell my little girl, it’s how #mummy & #daddy feel about her ❤️ We now want to gift the #book to a #familyfriend & it will be sent from my little girl to her #schoolbestie ???? Excuse me whilst I have a little cry. ❤️ Let’s all spread a message of #acceptance & #love PLEASE go & check out all the amazing books this creator has designed, to help children who struggle ❤️ #gentleparenting #mummycontentcreator #schoolrunmum #mummyconqueringanxiety

♬ original sound – iamsimplyysophie

If you want to do some further reading on this subject, I have included some books below:

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Perinatal Anxiety & Depression – My Experience

THIS POST WAS UPDATED – AUGUST 2023

My battle with perinatal anxiety & depression was a long and scary journey.

Throwing hormones into the mix, along with a history of managing anxiety-related issues and panic attacks, was probably always going to be a recipe for disaster. But pregnancy was the point in my life when I finally needed help. Of the medicated kind. 

The factors at stake for me during pregnancy were not only the worries related to the actual pregnancy, but risks to my sanity, family, income-earning ability, and my job role.

let’s look at the definition of perinatal:

Perinatal mental health (PMH) problems are those which occur during pregnancy or in the first year following the birth of a child. Perinatal mental illness affects up to 27% of new and expectant mums and covers a wide range of conditions.

NHS England

As a result of working full-time, I put a lot of additional pressure on myself. It’s fair to say I wasn’t exactly working for a business where having kids was fully supported. I think this is improving, but there is still a lot of work to do in the corporate world. Women shouldn’t have to choose between having children or succeeding in a career. Businesses need to ensure both options are achievable.

Perinatal Anxiety & Depression

Although I know my mushy brain raised red flags at work, it was too early to announce the pregnancy. We were still within the three-month period, and to be honest I didn’t want anyone to know, because I thought it made me look weak.  

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Perinatal Anxiety & Depression

Working full-time during pregnancy and having pre-existing anxiety issues was a lot to deal with. I hope telling my story will be of some benefit to you. 

In this post, I will cover the following topics:

  • What is antenatal depression
  • My backstory
  • The pivotal moment I knew I needed help  
  • Antidepressants 
  • How I think mental health services for women during pregnancy could be improved
  • Why are women still afraid to speak out on mental health matters?
  • Techniques that helped me through
  • What the experience taught me

Mummy comes second

Often, we neglect our own mental health to be a mummy. Self-care comes bottom of the list and there aren’t enough hours in the day to complete every task on the never-ending list. I found out the hard way. You don’t realise you’re neglecting yourself until it’s too late. At this point, the damage is already done. 

From my own experience, health services need to be more proactive in respect of pre-pregnancy mental health problems. There is a lot of information and help out there relating to postnatal mental health problems. But my experience didn’t fit into this category. It made me feel like this was supposed to happen to me after I had the baby, not now. Surely? Why was this happening now?

Looking back, the impact of this shameful thinking only made matters worse. I was afraid to speak out and visit the doctor, for fear someone would think I was an unfit mother. The anxiety talking in my head would tell me, you can’t look after yourself, how can you look after a baby?

What is Antenatal depression?

Tommy’s describes it below:

Perinatal Anxiety & Depression

I’ve also found these resources for anyone who needs to read more on the subject. You can filter by area and will see a range of therapists, charities, and support groups.

Please read on for the full story of my battle with antenatal depression…

My backstory

I was two months into the pregnancy when I started feeling the symptoms listed in this article:

I was at work full time, struggling with the office-environment heat. Eating properly was just not happening, due to a constant sicky feeling (I felt permanently sick throughout pregnancy but was never actually sick!). I was far away from the toilet and needed to pee every 20 minutes – you get the picture. I actually lost weight over the course of my pregnancy, due to not getting enough nutrients.  

Perinatal Anxiety & Depression

My hormones and worries made it incredibly difficult to concentrate on my work tasks and I became paranoid that I was unable to do my job. I was seeking reassurance from a management team, who were used to me just getting on with things, however difficult the task was. Although I know my mushy brain raised red flags at work, it was too early to announce the pregnancy. We were still within the three-month period. And to be honest I didn’t want anyone to know, because I thought it made me look weak.  

We need our tribe

A mental health specialist once made the point, the people we refuse to tell during this three-month period are the very people we would need if something unforeseen was to happen. This has stuck with me, and it’s true. In the future, I probably wouldn’t open up in the workplace, unless I felt comfortable in doing so. But I would definitely let my friends and family in, sooner than I did before. They are the tribe you need around you, at such a testing time in life. It takes a village and all that jazz (it really does BTW – safety in numbers with toddlers, hehe).

The pivotal moment I knew I needed help 

I tried to plod along for a bit. We had a holiday planned (pre-planned before pregnancy). And I remember spending every waking moment of the getaway fixating on work and the conversation I’d had with a manager before leaving. The manager in question was trying to gauge why I was being so mushy in the brain (baby brain is real people). I wasn’t really capable of communicating verbally at that point and therefore, it was all a bit of a mess.

Perinatal Anxiety & Depression

The damage caused by keeping these feelings to yourself at such a vulnerable, unpredictable time in life, is colossal. Then going through possibly the worst trauma of your life and trying to look after a small baby who is totally relying on you. It’s a lot to cope with. And we should be able to open up about it without fear.

It’s fair to say my worries, and anxiety levels about being bad at my job, pretty much ruined my experience on holiday. As much as I told myself to put the thoughts out of my head, they would come back. Even trying to forget about the drama at work was exhausting.

Upon my return from holiday, I booked an appointment with the doctor. What I experienced during my appointment didn’t help me at all. They were reluctant to prescribe antidepressants during pregnancy and were unable to explain why. I was left to muddle through at work and I am sure you can all imagine, things worsened. My mental health was in serious decline and I didn’t know what to do.

Why it’s vital to reach out for help

The situation wouldn’t improve until I had the help I needed. My instinct told me this was the case, but I felt like the doctors were not listening to me. This resulted in me worrying and playing out situations in my head, which only fuelled the negative anxious thoughts I was already having. When you’re at your most vulnerable, you shouldn’t have to fight to access mental health services and the solutions you need.

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Antidepressants

I knew I needed medication at this point. Something to help me out of a black hole. So I could focus on growing a child and balancing the pressures of daily life.

Around this time, I also experienced very rude reception staff when trying to make appointments. I was speaking to them following a few hours of sleep, worrying all night and I just needed help. I ended up crying down the phone twice and I honestly don’t think they are adequately trained to deal with people experiencing mental health problems.

Complaining to the GP

I made a complaint and left the doctor’s surgery, following an incident where they asked me to visit reception. I nearly had a panic attack and was afraid to approach the reception desk due to the treatment I’d received previously. I didn’t need rude people dealing with my care, on top of my existing need for help and my current, very fragile mental state.


Talk about adding to my mum-guilt. Making an expectant mother feel like they are harming their unborn child, by seeking out medication to help both parties. 

Mind.org provides a lot of useful information about taking anti-depressants during pregnancy. When I was in the midst of trying to convince a doctor to prescribe the medication I required (it’s ridiculous I even have to write this in a blog post), I wish someone had provided me with the information I needed to make my case. 

The doctor’s viewpoint on medication during pregnancy

I was asked to go away and try other techniques to avoid medication and the doctor insinuated, had I been on medication before pregnancy, it would be fine to continue taking it. Talk about adding to my mum guilt. Making an expectant mother feel like they are harming their unborn child, by seeking out medication to help both parties. 

Waiting in limbo for a solution

I personally spent two months in limbo, before finally receiving medication, which eventually helped. Including the adjustment period, I would estimate I spent five months of a nine-month pregnancy suffering, unnecessarily. Antidepressants take a while to start working, and initially, you have some pretty severe side effects. I was already walking around like a zombie and new medication didn’t help the situation. 

Based on my experience, I know we need to change the system to avoid negative outcomes at a time in life where a woman should be happy and thriving.

I was desperately trying to find a solution to ease the pressure.  My mental health issues impacted my well-being, my job, my relationship. In addition to the confidence, I had to be a good mother. Also, my ability to buy things for the baby and it made the whole experience pretty grim.

A difficult pregnancy

I look back on my pregnancy now and don’t remember having one good day. I probably did, but I was plagued with uncontrollable anxiety and depression. As well as trying to manage all other areas of life.

It’s definitely had a bearing on my decision to have another child. I have anxiety about what another pregnancy would be like. Would I be a mess again, unable to cope, or worse this time? Whilst also trying to care for a toddler. I also don’t have much faith I would get help from a doctor if I needed it. And I know a lot of other people who feel like this.

The research on taking antidepressants whilst pregnant

From conducting my own research, I was only able to find one study which mentioned the medication I was on. And how it could have an impact on an unborn baby. Surely, I thought, having a healthy mother is vitally important. Given the way I was dealt with by the doctor, I expected to find endless studies backing up the reluctance to prescribe the medication, but that just wasn’t the case. 

How I think mental health services for women during pregnancy could be improved

Whilst in hospital Let’s just talk for a second about how calling anyone with anxiety issues, ‘difficult’, can be extremely damaging in itself. It made me feel like an inconvenience, like I wanted to go home straight away.

Unfortunately, the health service is understaffed, and staff do not have time to speak to you one on one and deal with your anxiety issues. Whilst the people caring for me were lovely, salt-of-the-earth people, who were clearly meant to be in this job. I still felt like a burden. 

Traumatic experiences during my stay on the postnatal ward

I remember the morning after my C-section, with only basic over-the-counter medication, to deal with a major operation and a serious infection. Being called “difficult” for not wanting to sit up in bed until I had my painkillers. Let’s just talk for a second about how calling anyone with anxiety issues, “difficult”, can be extremely damaging in itself. It made me feel like an inconvenience. I wanted to go home straight away, but I couldn’t as I was under observation. 

During my stay, I was in agony, and I kept receiving the pain medication at the incorrect times, which resulted in some nasty withdrawal symptoms from the whole, traumatic ordeal. Whilst I would only wish to thank the staff involved in my care (they do their absolute best every single day and you can see that). These circumstances resulted in my anxiety levels rising, in a situation and surroundings where there was nobody but my hubby to understand or support me. 

Perinatal Anxiety & Depression

The need for a birthing partner who knows you well

They even sent my hubby home, so there were periods when I didn’t have anyone to understand me. And I couldn’t get out of bed or look after myself!

Being in my head at the time, I was honestly afraid of how I would be judged in that situation. Would the nurse caring for her think I was an inadequate mother? Were they making notes about me and recording what was happening? Would I get a visit from social services? Because I was clearly unstable for thinking like this?

He was initially sent home during my labour period, at the pivotal moment when my pain was increasing and I felt like nobody was listening when I said that. Things progressed quickly in his absence and he was called back. However, the endless number of factors that worsened my anxiety during his absence had already made me defensive and less likely to open up. From this point, I felt trapped. And my anxiety spiralled.

The system, funding, and government intervention need to improve. It simply isn’t good enough to have a lack of care, over-tired staff, and possible negative outcomes. When you are dealing with the care of a new mother and child. 

The pandemic worsening the situation

To send partners home when they are really the only ones looking after the expectant mother and taking time to understand their needs is unacceptable. The anxiety about mothers being left to fend for themselves only worsened during the pandemic. This Independent article goes into more detail. This Guardian article also touches on the issue.

Possible solutions?

I also don’t believe a one size fits all approach is sufficient when you are dealing with mental health. It would help to have mental health specialists visit patients in the antenatal ward. But it’s all about the lack of funding for services. And whilst some NHS trusts have this specialism, most still don’t. It’s also vital to allow birthing partners to stay with the expectant mother, especially when staff are too busy to care for their needs.

I am eternally grateful to the staff at our local hospital for ensuring our post-pregnancy outcome was as positive as possible given their resources. I am aware some of the issues discussed in this article can lead to negative outcomes for babies and parents. And my thoughts go out to anyone who is impacted.

Need help?

If you are impacted by any of the issues we have touched on in this article. Here are some charities that could help: Tommy’s or Bliss. They are fantastic charities doing a lot of work to help improve maternity services. I’ve also recently come across PaNDAS which specialise in postnatal Depression. Pregnant then screwed is a charity advocating for women’s rights at work.

Why are women STILL afraid to speak out on mental health matters?

The following quote is from a Glamour article and summarises how one woman felt about admitting there was a mental health issue during pregnancy:

“It’s comforting to know that I’m not the only one who feels ashamed. A woman I know recently told me that when she was pregnant, her mind was in a particularly dark place but she feared that telling someone she felt depressed could result in her baby being taken away when he was born. For months she resisted medication because she thought that being a medicated mom equaled being a bad parent. She has since started medication but is too ashamed to tell her in-laws, and she has gone from wanting multiple children to writing off any future pregnancies.”

Why is this still a problem in our society? And why isn’t someone helping pregnant women be honest and get the help they need? I do think mental health services have improved and are continuing in the right direction, but we still have a long way to go.

The quote above describes the way I felt and the way I was subsequently made to feel by a doctor. How many expectant mothers are turned away and then never have the confidence to ask for help again? As I am quite a strong person, I persisted and luckily got the help I needed. Doing this took every ounce of energy I had though. Just before getting the medication I needed, I booked 10 days holiday from work, because I just couldn’t carry on. I was even afraid to take sick leave because it would be questioned in respect of my pregnancy. I don’t know where I would be without the medication I started taking during pregnancy.

Adding a label to my experiences

It would have been beneficial for the doctor to mention or label, what I was experiencing could be a battle with antenatal depression. Nobody ever mentioned this term to me and it’s only now, looking back on the situation, that I know what it is. It has a name and I can talk about it now.

Is someone spying on me?

During my pre-pregnancy appointments and my stay on the ward (4 days), I remember feeling as though I was being watched. Checked up on, and questioned a lot. The obstetrician was obviously aware of my anxiety issues and I was overweight, which required additional check-up appointments.

Seeing through an anxiety lens

Maybe the staff weren’t acting any differently, just doing their job. The point is I felt like this throughout my care. Up to the point of discharge from the hospital post-pregnancy.

The damage caused by keeping these feelings to yourself at such a vulnerable, unpredictable time in life, is colossal. Then going through possibly the worst trauma of your life and trying to look after a small baby who is totally relying on you. It’s a lot to cope with. And we should be able to open up about it without fear.

You can read some of the other blog posts in the pregnancy section below:

Perinatal Anxiety & Depression – My Experience

Moving on from past trauma in order to make healthy future decisions

You are a great parent despite a confirmed diagnosis of bipolar disorder

Why a sleep routine is important for a newborn

Reluctance to begin mummy-duties

My hubby describes me as being reluctant to visit our little pumpkin in the baby unit (she had to be monitored due to an infection). And he puts it down to my pain levels.

Being in my head at the time, I was honestly afraid of how I would be judged in that situation. Would the nurse caring for her think I was an inadequate mother? Were they making notes about me and recording what was happening? Would I get a visit from social services? Because I was clearly unstable for thinking like this?

Pressure to breastfeed

There is so much talk about breastfeeding whilst you’re there and you are made to feel inadequate, whether this is intentional or not. The surroundings also don’t help you get the rest you need: babies crying all night, women screaming in pain. Although I felt for all parties involved and could relate, it isn’t the best setting in which to recover from a major operation with out-of-control anxiety issues.

Techniques that helped me through

Stopping full-time work one month early

The pressure on expectant mothers from the workplace also has to stop! Slowly society is progressing in this area, but the progress isn’t quick enough for me or other poor mothers, who have additional guilt, added to the mixing pot of hormones, emotions, physically struggling, anxiety about life-changing circumstances, and the thought of being responsible for a new baby.

When it came to it, admitting I needed to stop working due to severe hip pain and mental health issues, really helped me. Although having to do this makes you feel inadequate. Nobody at work visited me, whether it be management or HR to ask how I was doing. The only sympathetic comments I got were from other expectant mothers. Who literally felt my pain in respect of lack of support.

Feeling isolated and lonely

It is isolating and lonely to feel like nobody understands how you feel. You’re so tired at that point. It’s too much to try and explain it to someone, who frankly doesn’t understand and doesn’t really want to. I stayed quiet for a lot of time and put my head down until I could finally finish work. 

The day I finished work, I visited the doctor after not sleeping all night, feeling sick, and suffering from severe anxiety. And this was the route I took to stop working. It had to reach a breaking point before I could finally stop. They told me not to go back until after my maternity leave ended. The worry then became about limited time with my child. Was I wasting a month before the baby was here? Should I still be working?

Perinatal Anxiety & Depression

Workplaces need to do better

I think workplaces and the government are also accountable for supporting women and making employees feel secure in having children and thriving at their jobs. You shouldn’t have to pick one or the other.

I am a huge fan of the shared paternity leave. The hubby & I have discussed doing it with a second child. Unfortunately, I don’t think enough people know about the option or want to take it up. Hopefully, this will change. 

The pressure on expectant mothers from the workplace also has to stop! Slowly society is progressing in this area, but the progress isn’t quick enough for me or other poor mothers, who have additional guilt, added to the mixing pot of hormones, emotions, physically struggling, anxiety about life-changing circumstances, and the thought of being responsible for a new baby.

Self-care

During the month off work pre-pregnancy, I made time for self-care. Baths, naps, candles, chocolate, strawberry laces (even though they made me sick towards the end, with my limited stomach space). Anything that would lift my mood and make me feel a little better.

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Although I was hesitant to finish work early, as I was only having 9 months at most with my little pumpkin. It was refreshing to have a month off before the baby came. I did all the things that made me feel better and stopped dragging my overloaded body to the train station every day. To a job where I didn’t feel supported. It was lovely to be out of the toxic environment.

The home was my haven

Nesting – we’ve all heard that term used. To describe a woman’s instinct to prepare for the impending arrival of a brand-new baby. I love this description from a Dad’s perspective.

My hubby was used to the nesting process (I’ve always been obsessed with cleaning). He’s the messy, unorganised one in the relationship and I’m the one who gets excited about new cleaning products. (standards have slipped though, now I have a toddler).

On the subject of men, I would also like to mention, this issue doesn’t just impact mothers. Men’s mental health can also be affected by pregnancy and the aftermath.

What the experience taught me

I have learned my lesson about prioritising the health of myself and my baby. Also, not caring about what other people think. Especially those who have no bearing on my life and the decisions I make. Ultimately you as an individual will know what’s best for you and you should push to receive the help you need. In the future, I would stick up for myself when it comes to doctors’ appointments and medication.

If and when we have another baby, I would do things differently this time. You don’t know what to expect when it’s your first pregnancy. You must experience it for yourself, in order to learn and grow.

Final thoughts

Everyone has their own way of coping with traumatic events and mine is blogging.

I can only relay my personal experience, feelings, and thoughts on this subject. I am aware there are a lot of additional factors and issues surrounding these sensitive subjects,

If you have been affected by any of these issues, let’s all speak out and raise awareness. That’s how change happens. Please feel free to get in touch, or leave a comment below. I would love to hear from you.

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Affirmations – What Comes to Mind?

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Hello, My name is Princess Joe-Igbuzor. I’m a Nigerian Law student who is passionate about mental health and women’s rights. 

I am indeed thrilled to be writing this guest post for your blog, I hope you enjoy the read and have a great day. 

About My Blog 

Write_rspace is a mental health blog which focuses on saying big things in small ways. Predominantly writing about mental health, my focus is to de-stigmatize the mystic aura behind mental health and reduce it into concepts that people can understand in everyday life. 

Different things spring to mind depending on how deep you are in your personal development journey. For some, Affirmations are like a list of mantras that you recite to yourself every morning. Others see it as some form of ritual in which you chant a string of words. 

Putting it plain and simple, Affirmations in this context are sentences you say to yourself to profess the opposite of your surrounding situation.

It’s speaking positively even in the negative. 

No one who is truly happy stands in front of a mirror and tells themselves they’re happy.

Mark Manson in his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k
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Lets dive in

Over time, a lot of individuals including myself have begun to see Affirmations as a form of ritualistic activity. It almost seems like affirmations are delusions we tell ourselves because as said by Mark Manson in his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k, ‘No one who is truly happy stands in front of a mirror and tells themselves they’re happy.’ 

Ever since I had jumped off the bandwagon and stopped using affirmations in total or so I thought. I, like most people, thought affirmations were sentences you told yourself in front of a mirror every morning and that was all there was to it. 

So then I would ask myself and I’m sure you’ve asked yourself this too, 

‘Why should I say I’m happy every morning even when I don’t feel happy?’ 

Like I said earlier, it makes one feel delusional especially when those words don’t instantly make things perfect and we still go about our day feeling down. 

But what we have failed to realize is that Affirmations are never one size fits all. It’s not some ritual or only an activity that some people partake in. We all use affirmations day in and day out.

Let me show you 7 ways you unconsciously use affirmations

7 ways you unconsciously use affirmations

An ‘I’ll be fine’ on a bad/rough day.

Remember the last time you were having a really bad day, your self-esteem felt like it was non-existence and you just wanted to disappear literally. 

When you find yourself in this situation and after having a meltdown session, you clean your tears and you say, ‘I’ll be fine.’ or ‘I will get through this’.

Do you want to know a secret? That ‘I’ll be fine’ or ‘I will get through this’ or their variations are affirmations. 

But we say it so often that we don’t realize they are affirmations. 

How? 

Because everything in that moment is telling you that things won’t be fine and yet you profess the positive even in that state. 

I recall, last month I was going through a really bad few weeks and I had been trying to keep it all inside but this particular day every emotion I was feeling felt heightened and I wanted to drop everything and just go home but I couldn’t. In the midst of all that, I remember saying, ‘I will be fine, I have gone through so much and this will not overcome me.’ 

I didn’t instantly feel better but I was calmer in that moment so it was easier to face the task at hand. I know I was aware at that moment that I had used an affirmation. 

The ‘I look good’ on a bad hair/outfit day. 

We have all had our fair share of bad hair/outfit days, it’s a common occurrence in life. 

But telling yourself you look good in an outfit that you know you don’t or you could better is a form of affirmation. You just don’t pay close attention to it. The outfit doesn’t make the person, The person makes the outfit. 

So even when you are putting on an outfit that you know you look mid in, you square your shoulders and readjust your posture and tell yourself, ‘I look good.’ 

On days when you have a sudden wardrobe malfunction and there is no alternative so you make a spare outfit, you still tell yourself you look great despite knowing you could look better. 

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The ‘I can do anything I set my mind to’ when goal setting. 

Whether you write it down or have a vision in your head, we all have goals. 

Some parameters of what we hope to achieve. However, some days come and we are down in the dumps wondering if we will ever achieve the goals we had in mind. An experience I’m sure we all relate to is that of setting resolutions. 

At the beginning of the month or year, we set resolutions of the things we hope to achieve before the specific timeline runs out. But almost always by the middle of the month or a few months into the year, we lose our momentum, that drive that we had the day we were setting the goal is almost non-existence. 

Setbacks with goal-setting

Or perhaps we have been trying to achieve the goals but we have encountered some setbacks. 

Naturally, we begin to reevaluate our goals and attempt to make some changes but then suddenly we get this deep resilience that we can do anything we set our minds to. 

Sometimes we say this out loud. Oftentimes we just feel it and rather than change course, we tread down the same path with renewed energy and motivation. 

The ‘I’m great’ when doubt sets in. 

For every athlete and artist out there, you can resonate with a moment in your career when you were doubtful of your capabilities even when you have proved yourself before. 

The mind is a tricky place and although you know you can achieve this feat, doubt and fear have come to nestle you just right before the race, game or performance. 

You tell yourself to just breathe and calm down but your palms become shaky and sweaty. You certainly can’t perform at your best like this so you try to give yourself a confidence boost but that doesn’t seem to help. 

And then you start to take deep breaths and tell yourself ‘I’ll do great.’, ‘I’m great, I have done this before, I can do it again.’ 

I’m a university student and last semester was tough. I had done well in previous semesters but this last semester, doubt started to sink in. I would read for hours and not remember a single thing, I knew I was in over my head and I needed to get out of there fast or my grades would fall. 

So every time, right before I started reading or writing any form of test or exam, I would tell myself that ‘I’m great and I can do this. I have done it before and this time will be no different.’ I didn’t know it but It was affirmations that helped me get through that doubt. 

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The ‘It’s not that bad’ when things are really bad. 

Affirmations don’t always have to be in the form of all positive and go skippy, they can sometimes hide in semi-positive statements especially when we subconsciously don’t want to admit that we use affirmations. 

You have been in a situation that was very bad like stage 10 bad and yet you told yourself that, ‘it’s not that bad.’ 

Like a hall, you rented for an event getting flooded before the event or you got a bad score on a test you worked hard for. 

In the midst of all this, you tell yourself, ‘It’s not that bad.’ and you move on. It doesn’t make things better but it begins to hurt less. 

The ‘Tomorrow will be better’ after a long day. 

Some days are never-ending, they seem to have 36 hours instead of the usual 24 hours. The night can’t come any faster so when you do eventually get to crawl into bed. You are already exhausted and just want to be over with the day so you tell yourself, Tomorrow will be better. Because it has to be. 

That’s affirmation at its best. You are speaking into a new day and declaring what you want from it even before the day is here. 

Some days you don’t even realize that you are saying this or speaking it into existence. It just seems natural and far from mystical. 

Lastly, we have the ‘It’s a phase, It will pass’ after a series of bad weeks/months.

This we use when we have yet another bad week after a string of bad weeks or another bad month after a few bad months. 

We tell ourselves that we know things may be not great now but no situation is permanent and it will all pass soon despite no inclination that things are getting better. 

We tell ourselves it’s a phase and we believe so. That’s the power of affirmations

One of the instant benefits of these unconscious affirmations is the sense of calmness and assurance that you feel after speaking these positive words into existence. 

Closing Remarks 

Affirmations don’t have to be in front of a mirror or said at a particular time of the day. That’s the hidden magic to it.

You can make use of affirmations daily without even realizing that you are. In the same way, we have positive affirmations, there exist negative affirmations. 

But now that you know the benefits of positive affirmations, you can imagine what effects negative affirmations will have. 

In what ways have you used affirmations unconsciously in your daily life?

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My Favourite Self-Care Products For Mother’s Day

It’s no secret that I love affordable but effective beauty products. And I try and fit in self-care whenever I can. These trusted beauty products, allow me to quickly transform from mum mode into work or going out mode. And given our recent family financial difficulties, my purchases must also be affordable.

I want to share some of my favourite self-care products in this gift guide.

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My Favourite products from the No7 range

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Here are some of the trusted No7, everyday self-care products I am currently using. And why I love them so much

Gel Finish Nail Colour 10ml (pictured above)

Every few months, I pick another colour from the range. It is part of my self-care routine, to do my nails for work and also when I go out. Let’s all just agree right now, that blogging images also look better when someone has their nails done! However, finding the time to do them is a different story.

Lip & Cheek Tint 10ml (pictured above)

I tried this product a while ago and it’s great. I bought a light shade of pink and it’s a lovely addition to the cheeks for going out. It also added some much-needed colour to my cheeks for work the other day.

High Shine Lip Gloss 8ml (pictured above)

Again, this is a product I use daily. If I fancy a bit of subtle colour at work, or for going out. It’s an easy-to-use product, and the coverage is great. It also has lasting power, without getting bitty.

Lift & Luminate TRIPLE ACTION Primer

I have tried several make-up primers in the past. But this one is silky smooth and gives a flawless finish to your makeup. I notice a difference when I don’t use it!

No7 The Full 360 Mascara 7ml

As someone with pretty short eyelashes, I need something which transforms my eyes from a normal working mum to going out to party mode. This mascara does just that and it’s a trusted product I keep going back to. Because it works. And it’s affordable.

Strength & Growth Treatment 10ml

In the past, I haven’t been kind to my nails. And I am now seeing the impact of the damage. As I frequently use nail polish, I need to use a treatment to look after my nails.

Stay Perfect Base Coat 10ml

A few years ago, I decided to start using a base and top coat with my nail polish. Simply to protect my nails and also give me a more flawless look. If you use this base with the gel finish products, it can give the look of fuller nails. A bit like you would get when they apply shellac in a salon. But with much less cost involved!

Gel Finish Top Coat 10ml

Exactly what it says on the tin. A flawless finish protects the colour of the nails underneath. If I am on holiday, this product can bring staying power to the nails, which is a must. Who wants to be doing their nails when they can be at the beach, with a cocktail instead?

Lift & Luminate TRIPLE ACTION Serum Concealer 8ml (pictured below)

I use this product daily. In place of a BB cream or foundation. The coverage is great and it leaves my skin looking fresh throughout the day.

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I recently made a TikTok post about the self-care products I use daily, whilst sitting at my desk blogging. Featuring the No7 Protect & Perfect Eye Cream & Lip Care

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My Favourite self-care products from The Body Shop

Mother’s Day wellness

Why not pick up a wellness gift set for the amazing mum in your life?

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Because I love The Body Shop so much, I have made it a mission to try some new self-care products. And I must say, I am not disappointed. Read my review of them below.

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Trusted products I use frequently

Camomile Sumptuous Cleansing Butter

This goes on in a solid form but quickly melts to a nice clear butter. Not too heavy but feels nourishing and brings off the day’s impurities. It also smells lovely and there is a calming, take-the-day-off sense about it. I will now be adding it to my skincare routine and using it a few times a week. Along with my Edelweiss skincare products. 

Almond Nail And Cuticle Oil

This nail oil smells divine. I’ve been on the lookout for some great cuticle treatments for a while and thought I would try this. The brush and applicator allow just the right amount. And the consistency turns from a slight gel to oil once brushed on. A bit like smelling fresh cherry Bakewell baking in the oven, whilst you partake in self-care.

Edelweiss Serum Concentrate Sheet Mask

Let’s start with opening the packet – there is so much liquid in there, which gives great overall coverage and you know you’re in for a real treat. I will be honest and say I usually opt for the much cheaper sheet masks. And although this price point is higher, you literally get what you pay for and this product has a quality all over it.

I’ve never tried a sheet mask where the moisture soaks into the face and the mask eventually goes dry. But this happened with the Edelweiss mask. It smells lovely and my skin was left feeling nourished and refreshed after using it. I will be purchasing more. 

Banana Truly Nourishing Shampoo 

I bought a little bottle of this to try it. When I’ve used banana products from other brands before, they can be overpowering and sickly. However, this has just the right amount of fragrance. It honestly makes my hair feel lovely and the smell brings about a relaxing sense. I will be purchasing a bigger bottle. 

Strawberry Shower Gel

I’ve loved the fruity scents from The Body Shop since I was a teen. It just depends on what scents you’re into the most. I feel relaxed, looked after and like I’m in a field picking strawberries when I use this product. Love it so much, so I had to treat myself recently.

Hemp Hand Protector

This is so nourishing with a hint of fragrance. You can tell it’s helping to protect your hands. My hubby uses it every day before work and I also love pinching a bit of it too!

Hemp Heavy-Duty Lip Care

As I suffer from dry lips, this product is a must for me. Especially to protect your lips in the cold weather.

Himalayan Charcoal Purifying Glow Mask

I’ve used this product for a while now. And even before I purchased the Edelweiss range, the charcoal mask left my skin feeling fresh. And my complexion was noticeably clearer.

Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed reading the rundown of the trusted beauty products I use daily.

Do you use any of these products? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

And I would love your suggestions on any other products I should try…

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Understanding the Causes of Stress and How to Overcome Them

Stress is a common experience for many people, and it can profoundly impact mental and physical health. In this blog post, we will explore the various ways to cope with stress better and develop strategies to manage its effects. We’ll discuss how to recognize stress triggers, identify healthy coping strategies, and incorporate techniques such as relaxation techniques and mindfulness into your daily routine. Finally, we’ll look at various available resources to help you deal with stress effectively. Whether you’re just beginning to feel overwhelmed or looking for long-term solutions, this guide will provide some useful guidance on managing stress in your life. Ready to reduce the causes of stress?

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What is Stress?

Stress is defined as the emotional and physical strain caused by our response to pressure from the outside world. It can originate from a wide range of sources, such as work, family responsibilities, relationships, health concerns, or significant life changes. While some amount of stress is normal and even beneficial in certain situations, prolonged or excessive levels can lead to a variety of physical and mental health problems.

Causes of Stress

Stress can be caused by a variety of factors, including difficult life situations such as job loss and family issues or even seemingly manageable things like work deadlines. Other common stress triggers include financial problems, health concerns, relationship issues, and time pressures. Some people may also experience causes of stress in response to unexpected events such as natural disasters or personal tragedies.

Recognizing Stress Triggers

The first step in managing your stress is to identify the things that trigger it. Pay attention to your physical and emotional reactions when you feel overwhelmed, and try to pinpoint what triggered your reaction. Once you know what causes your stress, you can begin to develop strategies for dealing with it more effectively.

Signs and Symptoms of Stress

The signs and symptoms of stress can vary from person to person but generally include physical symptoms such as headaches, muscle tension, fatigue, digestive issues, and skin problems. Mental health symptoms include difficulty concentrating, difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much, irritability or mood swings, anxiety, and depression. Other common signs include feeling overwhelmed or constantly in a rush; lacking motivation; avoiding social situations; procrastination; frequent crying spells, and reduced productivity at work.

Understanding Your Response to Stress

It is crucial to understand how your body responds to different levels of stress in order to develop strategies for managing it more effectively. Common responses to stress can include increased heart rate, shallow breathing, muscle tension, and feeling overwhelmed. Recognizing these signs in yourself can help to identify when it is time to take a break from a stressful situation.

Coping Strategies

Stress is an inevitable part of life and can be challenging to manage. However, learning how to cope with stress and practice self-care effectively is essential for maintaining good physical, mental and emotional health. Developing healthy habits such as engaging in regular physical activity, practising mindfulness, eating well, and creating routines or calendars can help reduce stress levels daily. By implementing these strategies into your lifestyle, you will start to feel more relaxed and better equipped to handle any challenges that come your way. Additionally, seeking professional help, if necessary, is also crucial in managing thoughts or feelings that are overwhelming or disruptive.

Benefits of Physical Exercise for Reducing Stress

Regular physical activity can help to counter the adverse effects of stress. Exercise releases endorphins that can improve your mood and reduce feelings of depression, anxiety, and fatigue. Additionally, it helps to strengthen your body’s natural defences against stress-related illnesses such as high blood pressure or heart disease. A combination of aerobic exercise (such as running), strength training (such as weightlifting), stretching, and relaxation techniques are all beneficial for managing stress levels.

Eating Healthy Key to Managing Anxiety and Stress

Eating a balanced and nutritious diet is essential for managing stress. Eating foods rich in antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals can help improve mood and reduce feelings of fatigue or irritability. Making dietary changes such as eating more fresh fruits and vegetables and reducing your intake of processed foods, sugary snacks, or caffeine can help to reduce stress levels. Avoiding processed foods and caffeine and getting enough sleep can also contribute to better overall health, which will help with your ability to cope with stressful situations. Avoiding overeating is also crucial, as this can lead to feeling sluggish, irritable, or anxious, which can further contribute to stress.

Mindfulness Practices: An Effective Tool in Dealing with Stress

Mindfulness practices such as meditation, yoga, and tai chi are beneficial techniques for reducing stress levels. By intentionally bringing awareness to your present moment experience and allowing yourself to observe thoughts, feelings, and sensations without judgment, you can recognize patterns in how you respond to stressful situations.

Organizing Your Time: Creating Calendars; Routines

Creating routines and calendars for managing your daily activities can help make you feel more organized, reducing feelings of overwhelm and anxiety associated with stress. By planning out your day, you can prioritize tasks and create a more structured method of managing workloads. This will help to make sure that all necessary tasks are completed in a timely manner, leaving room for moments of relaxation or enjoyment.

Prioritizing Self-Care

It is important to remember that your well-being comes first. It is easy to get caught up in work or daily tasks, but it is essential to take time out for yourself in order to relax and focus on your own needs. Prioritizing self-care activities such as getting enough sleep, spending time with loved ones, taking breaks from screens, journaling, and practising relaxation techniques can help to reduce stress levels and improve your overall well-being.

Seeking Professional Help

Suppose stress has a significant impact on your daily life. In that case, it may be beneficial to seek professional help from a counsellor or therapist who can provide more effective strategies for managing your responses. Talking about how you feel with someone trained in mental health issues can help to alleviate anxious thoughts or feelings of despair. Delta 8 Gummies could also be used as an additional tool for managing stress levels. These gummies are derived from hemp plants and contain CBD, which has been proven to reduce anxiety and stress levels. The gummies are available in a variety of flavours, making them an easy-to-use option for those looking for a quick way to relax and destress.

Simple Tips for Everyday Living that Promote Well-Being and Reduce Stress Levels

Living a healthy lifestyle that is balanced and manageable can reduce stress levels. Taking time for yourself to engage in activities or hobbies that you enjoy, getting enough sleep, spending time with friends and family, laughing more often, creating boundaries between work and home life, and setting achievable goals are all simple strategies that can be used on a daily basis. Additionally, learning how to say no to tasks or requests that exceed your ability to manage them effectively can also help reduce feelings of stress and overwhelm.

Stress is an inevitable part of life, and it is essential to learn how to manage it effectively. Finding the right mix of activities that work best for you on an individual basis is key to reducing stress levels and promoting overall well-being. Remember to be kind to yourself, take a break when needed, reach out for professional support if required, and don’t forget to have fun along the way. With these tips in mind, you will soon find yourself better equipped to cope with life’s challenges with confidence.

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A Comprehensive Guide to Achieving Good Mental and Behavioural Health

Mental and behavioural health are integral components of overall well-being. Conversely, poor mental and behavioural health can severely impact our lives. Leaving us feeling anxious, depressed, or struggling to cope with everyday life. Fortunately, there are strategies we can use to maintain good mental and behavioural health. This doesn’t require prescription drugs or expensive therapy sessions. In this guide, we will discuss ways you can naturally promote good mental and behavioural health.

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Prioritize Self-Care:

While it can be tempting to jump into work and other day-to-day tasks, prioritizing self-care is important. Self-care is any activity that helps you maintain your physical, mental, and emotional health. Taking the time for self-care can help reduce stress levels and increase productivity.

One way to practice self-care is by setting aside some time for yourself each day to do something you enjoy. This could be anything from reading a book, taking a walk in nature, or doing some breathing exercises. Additionally, make sure that you are getting enough rest at night. Not getting enough sleep can lead to increased stress levels and difficulty concentrating on tasks throughout the day.

Another way to practice self-care is to be mindful of what you are eating. Eating healthy, nutritious foods can boost your mood and energy levels, while processed and sugary foods can lead to fatigue and low self-esteem. Incorporating plenty of fruits and vegetables into your diet is a great way to keep your mental and physical health in check.

Social Connections:

Having strong social connections and spending time with friends or family can do wonders for our mental health. Developing caring, supportive, and understanding relationships can help us feel cared for during difficult times. And provide joy during good times. Additionally, research has shown that strong social ties are associated with improved physical health outcomes such as lower blood pressure, reduced risk of depression, and improved immune system functioning.

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That being said, it’s important to find a healthy balance between spending time with others and having enough “me time.” Spending too much time in social activities can lead to stress and anxiety if you don’t have enough downtime for yourself. Additionally, make sure that the people you surround yourself with are positive influences who support your mental health goals. It can be helpful to talk to friends or family about what you are going through so they can provide additional support during difficult times.

Also, if you find yourself struggling with Expressive Language Disorder, which can make it hard to express your thoughts and feelings verbally, there are still plenty of ways to connect with others. Writing in a journal is a great way to express your emotions without having to verbalize them. Additionally, joining an online support group or therapy session can help you feel supported and accepted without the pressure of speaking.

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Exercise:

Exercise is another great way to promote good mental and behavioural health. Regular exercise help reduce stress levels and stimulates the production of feel-good hormones like serotonin and dopamine, which can help boost our moods. Additionally, exercise has been shown to improve sleep quality, increase concentration, and reduce feelings of anxiety and depression.

It’s important to find the type of exercise that works best for you. Everyone will have different preferences regarding exercise—some may enjoy running or hiking outdoors, while others prefer yoga or weightlifting in a gym. There is no “right” way to exercise; the most important thing is to find an activity that you enjoy and stick with it.

Journaling:

Journaling is a great way to work through difficult emotions, address negative thoughts and behaviours, and gain new insights into yourself. Whether it’s a daily diary, a gratitude journal, or a more creative art journaling practice, taking the time to write down your thoughts and feelings can be incredibly therapeutic. This could even involve writing letters that you never send as a way of expressing yourself in an emotional yet contained way.

Journaling can also help with problem-solving and goal-setting by allowing you to slow down and brainstorm solutions from a place of clarity. It helps hone your focus on what’s important and provides momentum for personal growth. For example, jotting down action steps for achieving specific goals encourages self-discipline, accountability, and reflection along the way. Ultimately, this is beneficial for improving mental health overall.

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Furthermore, studies have shown that journaling can reduce stress and anxiety, boost creativity and mental clarity, increase self-awareness, regulate emotions, and even improve physical health. But how do you get started? One of the best ways to begin is to just start writing. Don’t worry about grammar or spelling – just write what comes out of your head as quickly as you can. Once you get in the flow, it becomes easier to be more structured. You may find that topics will naturally arise from free-flow writing, and suddenly, your journaling has a theme!

5. Connect with Nature:

Finally, connecting with nature is another great way to boost mental health. Studies have shown that spending time in nature can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression and improve overall mood. Additionally, being in nature can increase feelings of connectedness and self-esteem by bringing us into contact with something greater than ourselves – the natural world.

There are many different ways to connect with nature, depending on your interests or preferences. For example, going for a walk in the park or garden is an easy way to take in some fresh air and enjoy the beauty of nature. Other activities like bird watching, kayaking, camping, or gardening can help you get closer to nature while having fun at the same time. No matter how you choose to connect with nature, it’s sure to bring positive benefits to your mental health.

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Overall, there are many simple and enjoyable ways to support your mental health. From mindfulness and exercise to journaling and connecting with nature, there’s something for everyone. Taking the time to practice these activities can help promote improved emotional well-being in the long run. So why not give them a try today? Who knows – you might just find that one of these activities is life-changing!

6. Reach Out For Support:

It’s also important to reach out for support when it comes to your mental health. Whether that means seeing a therapist, joining a support group, or simply connecting with friends and family, having strong social support can be incredibly beneficial. Friends and family can provide emotional support, practical advice, and understanding during difficult times.

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Additionally, turning to professionals such as therapists or counsellors can offer even more help by providing specialized guidance from an unbiased perspective. They are trained to listen without judgment and provide the tools needed to work through challenges in life. Additionally, seeking professional help does not mean you’re weak or unable to handle things on your own – it simply means that you recognize that there may be areas in which you need extra assistance.

No matter how you choose to reach out, know that seeking help is an important part of taking care of yourself. That’s why it’s so important to build a strong support system and lean on them when needed. After all, we were never meant to go through life alone – having the right kind of people around us can make all the difference.

7. Focus on the Positive:

Finally, it’s important to focus on the positive aspects of life, even when things are tough. Research has shown that focusing on the positive can help increase life satisfaction, reduce stress and anxiety, improve physical health, and even boost immunity.

There are lots of different ways to focus on the positives in life. A great place to start is by creating a gratitude list – writing down all the things you’re thankful for. This can be anything from having a safe place to live to spending time with your family or friends. Focusing on these positive aspects of life can help create feelings of appreciation and joy that will have lasting effects.

My fave mental health blog posts:

MANAGING ANXIETY & STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

PERINATAL ANXIETY & DEPRESSION – MY EXPERIENCE

AN OPEN LETTER TO MY ANXIETY

VIOLENCE & DEPRESSION – HOW WORKING IN SECURITY IMPACTS MEN

You can also try doing something creative or engaging in activities that bring you joy like dancing, cooking, painting, etc. Taking part in enjoyable activities helps us shift our attention away from negative thoughts and feelings and towards something that pleases us. Focusing on the positive can be a powerful tool to help boost our mental health.

There are many simple and enjoyable ways to support your mental health. From mindfulness and exercise to journaling and connecting with nature, reaching out for help, and focusing on the positive – there’s sure to be something that resonates with you. Taking the time to practice these activities can help promote improved emotional well-being in the long run. So why not give them a try today? Who knows – you might just find that one of these activities is life-changing!

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No matter how you choose to take care of yourself, the most important thing is that you prioritize your mental health. Remember, self-care isn’t selfish – it’s essential for our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. So take the time to give yourself some well-deserved TLC – you deserve it! Take care of yourself and be kind to your mind. After all, we only have one life to live – let’s make sure we do it right by taking care of our mental health.

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Gaining an understanding of the common sources of poor mental and behavioural health is the first step to prevention and management. These may include chronic stress, trauma or adverse experiences, genetic predisposition or environmental influences – to name just some factors that contribute. Long-term exposure to high-stress situations may result in anxiety disorders and depression. At the same time, trauma-induced experiences – especially during childhood – may cause various mental and behavioural health issues in adulthood. Genetics also plays an integral part in mental and behavioural health struggles; certain conditions like schizophrenia and bipolar disorder have been shown to run in families. Environmental factors, such as living conditions, socioeconomic status and cultural expectations may also play a part. Family law solicitors have seen first-hand how family dynamics impact clients’ mental well-being.

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12 Books & Courses For Managing Anxiety

I wanted to write a list of great books by people who’ve found creative ways to manage their anxiety levels. In addition to this, I will also be letting you know about some courses which are geared towards wellness.

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Shall we dive into the list of great resources to help you with managing anxiety?

Education – courses for managing anxiety

Charlotte Lewington

Charlotte is a bestselling co-author, educator and consultant helping children and young people to
find their voice, be seen and feel validated. There is nothing she is more passionate about than
making sure children know that they are loved and love themselves from the inside out. During her
own childhood, Charlotte faced many struggles that only made her stronger. Through these
experiences, she learnt that you can either sit down and cry about things or you get up and you move
on. Learning the lesson being shown to you.

After 16 years of experience within different health and childcare settings, Charlotte gained a degree
in psychology and is currently working towards a master’s degree in children and young people. Charlotte spends most of her time delivering training to nurseries, schools and organisations offering
workshops and retreats relating to emotional well-being.

Her mission is to provide support in order to bridge the gap with the mental health crisis that we are
currently experiencing.
In between all this, you will often find charlotte travelling the world and making the most out of life.

You can view and purchase all of her courses on Udemy UK.

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Please head over and check out her Facebook group – Children’s Mental Health Support for Parents & Educators | Facebook

She also offers

1-2-1 support sessions if anyone is feeling lost or finding the queen’s death a trigger. For anyone finding it challenging with children going back to school or children managing anxiety about anything, parents or carers can book a call. She is also currently looking for people to be involved in a book collaboration.

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I recently wrote about how important it is to nurture a business-minded child. And more importantly, teach essential life skills that are usually lacking in the mainstream school system. You can check out the full blog post here.

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Centre Of Excellence

Centre Of Excellence has a range of courses related to managing anxiety, wellness and alternative therapies.

Here are just some of the courses on offer…

Anxiety Management Diploma Course

Dealing With Depression Diploma Course

Mindful Mental Health Diploma Course

Yoga Diploma Course

Head over and check out all of their amazing learning resources. Maybe you want to buy the gift of learning for a loved one or friend this holiday season. You know someone who is currently managing anxiety and needs some assistance.

Books for managing anxiety

You can check out my page, dedicated to all things books! Feel free to browse the other book-related posts on my blog

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Rachel Ann Cullen’s book, Running for Our Lives

My thoughts

Running For Our Lives is about how running helps people overcome life challenges and mental health struggles. It touches upon how it helped Rachel reclaim her identity after she became a mum. In addition, it contains human stories and experiences from ordinary people.

I knew this title would resonate with time on some level. But I was unprepared for how much I would feel an emotional connection to the stories. A literal pang in my heart because this journey of sharing our mental health struggles is also one I’ve been on myself. I couldn’t put this book down, thanks to honest writing. Not to mention, the sheer power of connection between human beings who have one shared cause. 

“It enables us to silence the chimp and write another story for ourselves – one where things become possible.”

Running For Our Lives

“These are people who have chosen to live fiercely and to be fully alive. They are no longer content with the alternative.”

Running For Our Lives

“mental illness is not concerned with rational thought. It will eat you up regardless.”

Running For Our Lives

“Perhaps it is you seeing the tiniest chink of light in a very dark place, discovering that you have a new friend in the world – one whom you have never met.”

Running For Our Lives

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Sara Barnes’ book, The Cold Fix

The Cold Fix is about the healing power of cold water immersion in overcoming physical and mental pain. Or anguish including osteoarthritis, seasonal sadness, migraines, alcoholism and overthinking. It’s about growing older and exploring new opportunities; menopause, body image and confidence.

My thoughts

When reading the book, my initial thought was that I was intrigued as to why people do this and I find it fascinating that such an extreme activity can help someone mentally.

I particularly like the sensory and meditative experience which comes with this technique. It feels similar to how I probably feel when doing meditation.

“Coming here on my own had indeed added a risk factor, but it had also motivated and driven me to climb, literally, out of my comfort zone and rediscover a world that had been out of my reach for too long”

Sara Barnes’ book, The Cold Fix

“The cold water has given me the key to unlock myself within a place I didn’t know existed: the community of cold-water swimmers right around the world. What binds us all together is the cold and how it makes us feel: brave enough to tackle even the toughest of life’s issues.”

Sara Barnes’ book, The Cold Fix

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Jo Moseley’s Stand-up Paddleboarding in Great Britain

Stand Up Paddleboarding is a guide to paddle boarding. However, Jo explains the sport has got her through grief, anxiety and empty nesting. It’s brought her identity back outside her roles as a mother, daughter, sister, and friend. And her commitment to the environment has strengthened. Back in 2019, she became the first woman aged 54 to stand up paddleboard coast to coast across northern England. Picking up litter and raising money for environmental charities.

My thoughts

The most striking thing about this book is the great images of places to visit. You feel transported there, and it’s wonderful. You are experiencing an adventure alongside reading about Jo’s story. There is a real variation in locations across the UK and I was glad to see some near where we live. It also makes me want to visit the places I haven’t visited and take in the scenery for myself.

The book also includes practical tips on how to get started, if you’re interested in starting your stand-up paddle-boarding journey

“A chance to walk on water, and I hope, appreciate that we all belong there too.”

Jo Moseley’s Stand-up Paddleboarding in Great Britain

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Michael Waters

You may remember me including Michael Waters in a previous blog post.

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Recent projects

He has recently been writing for some projects, aiming to help young people with their mental health. If you follow my blog, you will know I am totally on board with this. The current cost of living situation we are facing in the UK is only going to increase mental health problems among young people. Ultimately, it is up to us to raise awareness.

One is about how becoming guise-wise can really help reduce the mental health issues of young people (and not so young!)

Why? Because so many are the result of comparing ourselves to others, often obsessively,
and to a disproportionate emphasis on relatively minor or very specific but not all-defining
differences. Young people are especially prone to these practices.
Supposing I’m a teenager preoccupied with my gender identity. Maybe I suspect I’m
different in this respect from most of my friends. At one time, gender identity was not an
issue for all but a tiny number of kids. Now it’s an issue for a lot, but that’s not the main
point. The main point is that if I am a teenager with gender identity concerns then part of
that will involve placing myself on a spectrum of gender gradations. I’m defining myself by
what I am not and I’m probably defining my whole self primarily in terms of gender identity
markers. This means that I’m not foregrounding all the many things I share with my peers –
other aspects of identity, beliefs, preferences, interests and hosts of others that I share with
everybody on the planet. Rather, I’m over-focusing on one thing that’s distinctive about me,
one particular difference.

Becoming-Guise-Wise:
How to dissolve the mental health issues of the young – Dr Michael Waters

The other is about making commonality-first, not difference-first how we should best respond to others – this would be the best legacy for the Queen since this is what she did in her life

She experienced diversity, more than anyone who has ever lived. No one else has been up as close and personal to such a variety of individuals in such a variety of settings. No one else has had more first-hand experience of as many different social and cultural groups. Who else has made official visits to over 117 countries and carried out over 21,000 official engagements, to say nothing of walkabouts and other unscripted exchanges? It’s also clear that she cared deeply for many of those to whom the word “diversity” is usually applied – minorities and the marginalised.

The Queen’s Legacy: Commonality-First – Dr Michael Waters

Workbooks for managing anxiety

I had to share the workbooks that personally helped me with managing anxiety, during the down periods in my life. I still have these on the shelf by my workspace. They proved to be so beneficial in my time of need.

My Bookshelf at home

Final thoughts

I hope you found these tools for managing helpful anxiety. Maybe a book you want to purchase something for yourself or a loved one?

Let me know your favourite book or course – I would love to hear from you in the comments.

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How to Explore Emotions With Your Toddler

It is a proven fact, that the early years of our lives shape who we are and how well we cope with challenges in adult life. A traumatic experience in childhood can have lasting effects. Exploring emotions is vital.

All human beings have emotions. They start to develop at an early age, often when toddlers don’t really understand what they are yet. The common one in our house at the moment is missing other people. This involves a daily conversation filled with reassurance, that everyone misses the people they love.

Because toddler emotions are a challenge I currently face. And I know other parents definitely go through this cycle, I wanted to write a post dedicated to the best stories I could find, discussing children’s emotions.

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Let’s look at the research into why we should explore emotions

Why emotions are important

Understanding children’s emotions are critical to understanding their behaviour. Early years children feel a range of emotions, but often cannot express, interpret or process them like us.

With poor emotional skills, it could be harder for children to learn:

  • acceptance
  • resilience
  • confidence and control
  • how to articulate experiences
  • a sense of identity
  • empathy
  • a sense of self

What Is Social and Emotional Development

Children grow and develop rapidly in their first five years across the four main areas of development. These areas are motor (physical), communication and language, cognitive, social and emotional.
 
Social and emotional development means how children start to understand who they are, what they are feeling and what to expect when interacting with others. It is the development of being able to:

  • Form and sustain positive relationships.
  • Experience, manage and express emotions.
  • Explore and engage with the environment.

Positive social and emotional development is important. This development influences a child’s self-confidence, empathy, the ability to develop meaningful and lasting friendships and partnerships, and a sense of importance and value to those around them. Children’s social and emotional development also influences all other areas of development.

Parents and caregivers play the biggest role in social/emotional development because they offer the most consistent relationships for their children. Consistent experiences with family members, teachers and other adults help children learn about relationships and explore emotions in predictable interactions.

To nurture your child’s social and emotional development, it is important that you engage in quality interactions like these on a daily basis, depending on the age of your child:

  • Be affectionate and nurturing: hold, comfort, talk and sing with your baby, toddler and child.
  • Help your baby experience joy in “give-and-take” relationships by playing games like “peek-a-boo.”
  • Provide your toddler with responsive care, letting them practice new skills while still providing hands-on help.
  • Support your child’s developing skills; help him/her, but don’t do everything for your child, even if it takes longer or is messy.
  • Teach social and emotional skills, such as taking turns, listening and resolving conflict.

What happens if we don’t manage emotions

One of the most important ways parents or guardians can help is by listening to their children and taking their feelings seriously. They may want a hug, they may want you to help them change something or they may want practical help.

Children and young people’s negative feelings usually pass. However, it’s a good idea to get help if your child is distressed for a long time if their feelings are stopping them from getting on with their lives, if their distress is disrupting family life or if they are repeatedly behaving in ways you wouldn’t expect at their age.

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Let’s dive into the list of stories that explore emotions with toddlers and children

Explore Emotions

What’s Troubling Tawny?

What’s Troubling Tawny? The award-winning second book in the Sumatran Trilogy! Tawny longs to make friends with another rhino, but her shyness holds her back. When she meets a hornbill called Tallulah, she is surprised to learn that she has a lot in common with the beautiful bird.

The Problem With Poppy

Poppy the porcupine has always wanted to make a friend, but her defensive nature prevents her. When a young tiger cub stumbles upon her one day in the rainforest, she reacts badly and scares him away.

Determined to change her ways, she sets out to find him, but little does she know that the tiger cub is about to have a problem of his own. In the face of danger, will Poppy find a way to save the day?

The Problem with Poppy is the award-winning debut picture book by British author Emma Sandford. Illustrated by Ukrainian artist Olena Osadcha.

Sarah’s Shadow

If you could change something about yourself, would you do it?

When Sarah Simpkins is teased about her shadow in the school playground, she finds herself wishing she didn’t have one.

That night she has the chance to make the wish come true. But will losing her shadow really make her happy?

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Let’s Be Friends Again

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Kids World Books – Sibling fights, tantrums and subsequent bonding is the theme of this story.

The story is narrated by a boy and he narrates rather than shares his experiences with his sister. The boy and the girl play together. They spend most of their leisure time together. Just like every sibling, they fight often and bond subsequently.

The boy finds some trouble with his sister. The boy sometimes babysits for his sister and she used to trouble him! However, she was a good listener and the boy used to tell some great stories. The boy refused to share his toys with her. Yet, the smart girl used to grab all her brother’s toys. The tantrum began when the girl played with his brother’s pet turtle!

The girl thought that the tank where the pet turtle was kept was too small for the turtle. She carried it to the pond and let it free in the pond.

The boy was as angry as he lost his pet turtle. He showed his anger in many ways. He shouted at her. He threw away his toys and kept on thinking about his turtle. His parents supported his sister. He planned to avenge the loss of his pet and imagined many things. (This is definitely a fun part that everyone would die laughing).

He couldn’t sleep for hours thinking about the pet. He then saw his sister playing in the garden so happy like never before. The boy was surprised as well as very angry seeing her sister happy.

He made a decision! What was that?

Let’s be friends again, the lovable brother and sister, their cute fights, rivalry, etc are narrated beautifully. It happens very commonly in every household.

Children and young people are still developing – they don’t have adult brains or bodies, so need help to understand and manage their emotions.

You’ve probably heard your parents or grandparents say “they’re just attention seeking” or “they’re being difficult”. But there’s usually more to it than this.

We often ask people who contact Children 1st Parentline: “What is your child trying to tell you when they’re acting like that?” Looked at this way, unwanted behaviour is usually about a child needing something – or their way of trying to work out how to manage something.

From a toddler’s need for comfort to a teenager’s conflicting desires for independence and security, testing behaviour is common and is often set off by everyday experiences rather than big events.

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When Worley gets Brave

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Jodi also thinks the book will come just at the right time for children who have had to shut themselves away all year and might be scared to try something new.

She added: “It is a lovely story for 4–7-year-olds about taking yourself out of your comfort zone to try new things.

“Worley’s story is a fab way to engage children with these cute little monsters and learn how to develop their confidence.

“The book also included suggested activities for parent and adult readers.

“I’m also now writing my second story for the series about Worley and Co!

When Worley gets Angry

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How to teach children how to deal with anger, through the character of Worley and his friends.

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She has produced books – which tell the story of very special monsters who face different emotions – in her efforts to help children talk about their feelings.

“Having suffered quite a bit as a kid – I lost my dad at 10 and my best friend at 14 – and had a lot of bullying and not nice things going on and I didn’t know how to cope,” she explained.

“That had a massive effect on me as an adult which led to a breakdown. I don’t want kids to go through what I did. The more people I can teach and I can help the better. I don’t think I would have had as big a meltdown if I already had tools to use.

“My characters are all monsters – I have a whole tribe of emotions monsters that teach children about emotions. Worley is the main one and he meets his friends with different emotions.

“The first one was teaching him to be brave and through the monster, you learn you might make a mistake but it will be fine. He realises he doesn’t need to be the best at everything.

“The second book is about anger. The book is written as a rhyme; basically, Worley gets angry and doesn’t know what it is. His friend George, the angry monster, teaches him it is ok to be angry and how to manage it.

“It is done in quite a fun way so children can understand.”

Explore Emotions

Buster Finds His Beat

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Buster Finds His Beat

A feel-good story about an autistic boy,
That will capture your imagination and fill you with joy.

Buster uses ear defenders to soften sounds he hears,
Find out what happens when he faces his fears…

Pick up your copy, you’ll be in for a treat,
As he uses the power of sound to find his own beat.

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Hector

The first book in a new rhyming picture book series from D.M. Mullan and Kirsteen Harris Jones – welcome to D.M. Mullan’s Curious Tales… Hector van Groat If something is missing, and you’re feeling blue, you could learn from Hector, who feels this way too. This little genius lives in an upside-down boat, and he grunts from his hill like a grumpy old goat. “Hector van Groat needs no one but Hector because he is a genius, a crazy inventor”.

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Where Is My Smile?

A beautifully illustrated picture book about mental health for young readers. Where Is My Smile? is the story of a little boy who can’t find his smile anywhere. He searches and searches, but it’s nowhere to be found. Where could his smile be? This delightful picture book is perfect as a bedtime story, and to help little children understand that it’s okay to be sad sometimes, but we can always find our way through it.

Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed reading my list of books to inspire conversations with your toddler about emotions.

Do you have any of these books? Or will you be purchasing them? What techniques do you use to explore emotions?

I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

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Box of Wishes Advent Calendar

Buy for £55 Worth £89.50

Launching 18th September

Small in size but packed full of treats – the Box of Wishes Advent Calendar contains skincare, face masks and beauty tools. Hydrate with our Shower Gel before nourishing your skin with our Body Butter infused with Community Fair Trade Mango Seed Oil from India.

This calendar celebrates the women of Chhattisgarh, India, and through our Mango Seed Oil, we continue to support them with job prospects and opportunities for independence.

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What’s included?

STRAWBERRY SHOWER GEL 60ML
BRITISH ROSE HAND CREAM 30ML
RASPBERRY BORN LIPPY 10ML
MINI RAMIE BATH LILY
BRITISH ROSE SHOWER GEL 60ML
TEA TREE FACE WASH 60ML
SATSUMA SOAP 100G
MANGO BODY BUTTER 50ML
SHEA HAND BALM 10ML
VITAMIN C SHEET MASK 18ML
SHEA SHAMPOO 60ML
SHEA CONDITIONER 60ML
PINK GRAPEFRUIT SHOWER GEL 60ML
STRAWBERRY LIP BUTTER 10ML
MANGO SHOWER GEL 60ML
HIMALAYAN CHARCOAL MASK 15ML
HAIR CLAW
ALMOND MILK SHOWER CREAM 60ML BRITISH ROSE SHOWER SCRUB 50ML
VITAMIN E SHEET MASK 18ML
SHEA SOAP 100G
STRAWBERRY HAND CREAM 30ML
AVOCADO SHOWER CREAM 60ML
ALMOND MILK BODY BUTTER 50ML

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What’s included?

AVOCADO SHOWER CREAM 250ML
CAMOMILE CLEANSING BUTTER 20ML
EDELWEISS LIQUID PEEL 100ML
MANGO HAND BALM 30ML
BOOST HAND WASH 250ML
MORINGA SHAMPOO 250ML
STRAWBERRY LIP BUTTER 10ML
RAMIE BATH LILY
MORINGA CONDITIONER 250ML
VITAMIN E HYDRATING TONER 250ML
VITAMIN E SHEET MASK 18ML
MANGO BATH BLEND 250ML
BRITISH ROSE BODY YOGURT 200ML
ALMOND MILK LIP CARE STICK 4.2G
PINK CLAY FACIAL KONJAC SPONGE
HIMALAYAN CHARCOAL MASK 15ML
PINK GRAPEFRUIT SHOWER GEL 250ML
MANGO BODY SCRUB 50ML
AVOCADO LOTION TO OIL 200ML
BRITISH ROSE FACIAL MASK 15ML
ALMOND MILK HAND BALM 30ML
EDELWEISS SHEET MASK 21ML
HIMALAYAN CHARCOAL NIGHT PEEL 30ML
SHEA BODY BUTTER 200ML
SLEEP PILLOW MIST 100ML

Final Thoughts

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